I have a younger brother who is still in primary school. I am the only one who studies at home, so it falls on my shoulders to help my brother with his homework. Every time I help my brother with his homework, I get a headache. As soon as he got home, he dragged his feet and didn't want to do his homework Then I yelled at him and told him to write quickly. I finally opened my homework. After writing two words, I began to play with the eraser, clasp my hands and go to the toilet. I just don't write carefully and yell at him every time. Encourage him to do his homework quickly with some rewards and urge him to do his homework in different ways every day. Later, the situation was much better, and I also developed a good habit of playing after finishing my homework, so I would like to share with you some methods I summarized in the process of tutoring my brother.
It's useless for parents to make a hullabaloo about or scold their children for their delay in homework. To suit the remedy to the case, find out the root cause of his procrastination, and then analyze the reasons and find a solution.
Why do children dawdle when doing their homework? To sum up, there are three reasons: (1) is easily disturbed by the environment, and the attention is not concentrated; (2) Children feel that homework is too much or too difficult and are afraid of difficulties; (3) Children lack time concept and time management ability. In view of these three reasons, we give corresponding suggestions and methods to solve children's delay in doing homework.
First, vulnerable to environmental interference, inattention.
Generally speaking, the concentration time of children aged 3-6 is 10- 15 minutes; For children aged 7- 10, the concentration time is about 20 minutes; /kloc-children over 0/0 can concentrate for more than 30 minutes, with individual differences. Therefore, it is normal for a child to be distracted or do some little tricks during the process of writing homework. We don't have to worry too much, as long as he is not often distracted. Compared with concentration, most children are easily distracted in the process of doing homework, but there are too many environmental interference factors. Children are more easily disturbed than adults.
Because children are easily influenced by the environment, we should create a good learning environment for them, which will help cultivate their study habits. Parents are advised to start from two aspects, one is the physical environment and the other is the behavioral environment.
1, adjust the physical environment
The room where children study should be as simple and quiet as possible. Too many elements easily distract children. Especially children's desks, extra stationery such as erasers and pencils should be taken away, and toys or extracurricular books should not be placed; The furnishings of the room should be neat and orderly, and the study area and the information area should be divided. The study area is a place to read books and do homework, and the material area is a place to put books and toys. A clean and simple learning environment can greatly reduce the possibility of children being distracted.
2. Adjust the behavior environment
Behavior environment mainly refers to the behavior of parents and other family members. Parents and other family members should try to avoid communicating with their children when they are doing their homework. In the process of accompanying children to write homework, we should pay more attention to observation and remind them in time to avoid talking to children and disturbing them when they concentrate on writing homework.
Of course, examples speak louder than words. A good family atmosphere and the influence of parents' role models on weekdays are also important for children. Parents have a sense of rhythm and purpose, and children are not easy to delay. If parents are very focused on their work and study, their children's learning efficiency is usually higher. We can never give others what we don't have What kind of children do you want to raise? Please be such a parent first, and be an example of children's words, deeds and values.
Second, children feel that homework is too much or too difficult, and they are afraid of difficulties.
Through observation and understanding, we find that children procrastinate because they feel that their homework is too much or too difficult. What we need to do is to help children overcome their fear of difficulties, reduce the pressure of homework and enable them to take action.
1. Explain knowledge to children.
He thinks the homework is too difficult, which may be because the teacher didn't understand it in class. Parents can help their children reorganize the knowledge in textbooks in difficult places, or explain the idea of doing problems to him, so it will be much easier for him to start doing problems after he has mastered the knowledge. Then, after the child solves a problem, parents should give a timely response, "Baby, that's brilliant" and "Baby is great, that's right", and use these praises to motivate him and make him feel.
2. Do only one thing at a time, and try to reduce the repeated switching between subjects.
Many times, children are not very disciplined in doing their homework. They write English for a while, Chinese for a while, and English for a while, which virtually increases the frequency of switching and makes it easier to distract attention. Therefore, when arranging the homework sequence, in addition to the above-mentioned principle of easy before difficult, it is suggested to complete all the homework in one subject as far as possible before doing another. This will help children think more deeply about what they have learned.
The discipline order of each assignment can also be basically fixed. For example, if children like math, they can form the habit of doing math first and then doing the next subject after finishing it. Determining the order of subjects can form an inertia and give children a sense of certainty and control. The so-called "habit becomes nature", slowly, children can finish their homework naturally.
Third, children have no concept of time and lack time management ability.
Many times, children are not unwilling to do their homework. But there is no concept of time. I said 10 minutes was fun, and I lost track of time while playing. Half an hour passed quickly.
1. Establish regular work and rest habits
In view of this situation, my first suggestion to my parents is to establish regular work and rest habits and try to fix the daily routine. Then put off the bedtime and arrange the time from school to bedtime.
Children's irregular schedules can lead to a vague concept of time. For example, without a relatively fixed sleeping time, children can't use this time to arrange homework and activities backwards: it doesn't matter if they do it slowly anyway, just stay up late. Take a rest when you go home from school, but what time is it? Maybe it's seven or eight after dinner.
There must be clear time nodes in the key links of daily life, otherwise time management will be impossible. Therefore, we should help children to establish regular work and rest habits.
2. Do your homework first, then move freely.
When I say do your homework first, I don't mean to put down your schoolbag and start doing your homework immediately after school. Children can also drink some water first and have a rest, but not for too long. Never turn on the TV for a while and play games for a while, which will easily make children excited, addicted and unable to stop.
Do your homework before you play, which is also a basic principle of time management: do what you have to do first. This arrangement, first, the time to write homework is more controllable; Second, children can have fun after finishing their homework. To a certain extent, in order to have more free time, children will try their best to improve their homework efficiency. Of course, we should also remind them of the quality of their homework.
3. Use pomodoro technique to improve the concentration and efficiency of homework.
"pomodoro technique" is a very classic time management method, and many people may have heard of it and used it. Its core operation method is to use the tomato clock as a timer and set a "tomato time". For adults, 25 minutes is generally recommended. During the "tomato time", you must concentrate on your work, and you are not allowed to do anything unrelated to the task halfway until the tomato bell rings, take a break, and then enter the next tomato time.
It is very effective to use pomodoro technique to manage children's homework time. However, in the process of use, we should pay attention to the following points: First, we can flexibly set the "tomato time" according to the child's concentration time. For example, for children in the first grade of primary school, it can be set to 15 minutes; For children in the upper grades of primary school, it can be set to 20 minutes; Secondly, we should work with our children to determine the amount of tasks that match the set cycle. At this time, we can take a small task disassembled by "list method" as the task quantity of a tomato time. Then, after a tomato cycle, rest for 5- 10 minutes, and then enter the next tomato time. Every four tomato breaks, you can have a rest.
We can regard pomodoro technique as a game and a challenge to stimulate children's interest. When children finish a tomato time, it will be better to give encouragement and affirmation in time.
Children's procrastination is often not caused by a single reason. So in practice, we can combine these methods.
At the end of the article, I want to emphasize with my parents that any child's progress and growth cannot be separated from their parents' encouragement. To change children's procrastination, parents need to follow a principle: to be supporters of children, not managers.
The manager will only ask you how to do it, and everything depends on the result. Good education is constructive. When children make progress, give them "objective and concrete" encouragement in time to help them consolidate the achievements of progress; When children do badly, don't criticize and scold them too much, and don't impose your own ideas on them. For children above grade three or four, parents should try their best to let the children make their own decisions and strengthen their sense of control over things, which will be more helpful to stimulate their motivation.