Cultivate without teaching, let it develop.

Family is a child's first class, and parents are a child's first teacher, which shows the importance of family education. China's parents go to extremes, either overindulging or letting themselves go. With the high economic level and the fast pace of life, parents are indifferent to their children's education, regardless of whether they ask or not; Even some families have broken down, causing physical and mental trauma to children. This kind of laissez-faire education will often make children lose their motivation and direction, go astray and create conditions for children to go astray. Children who grow up under this kind of education are free, tired of learning and emotional, which also contributes to the rise of juvenile crime rate. When parents feel that they are busy with work, they can't give their children more energy or emotional troubles, and they feel guilty about their children, it is easy to use money to meet their children's needs. Don't you know that this kind of behavior accelerates the child to go astray? "Raise without teaching, let it drift", poor child.

(2) Exchange of respect and independence

Primary school is the best stage of parent-child relationship. At this stage, children still depend on their parents for everything. If children are educated by their parents' narrow ideas from an early age, they will trust and rely on their parents too much. In particular, China's educational model is not very scientific for children's education from childhood. After junior high school, with the growth of age and the broadening of knowledge, many concepts have broken the parents' previous statements, and the sense of mystery and blind obedience no longer exists. Coupled with the arrival of adolescence, children of this age belong to the scope of adults, and their hearts are immature and lack of family communication, mostly because they don't respect their children, their parents can't let go of their shelves, their psychological words, surfing the Internet and puppy love. Children find ways to talk in other ways. However, it is extremely unscientific for parents to interfere with the excessive communication between children and the opposite sex, which will only make the parent-child relationship more rigid and cause irreparable cracks.

(3) A dutiful son is born under the stick.

This type of parents believe that educating children must believe that "talent can't be beaten" and "filial son comes out under the stick" and turn full love into unrestrained strictness. The child is a little out of line, fighting wildly. In the long run, children are timid and highly nervous. Survey data show that 60. 9% children have been beaten at home, and 84% children have been scolded at home. Amazing data show that it is common for children to be beaten and scolded by their parents. Children who are often beaten and scolded are characterized by a serious lack of confidence. Parents' abuse also breeds children's violent tendency, which leads to children's personality distortion and physical and mental damage. The process of children's growth is a process from ignorance to knowledge, from naivety to maturity. Parents should learn to accept and tolerate their children's shortcomings and deficiencies, so that children can understand the truth of being a man and naturally act according to the rules.

(d) High expectations and low responsibilities push education to schools and teachers.

Nowadays, many parents of students have no time to take care of their children, but they have high hopes for them, so they put the heavy responsibility of educating their children on schools and teachers and put high demands on teachers. These parents generally only meet the material needs of students, pay attention to their academic performance, and often ignore the actual situation of students. In fact, parents' education is often an important starter for children's progress. Blindly demanding children is very unfavorable to the development of students. Faced with the pressure of continuing education, children are burdened with mental burdens prematurely. Overwhelmed, it is easy to cause suicide. In social education, school education and family education, family education should be the foundation.