1, find out the facts. It is necessary to know what mistakes the child made, how the teacher criticized it, and how the child's attitude was.
2. Properly handle it. If the teacher's criticism is right and the child can't figure it out for a while, parents should not "force the cow to drink water". They can put it off for a while, give their children some time to think, help them analyze the causes and harm of their mistakes, and educate them to correctly understand the teacher's criticism. The teacher's criticism is wrong. Parents don't have to blindly protect the teacher's dignity and force their children to apologize to the teacher, otherwise it will hurt their self-esteem. You can't drag your child to the teacher to judge if you find that the teacher is wrong, or even blame the teacher in front of the child, otherwise it will affect the teacher-student relationship and be detrimental to the child's education. When parents find that the teacher is wrong, they should educate their children to understand the difficulties of the teacher's work, understand the starting point of the teacher's criticism, be broad-minded and stand up to being misunderstood and wronged. At the same time, you can contact the teacher in time, exchange opinions and reach an agreement.
3. Seize the opportunity. When children are criticized at school, parents can't take an indifferent attitude. They should seize the opportunity to cooperate with teachers to educate their children.
Good parents, good family education
Chapter 1 Family education is of little significance.
Folk customs and social customs all start from family customs. The key is that all families should guide their children correctly, not only to "educate" but also to "teach" and "educate". Children who grow up in tolerance learn to be patient; Encourage growing children to learn to be confident; Children who grow up in praise learn to appreciate; Children who grow up in fairness learn integrity; Support children to grow up and learn to trust; Children who grow up in recognition learn to love themselves. ...
Family is the first dye vat.
Zhang Miao is a lively girl, 4 years old, and her mother is going to start teaching her to read and write. However, some colleagues advised her that children were educated after school. Before going to school, the main thing is to raise the children well, let them eat well, dress well, not get sick, let them play casually, only raise and not teach. If you don't teach well, it will be even more difficult to educate after school. Zhang Miao's mother couldn't make up her mind and asked me if I should teach her children to read and write.
In fact, Zhang Miao's mother and her colleagues have a narrow understanding of family education, thinking that tutoring is reading. In fact, reading is only one aspect of intellectual education in family education.
The contents of family education include moral education, intellectual education, physical education, aesthetic education and labor education.
In fact, since Zhang Miao was born, her parents not only began to raise her, but also began to educate her.
Make her laugh with flowers and dolls. Isn't that aesthetic education? That's guiding her to like and appreciate beauty.
Let children say hello to grandparents. Isn't that moral education?
Tell the children that this is grass, that is a tree, that is an electric light, that is a star, and that is intellectual education.
Guide the child to practice turning over and crawling by himself, encourage her to stand up with the wall trembling, and teach her to learn to walk and walk. This is sports.
Teach children to eat, wash face and handkerchief with chopsticks; You teach her to feed her grandparents and wash dishes. This is labor education.
From the birth of a child, every family is carrying out family education. The difference is that some family education is conscious and planned, so the effect is good. Some family education is unconscious, blind and random, so the effect is poor.
Darwin advocated education from the day the baby was born. Many parents have made family education plans. Children from the same worker's family have similar parents' educational level and other qualities of adults, but there is a big gap as soon as children enter school. Jason's mother in our class has been patiently and systematically educating her children since they were one year old, so her daughter Jason is very good-looking, lively and cheerful, courageous in speaking and doing things, polite to people, persistent in doing things and more educated. Li Xiaohua speaks hesitatingly and doesn't want to be with other children. He likes to cry when he is in trouble. After careful investigation, it turns out that Xiaohua's mother is afraid of wronged her daughter, obedient to her children, and only pampers them without teaching them. She always thinks that education is a school matter.
In fact, the education you started at school is already a kind of re-education or secondary education.
In the early years of the Republic of China, Zhu Qinglan, the governor of Guangdong Province, personally wrote a book called Family Education during his tenure at 19 16, and published it with his own donation on 19 17, and distributed it to every household in Guangdong Province.
Zhu Qinglan believes that the family education of preschool children is the foundation of a person's life growth and is a "crucial thing". He vividly compared a person's three stages from birth to entering school at the age of six, entering school, leaving school and going to society to "three dye vats".
He said-
Children are born like snow-white silk. Living at home for six years is like the first dye vat. I have taught at home for six years and raised it for six years. It seems that the white silk is dyed red. When you enter the school and have a good teacher, you will add another layer to the red, which will naturally become bright red. In this world (society), even if you meet a bad friend or dye vat and want to hack him, his red foundation will not change for a while. If you meet a good friend again, it goes without saying that you will naturally become a real scarlet, a first-class good man. If you stay at home for six years, your parenting methods are not good. For example, Beth has been dyed black since she came out of Tanqueray, and there will be a good gentleman when she enters the school. If you want to make him popular, the black foundation will never be retired. Just barely added a layer of red to him, or half red and half black. If a student meets an unenthusiastic gentleman again, a bad friend and a bad dye vat in the world, adding black on a black background layer by layer, he will naturally become a black-and-blue villain who will never fade and never look back.
Zhu Qinglan asserted-
Silk is always white, just look at the first dyeing method. Everyone is born good, just look at the teaching methods at home before the age of 6. If you are willing to work hard in six years, you will be inexhaustible in the future.
Zhu Qinglan pays attention to the early family education of foreigners. He said-
Foreigners teach their sons, and everyone is willing to work hard in these six years. So when the son is 20 years old, everyone can stand up and parents don't have to worry about him. But we in China don't know the importance of family education, and we just let go of the crucial six years as children. It is said that children don't care, and it is not too late to teach when they are older. I don't know, when I came to Dalai, the foundation of children had been broken. Wasted a lot of tuition fees and made a lot of cattle and horses for nothing. I shut my parents in a coffin and closed my eyes. My son still couldn't stand it, and he didn't succeed.
He said to his parents very earnestly-
When children are young, you can teach them as you like. Teaching children is extremely important and easy. Isn't it strange that people don't teach when it is easy, but wait until they are old and difficult to teach, which is laborious and useless?
Think about it, Zhu Qinglan's metaphor of "home is like the first dyeing vat" is quite reasonable. Whether you realize it or not, from the day Zhang Miao was born, her parents began to educate her and dyed the snow-white silk white. In this case, parents should not wait for their children to go to school. Now, quickly dye your children with colors that children like, adults like and society needs!