Sister Hua's daughter Xiaomei is an out-and-out Yan controller. Xiaomei just entered the kindergarten class this year. There is a very beautiful girl in the class. Xiaomei is happy every time she sees her, and often likes to stick to her.

However, everyone likes beautiful girls. Students are always scrambling to play with her. Everyone likes to be with her when playing games. She is also the center of class performance. Everyone will share delicious snacks and favorite toys with her.

Beautiful girls are also very friendly and always blend in with everyone.

Xiaomei really wants to be friends with her, but she doesn't pay much attention to Xiaomei at all. Once, in an art class, a beautiful girl borrowed a brush from Xiaomei. Xiaomei was so happy that she lent it to her happily.

Later, when the beautiful girl returned the pen, Xiaomei waved her hand to show generosity. No need to return it. I have another set at home. Can I give this to you? Hearing this, the beautiful girl accepted it happily.

After that, beautiful girls have more opportunities to play with Xiaomei. In order to make this friendship last, Xiaomei will send some from time to time? A small gift? For girls, watercolor paints bought by mom, dolls bought by dad and even pocket money given by grandma will be given to her.

Girls accept? A gift? Became a habit and never said anything to refuse. But it's been a long time since there was a present? The effect is getting worse and worse, and girls spend less time with Xiaomei.

There is a new annoying male classmate in the class. It is said that his father is rich and everyone will surround him after class. Beautiful girls are also very concerned about him.

In order to attract the girl's attention again, Xiaomei decided to give the learning machine bought by her mother to the girl. Later, my sister came to China and asked Xiaomei if she had never used a learning machine again. Only then did I know that she had given it to her classmates.

Floret asked her why she wanted to give away such a valuable item. Xiaomei said? Only in this way will she play with me. ?

It is better to improve yourself than to maintain friendship by material things. Sister Hua didn't expect Xiaomei to have such an idea, because all the children around her are partners to play with, and Xiaomei has never been isolated. How can she make friends this time? Sister Hua realized that this girl is beautiful and very popular in the class.

It seems that whether adults or children, the pursuit of beautiful things does have to pay some price. It's just that this is not normal for children to make friends.

For people or things that are hard to find, nothing can last long if they rely on external material support rather than personal strength.

The feelings between children are particularly pure. If you like them, you will like them. If you don't like them, you won't pester them. If you have to please others with gifts, you can't get them, but it is easy for children to fall into the quagmire of inferiority.

People are the simplest and most complicated. Between people, just relying on personality, ability, and the power to communicate with others from the inside out is enough for the other party to appreciate.

Floret told Xiaomei: Since you can't get this friendship completely by giving gifts, why don't you try to improve yourself and make yourself better?

The inclusiveness of the world still exists. Good-looking people will be liked, and lovely people will be liked. If you just spend your energy chasing others, you might as well spend your time on yourself and make others like you. Wouldn't it be better?

Xiaomei still knows little about these words. She just thinks that the way to get friendship now is to give gifts, and she doesn't think she will be liked by others.

Floret said? Mom and dad love you, don't you think that's enough? ? Xiaomei said? This is different. I like good-looking people. ? Sister Hua felt that the conversation with Xiaomei could not continue.

In fact, what does Xiaomei do? Cheerful personality? . If you don't want your baby to become like this in the future, parents must teach the following things well, and it will be difficult to make up for it if it is late.

Let the children know? The truth? 1 method, tell the children? Give a gift? Will not get friendship.

Because children are always protected by their parents and don't understand hard-won things. A watercolor pen is nothing, and a notebook is nothing. If you can exchange these for something you like, the child is willing to exchange them.

Parents always take things from home when they see their children, so don't just scold them. This will have no other positive effects except making children feel that their parents are stingy.

Stop the kids? Give a gift? First, let the children know the meaning of the gift. You can ask them this question: Do you like your pen and notebook? If you like it, why give it away easily? ?

If you don't like it, how can you get the sincere love of others with something you don't care about at all? ? .

In short, parents should set an example to educate their children, friendship should be gained by personal ability, and your feelings and attitude towards others will be taken seriously by others.

Parents can also tell their children stories about friends and invite good friends to play together, so that she can feel the friendship between adults. Children's perception ability is very strong, and they can naturally feel true friendship.

2. Tell children how to get true friendship.

In the TV series Please Answer 1988, the mode of getting along between children should be a model of friendship. Whether you get along with the opposite sex or the same sex, as long as you treat each other sincerely, you can consolidate your feelings.

Azeri in the play should be regarded as the most beautiful existence. How do you get along with him? Although to outsiders, he is a Go genius, but to the guy who grew up with him, he is an ordinary person.

He can restore the Rubik's cube in a short time, but he can't even open the lid of yogurt. Deshan can't use the Rubik's cube, but she can easily open the lid of yogurt.

Friendship can complement each other, and everyone does not dislike each other, because they are good at different fields, and there is no question of who is excellent and who is incompetent. Only by treating them equally can we maintain true friendship.

In addition, when friends encounter difficulties, if they can be relieved in time, others are more likely to be grateful. Respecting everyone's choice is also an important principle in dealing with people.

3. What must I tell my children? Comfortable feeling?

Is it really worth pursuing what you have worked so hard to get? You can follow what you like. For example, adults will do whatever it takes to get plastic surgery for beauty. Some people are happy after plastic surgery, while others are unhappy.

Why unhappy people? They may think that only when they become good-looking can they be liked by others. But the fact is that plastic surgery sometimes doesn't necessarily get these things, so some people pay a huge price, not only making themselves uncomfortable, but also getting regret.

So is friendship. If you need to be very reluctant to get the attention of others, then you should consider whether this effort is worth it.

In this case, we need to change ourselves to get out of the predicament. Being a man, the most important thing is to be happy. If a relationship just makes you small and humble, but you can't get any true feelings, it is definitely not worth investing too much.

At this time, you can try to make other friends, feel comfortable and relaxed, and really feel the feedback from others, which is worth further efforts.

Don't let children become materialistic and give gifts to please others. Now even adults hate it. Efforts to improve and perfect yourself are an important basis for making excellent friends.

People should not only learn to give, but also be kind to themselves. Only when the two are balanced can we be happy in this world.