I have read the introduction of this book before, and I think I can write articles or special topics if I write it, but writing a book is really a bit difficult. But after reading the catalogue, I found that Mr. Fu was really good. With regard to the theme of "cultivating children's self-control", Mr. Fu Xiaoping made a scientific discussion and analysis on "self-control" from the perspective of children's developmental psychology, and expounded how to let children manage their emotions and behaviors, so as to sum up eight things for children to achieve self-control and ten things for parents to do well, so that children can achieve self-control better. So I admire Mr. Fu very much.

It took me a week to read the whole book carefully until February 7, and I felt a lot. I studied ideological and political education in college and have a certain understanding of pedagogy. Besides, I've always been interested in psychology. I have been a graduate student in psychology for two years, and I have learned a lot of basic knowledge of psychology in books. After reading this book, I found that Mr. Fu's reading range is wider than mine. I haven't read most of the psychology books he quoted, which really opened my eyes and gained a lot. I want to follow the map and find the book he quoted to read.

After reading the first three chapters, we can feel that Mr. Fu's research on cultivating children's self-control is very serious and in-depth. He not only read and referred to the theoretical knowledge of many psychological books, but also summed up many practical experiences and put forward many unique opinions of his own. In fact, just from the names and authors of the reference books listed in the explanation part, I think he is already great. His practice shows that he is a doctor who has undergone rigorous scientific research and training, and he has strictly explained and explained other people's writings and research contents, which makes me admire him very much. In these three chapters, Mr. Fu expounded many psychological viewpoints and research conclusions, solved many theoretical problems of cultivating children's self-control, that is, told parents about the psychological mechanism of cultivating self-control, and popularized a lot of basic knowledge of psychology.

Fu also combined with his own practical experience, summed up eight things for children to achieve self-management and ten things for parents to do in two chapters, so that children can better achieve self-control. These two aspects are actually complementary. The development of children's self-control tests the educational wisdom of parents. In order for children to manage themselves well and truly realize self-management, the premise is that parents should do their own things well and help children to internalize from external control to self-control. The eighteen experiences summarized by Teacher Fu are very rare. I saw it and liked it very much. If a parent can seriously understand and implement these experiences and methods, then his child will certainly grow into a person with strong self-control and good self-management ability.

I consider myself to have studied pedagogy and psychology. I have been engaged in editing educational magazines and children's books for more than ten years and have been a mother for more than ten years. I also have some thoughts and research on family education, but after reading four books by Fu Xiaoping, I really admire the teacher. I have always felt that reading is like reading a person. Thinking of some processes of knowing Mr. Fu two years ago, I was deeply impressed by what he had done in family education research.

20 12 was responsible for editing the parent-child reading supplement of a preschool education magazine "Rainbow Cat Lan Tu Happy Wisdom Fun Garden", so I registered an account on Sina Weibo and paid attention to many Weibo in parenting. I browse these Weibo contents almost every day, read a lot of valuable articles on parenting, and of course I find many authors through Weibo. I also met Mr. @ Fu Xiaoping V on Sina Weibo. At first, his fan base was not large, it seemed to be similar to mine, with only a few thousand people. I found that he didn't spend much time on Weibo, but he wrote very diligently and published many articles, which was very realistic. For some educational news, Mr. Fu also has his own unique views. I feel that Mr. Fu not only has profound theoretical foundation in parenting, but also can use theory to solve problems in practice. I look for such an author to write a manuscript. I look for the author. Although I only write short articles, I am also cautious and serious. I usually pay attention to and browse almost all of the author's Weibo content in advance, get a general understanding of the blogger's views on parenting, and think that his educational views and ideas are quite distinctive and individual, before inviting him to contribute. Although our magazine didn't have much influence at that time, and its circulation in the whole country was still very small, I tried to contact Mr. Fu privately and asked him to write an article at the beginning of our magazine, and Mr. Fu readily agreed.

20 12 at the end of September, I learned from Weibo that Mr. Fu happened to be on a business trip in Changsha. I'll contact him right away, hoping to meet him and talk to him about the magazine. In fact, there is absolutely no need for the editor to ask the author to write a manuscript. It can be made clear in all kinds of chat tools, but the author himself has come to Changsha, and he still wants to see it with his own eyes and talk in person. Find the hotel where Mr. Fu lives after work, and I'll wait for others to arrive at the hotel. I met Mr. Fu and his wife and daughter. I talked with Mr. Fu for about an hour and felt very good.

At that time, I also gave Mr. Fu two newly published magazines, Rainbow Cat Happy Wisdom and Fun Garden, just for his daughter to read. His daughter immediately looked at the magazine quietly. I think Mr. Fu is a very good tutor and loves reading. Teacher Fu's wife is also a gentle mother. When I was chatting with Teacher Fu, I pulled the child aside to read a book. I'm thinking that Fu's family should also be very harmonious and loving, and the children who come out of this family should also be educated and caring.

I know that Mr. Fu is a doctor, with profound theoretical foundation and excellent language organization ability. Writing a composition is really no problem. Sure enough, not long after Mr. Fu came back, he sent me an article "Let children be independent, starting with cultivating self-esteem". Because cultivating children's independence is a big topic, Mr. Fu elaborated it from the perspective of cultivating self-esteem, which is simple and refined. I just revised it slightly and issued a preface. Later, I saw that Teacher Fu published the book "Gently Pushing Children", only to know that Teacher Fu has a lot of research and experience in cultivating children's independence. I think, if I had known, I should have asked Mr. Fu to write a special topic.

Later, I have been paying attention to Mr. Fu's Weibo and blog, often seeing his articles, and occasionally contacting him, asking him to send a message about an expert who writes magazines. I have also seen the photos of teacher Fu's daughter and published them in the magazine's "Child Star DreamWorks" column. I also received books presented by Mr. Fu and written recommendations for his books. One day, Mr. Fu was embarrassed to tell me in a private letter from Weibo that his youngest son was born. How happy he is to have a pair of lovely children! Now I see a pair of pictures of children loving each other in his new book "Cultivating Children's Self-control". I am really happy for him. I read from Mr. Fu's articles and works that his personal research on family education is rigorous and knowledgeable, and I also learned his personality and enthusiasm through communication with Mr. Fu.

I have been an editor for more than ten years, and I always think that editors and authors are actually friends who appreciate each other, but also teachers and friends. Editors recognize and attach importance to the author's articles and ideas, and the author can also find his own value from the editor's recognition. The author's articles and books are edited, published and revised, which is recognized by readers. Both the author's value and the editor's value can be well reflected. I only published a few words of Mr. Fu, but I got a lot of his thoughts. I feel that I have learned a lot from Teacher Fu and benefited a lot. At this point, I thank my teacher.

In a short period of two years, Mr. Fu Xiaoping has published four books: Accompany Children to Kindergarten, Gently Push Children, Connect Young Children, and Cultivate Children's Self-control. I think this should be the result of his years of studying family education and accompanying his children to grow up together. In addition, he has received doctoral research training and studied many books on psychology and pedagogy, so it is natural to publish such books. I know that Mr. Fu has also set up a family education and training company and launched a "boy tribe" public micro-signal. I believe that Mr. Fu will play more influence and role in family education.