In life, many parents have a misunderstanding that educating their children means "speaking" and "training" their children. In northern China, there is a word-"scolding", which may come from "talking" children. Speaking of "criticism", some parents can do it to the extreme. They can talk in the morning and evening, and when they meet their children, they will tell them that they have behaved well and find fault with them. Say it before homework, say it when homework, say it after homework, and say it after homework; Say before the exam, say during the exam, say if you don't do well in the exam, and say you want high standards if you do well in the exam. Should parents make it easy for their children to accept their own preaching? We have no objection to preaching. Speaking is an important way to educate children. However, in order for children to accept preaching, it must be done that: 1 is reasonable. The truth is right, in line with the law of development of things and the reality of children. Speak forcefully. Words should not be dry and boring, but should conform to the age characteristics of children, be vivid and have practical examples. Get to the point, don't bother. Important content can be repeated, but not repeated. 4 is just the right time. You can't blindly say when there is an opportunity, but choose the right time. Children hate their parents to say it every day, regardless of the occasion. 5 is original. The most taboo is to answer back. No one likes to hear the same old story. It is said that there should be new content and new information to make children feel fresh. Doing these things is not so easy, and parents need to work hard. If you can't do it for a while, parents should stop talking and stop talking. According to my survey, it is impossible for many parents to talk less because they always believe in the power of talking more. In addition, parents who make concluding remarks and preach every day are by no means brilliant parents, nor will they be high-level parents. One of the key points of family education is "permeability". Children are members of the family and spend the most time with their parents. We educate our children everywhere. This "permeability" is mainly manifested in two aspects, one is to teach students according to the example, and the other is to teach students according to the situation. Words and deeds are to influence children with their own words and deeds and ask them to do what they want, and they must do it first. For example, if children are required to study hard, parents should actively seek knowledge. If children are only required not to read books, newspapers and learn new knowledge and technologies, their learning ability is not strong enough. There is a parent whose children have poor study habits. Since my mother went to an adult secondary school, the atmosphere at home has changed every night. The mother's spirit of studying hard under the lamp has infected the children, so there is no need to urge them as before. Sometimes my mother goes to bed late, and the children will take the initiative to accompany her to study. This is the power of example. Then, children are required to have good living habits, and parents should be strict with themselves, live on time, make the bed, clean the room and pay attention to hygiene. If parents often sleep late, leave things lying around, don't fold beds and lack sanitary habits, children will do as their parents do. There is a saying that is particularly good: "Children are the shadows of their parents." Others put it more directly: "Children are copies of their parents. "Although this statement is not 100% accurate, more than half of it is correct. With the foundation of example, coupled with rational, powerful and disciplined preaching, children will listen to their parents' education more. Environmental education is to give children a positive educational influence with a good family environment. What kind of family environment is conducive to children's education? First, the spiritual environment of the family mainly refers to the harmonious interpersonal relationship and harmonious atmosphere of the family. This includes the relationship between husband and wife, the relationship between elders and younger generations, and the relationship between relatives and friends. The relationship between husband and wife is dominant and affects other relationships. The basic factor to coordinate family relations is the construction of family virtues, and a family's friendship, respect, mutual assistance, understanding and sharing weal and woe are very important. Everyone is the master of the family and should bear their own responsibilities. They must pay what they should pay, and they should not be self-centered and selfish. A good family environment, children's physical and mental comfort, emotional stability, easy to cultivate a healthy personality, will also study hard. If the family conflicts are sharp, the husband and wife turn against each other, and the children are abnormal, the children will be in a bad environment and it will be difficult for them to grow up healthily. Second, the material environment of the family mainly refers to the frugality of the family's material life, which not only ensures basic or better living conditions, but also does not waste money. It is best for the whole family to keep a normal heart. Even if you have money at home, don't overspend, compare with others, and don't go into the misunderstanding of hedonism. Recently, an article was reprinted by several newspapers, with the title "No matter how rich you are, you have to suffer children". In fact, not only children who suffer, but also adults should keep the spirit of hard work. In a sense, environmental education is also an example. Family education must get rid of the misunderstanding of simple preaching, especially pay attention to example and environmental education. A good combination of the three is the basic condition for the success of educating children. (This article Source: Netease Parent-child)