1, cultivate children's good habits.

(1) Why should we pay attention to cultivating habits?

Childhood is a crucial period to cultivate good habits. When dozens of Nobel Prize winners got together, a reporter asked a Nobel Prize-winning scientist, "Where did you learn what you thought was the most important thing?" The scientist said calmly, "In kindergarten." "What did you learn in kindergarten?" "Learn to give your half to your friends; Don't take things that are not your own; Things should be placed neatly; Wash your hands before eating; Apologize for doing something wrong; Have a rest after lunch; Observe nature carefully. "

The scientist's unexpected answer directly shows that developing good habits in childhood is of decisive significance to a person's life.

Expert research shows that 3- 12 years old is the key period for people to form good behavior. /kloc-after 0/2 years old, children gradually form many habits, and it is much more difficult for new habits to take root. At present, some parents attach great importance to academic performance and try their best to cultivate their children's abilities in foreign languages, art and music, while ignoring the cultivation of habits. This is probably the biggest misunderstanding of some parents now.

(2) What habits should children cultivate?

1, civilized language habits-starting with polite expressions. Gorky said: "Language is the clothes of all things and thoughts". As modern parents, in the process of raising children, we should pay attention to educating children to learn polite language from the stage of learning English. For example, address adults correctly and say "thank you, please, I'm sorry" and other polite expressions. On the other hand, although children don't swear, they have a bad attitude and an impatient or even harsh tone. This is also a bad habit. Imagine that it is not harmonious for a person with civilized language to behave rudely, or to behave appropriately, but to speak badly. Therefore, parents should let their children learn to speak kindly, behave gracefully, be lively and generous, and form a good habit of being sincere and generous.

2. Collective consciousness-the behavior habit of getting along with others. People are social. After the child is one year old, there is more and more demand for partners. But for every child, how to get along with his partner is still an urgent subject for them to learn. Parents can consciously guide their children to associate with their partners in early education. Always take your children out of the house, get in touch with the outside world, give them a sense of collective honor, and encourage them to help others or do things for the collective. Although sometimes children's "help" may be ridiculous in the eyes of adults, don't dampen their enthusiasm.

3, work habits-let children start from their own clothes. At present, only-child families account for the vast majority. Modern parents often overprotect their children's upbringing, or do so anywhere in their children's lives. In this way, children may lose the opportunity to do things by themselves, and then lose the consciousness of doing things by themselves. Work habits are also behavioral habits that should be cultivated. For example, children should dress themselves, wear shoes, help fold clothes and collect toys. However, due to their young age and limited working ability, some parents think it is tantamount to helping. Some parents like to take their place and keep everything clean and tidy. As the saying goes, parents are capable and children are naive. Children lose the opportunity to learn and participate, and it is taken for granted that these should be done by parents. Gradually become dependent. Now some primary school students and even middle school students don't do any self-help work, thinking that "my task is to learn" and then don't cherish the fruits of labor; There are also some children whose self-care ability is extremely poor. Without their parents, they can't eat and wear well, which is the result of not forming good habits in the early days. It is worth mentioning that many parents, grandfathers and grandmothers send lunch boxes to their children in preschool classes, which is very bad. You haven't even cultivated the habit of feeding your children. What habits will you cultivate for your children?

4, health habits-an important part of physical and mental health. Modern families cultivate children's healthy habits in two aspects, one is healthy eating habits, and the other is good work and rest habits. It is necessary to pay attention to let children develop good eating hygiene habits from childhood, eat on time, do not overeat, eat less snacks, and do not have a partial eclipse. In particular, we should pay attention to cultivating children's healthy eating concept from an early age, so that children can develop good habits of eating well and balancing nutrition from an early age. Good eating habits will accompany children for life. The disorder of work and rest time is a misunderstanding of modern people's life, which will inevitably be influenced by children. Today's children have been exposed to TV and computers since infancy, and there are more opportunities to indulge in TV and computers in early childhood. Some children have been exposed to computers since they were 3 years old; Some children are full of energy, even on weekends and holidays, they go to bed late and get up late with their parents' life rhythm, which will make their children's body and mind not fully rested. Our school has set up a concierge, mainly to create a good learning environment for students, but many parents can't abide by the management of the concierge, don't force their way into the campus before class, and stand in the corridor of the classroom. Will this affect students' study? How can you educate your children to follow the school timetable when you can't follow it yourself? We won't let a non-school staff enter the campus next year.

5, study habits-let children benefit for life. Parents should not only attach importance to their children's early education, but also stimulate their children's interest in learning and reading, which is very beneficial to cultivate their good study habits. American education experts believe that if children's learning ability is not fully developed in pre-school stage, then children are likely to have low learning ability and can't keep up with the progress of school learning in the future.

There are also many habits. Parents can read books on early childhood education and determine the training content according to their children's situation.

(3) How to cultivate children's good habits.

The cultivation of habits begins with personal behavior training. The specific requirements are divided into three steps: first, let him know how to do it, then let him stick to it, and finally, stick to it.

For example, if you want your child to get into the habit of doing housework, you can let him look at the floor first, then tell him how to sweep, and then let him learn to sweep. After learning, try to arrange for him to sweep once a day (even if the ground is not dirty) and encourage him to sweep every time. When he doesn't want to sweep, someone will supervise him. After a week or two, he will get used to it. He will think that sweeping the floor is what he should do as long as he is allowed to do it.

2. Protect children's curiosity and self-esteem.

First of all, we must protect children's natural curiosity. Give support and encouragement to their questions, questions, explorations and even different opinions, and provide children with opportunities to express their curiosity and satisfy their curiosity.

For example, children often ask silly questions that make people laugh or stare. Why doesn't the moon sleep at night? Why doesn't the rooster lay eggs? Why don't boys and girls go to the same toilet? ..... In the face of these questions, if parents are noncommittal or even make fun of their children, then children will feel that they should not ask these questions, otherwise they will look silly. Slowly, children will bury these "stupid questions" in their hearts, so as not to be stupid, and even if they encounter questions they don't understand, they will hold back and ask them, thus obliterating curiosity.

Secondly, parents should use role models to stimulate their children's curiosity.

Parents should start from themselves, first of all, they should have great interest in the things around them, don't pretend to know everything in front of their children, and take the initiative to explore the problems they don't understand with their children, so that the children will maintain a strong curiosity about the things around them under the influence of their parents. You can also stimulate children's curiosity by telling stories about scientists.

Thirdly, we should guide children's curiosity through appropriate ways (such as asking questions and questioning). Parents and children can ask each other questions, which can force children to keep reading, broaden their horizons and enrich their knowledge. This way can satisfy children's thirst for knowledge and get great fun from it.

3. Learn to communicate with children.

(1) Understand and respect children. Being respected and cared for is one of people's basic psychological needs. When a person feels understood and respected, his heart is warm, safe and relaxed, without doubt and loneliness. Therefore, "understanding and respecting children" can effectively narrow the psychological distance between you and your children and narrow the "generation gap". (2) Tell your child how you really feel. When parents talk with their children, it is very important to accurately convey their inner thoughts and wishes, so that children can feel the care and goodwill contained in their parents' "criticism" and "education", which can reduce their resistance caused by their parents' "inappropriate words". (3) Learn to hug and whisper. There is an article in the fifth issue of "Parents Must Read" entitled "Have you ever hugged or whispered? The article says: In hugs, people can gain a sense of security and trust, which is a whole-hearted rest. Anxiety can be alleviated or calmed down. People are most rational when they are calm and psychologically stable. Whispering is more convincing and moving than expression at normal volume. As far as whispering gesture is concerned, it has shown a particularly close relationship between two people (4) Learn to listen. Communication between parents and children is very important, but in this kind of communication, we parents should also pay attention to one thing: talk less and listen more.

4. Strengthen the contact between home and school

Parents are the bridge between schools, teachers and children.

In the process of children's growth, schools and families are inseparable educators. School education needs the support of parents, and family education needs the scientific guidance of the school.

(1) The communication between parents and teachers should be timely and proactive.

Many parents think that their children are at school all day. If the school and teachers have any requirements and opinions for parents, just let the children know when they come back. In fact, this view is wrong and one-sided. It is impossible for a teacher to communicate with every parent according to the situation of every student. Students' own communication function is not in place. Therefore, parents must fully and practically realize the importance of combining family education with school education, and often contact teachers in a timely and active manner to have a heart-to-heart talk with children, so that on the one hand, they can give feedback to teachers about their children's situation at home and their opinions on teachers' education and teaching, and at the same time, they can cooperate with teachers to do a good job in children's education.

(2) Listen to children's performance in school sincerely and humbly, and reflect children's performance at home fairly and honestly. When talking to the teacher, you should respect the teacher and be sincere and humble. Specifically, first of all, we should listen to children's performance in school with an open mind, not only listening to teachers' praise for children, but also listening to teachers' criticism of children. You can't avoid medical treatment and protect your child's shortcomings. At the same time, if necessary, you should honestly reflect your child's performance at home, neither covering up your child's shortcomings nor hiding your child's advantages, so that the teacher can know your child as comprehensively as possible.

(3) It is necessary to fully listen to teachers' opinions, and properly adhere to their own correct judgments.

Every time parents talk to a teacher, they should determine the main topics of communication and the main aspects that need to be understood in advance, and consider their own handling opinions and solutions, so as to have a clear goal in communication, save time and achieve the best communication effect. When communicating with teachers, parents should not only fully listen to teachers' opinions, but also insist on their own correct judgment. We can't simply understand "cooperating with teachers" as "what teachers say and what parents do". If parents find that the teacher's knowledge is biased or the solution doesn't work, they can also exchange views openly with the teacher.

(4) Communicate with teachers in many ways.

Parents communicate with teachers. Considering that the teacher is busy at work, it is not necessary to go to the school for an interview. We can also use modern information technology to establish a platform for close communication between schools and families, teachers and parents through telephone, SMS and Internet. Some words are hard to say in person. With the help of these platforms, we may be able to solve problems more calmly and effectively, so as to better achieve the purpose of communication.

In short, for all children, for all children, for all children. Let's work together! ! !