The "soul torture" issued by this parent resonated with many parents: parents don't watch it, and they don't watch it themselves. They are afraid of missing any important information, but they often receive a bunch of useless information. A middle school teacher lamented that the problem between parents has become a social problem.
In real life, are the problems of parents' groups common? Why did it evolve into the fuse of family-school relationship and family contradiction? What kind of pressure do parents have, what kind of helplessness do teachers have, what are the deep-seated reasons behind them, and how to guide them to solve them?
Parents:
"Don't do it. After all, the child is in class. "
As a successful woman, Wang Li of Jinan, the provincial capital, often goes to major activities and works outside. But as her daughter entered the first grade, she looked a lot haggard because of the parents in her daughter's class.
"Most teachers assign homework through their parents. For example, there is a Chinese homework for students to write, but the child has just entered the first grade, so he doesn't know many words and can't spell Pinyin. I can only teach her one by one. It was already 10 pm when I finished my homework. I feel that my children are very hard and my parents are very tired. " Wang Li said helplessly that she didn't have time to do her own work until the child had washed and slept.
Wang Li introduced that for the completion of children's homework, teachers usually let parents knock on nails, and sometimes send children's reading videos to class groups.
(Homework assigned by Group One)
Wang Li's experience, her colleague Huang Fei feels the same.
In Huang Fei's view, the actions of this group of teachers are nothing more than to cause embarrassment to parents, but it is not enough for students to clean up after class. Why did you send this to your parents? "If there is no express stipulation that parents are not allowed to go to school to clean, the teacher group sent this picture, and parents would have gone to the classroom to sweep the floor."
Huang Fei believes that the parent group has "deteriorated".
Mr. Sun, a parent, said frankly that parents should help and sign in the parents' group, and parents must do the same. "After all, the child is at school, and your little moves may affect the child. Unless you go too far, most parents will muddle along. "
Liu Juan is the parent of a junior three student. She seldom speaks in the group, but she finds a strange phenomenon: apart from "receiving" what the teacher says, parents often follow up with some warm and perfect replies, which inevitably causes great pressure on themselves.
"Thank you, teacher, you have worked hard!"
"It is a blessing for children to have a teacher like you."
"You are no longer afraid of trouble."
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Looking at the news that parents were beaten, Liu Juan bluntly said that parents' enthusiasm was overwhelming. "As a parent, I can understand the teacher's hard work, but if there are many good words, it will become no nutrition. This not only makes parents like me feel pressure, but also easily misses important notices in the group. "
Teacher:
I don't want to be a shopkeeper, I just need more supervision from my parents.
The "stale" parent group not only brings a lot of trouble to parents, but also becomes a burden to teachers.
Mr. Liu, the principal of a primary school in Shandong, thinks it is wrong to ask parents to correct their homework. "Parents can supervise students to finish their homework. If they have time and ability, they can also check the accuracy and writing of their children's homework, but they can't let parents correct their homework instead of teachers. "
"If parents are allowed to correct homework, teachers will not be able to fully grasp the children's learning situation and adjust teaching in time, which will also increase the burden on parents. Especially for senior parents, they may not necessarily coach or even make mistakes in counseling. " Teacher Liu also said that sometimes there will be situations that individual parents don't understand when communicating on WeChat, and the teacher is very helpless. "Some teachers give up their rest time and want to use their spare time in the evening to give classes to students online. Individual parents reprimanded the teacher for' not attending classes during the day and making up classes at night'. "
Teacher Zhang, the head teacher of a primary school, has also met with parents' dissatisfaction.
"On one occasion, a teacher in the class sent homework to the group late because of illness. As a result, parents complain, sometimes it is really helpless. " Worried that parents will become "praise groups", Teacher Zhang usually says "Please don't reply" after sending messages in the group, and usually tells them directly when there are important notices that need to be answered.
"As a teacher, there should be helplessness in this regard." Teacher Zhang believes that the management of students' teaching is not just a work problem from 7 am to 6 pm. After this time, parents will still solve the problems raised in the group. "But many parents don't understand and think that we have pushed some tasks to them. In fact, we just need the cooperation of parents, because there are 46 children in the class, and we can't all take care of them. "
"I have been engaged in education since the mid-1980s. During this period, I have been a head teacher for nearly 30 years and have taught 10 classes. At that time, the way of information exchange was very simple. At that time, there were no QQ, WeChat and nails. The only way to communicate with parents is to hold parent-teacher conferences and visit students' families. "Shine Wong Cheng said that in the last ten years, I stopped being a head teacher because of my work, but my contact with my parents has never been interrupted and I have always maintained a harmonious and friendly relationship.
Now that the Internet is developed, QQ, WeChat and nailing are much more convenient and faster than before, but Wang Huicheng will pay great attention to personal expression, try not to say anything that annoys his parents, let alone assign tasks to his parents in the group.
"Some tasks posted by teachers in the group, if originally reserved for students, but parents have done all the work, will become competition between parents, which not only violates the original intention of teachers, but also increases the burden on parents." Wang Huicheng believes that the withdrawal of parents in Jiangsu actually exposed the tension between home and school. "Quitting the group is just a fuse, mainly because of dissatisfaction with the teacher's usual work practices."
Expert:
Teachers communicate with parents, and students can't rule it out.
In the education of children, parents and teachers are under increasing pressure. What is the cause of this problem? Is there any need for the "parent group" that is hotly discussed on the Internet?
Chu Zhaohui, a researcher at China Academy of Educational Sciences, believes that parents are actually two-sided. It is a platform for communication and a concentrated "small society". After all, parents have different life backgrounds and cultural attainments. How to make parents play the greatest value is something that schools, teachers and parents should pursue and think about together.
Jia Xijin, an associate professor at the School of Public Administration of Tsinghua University, believes that WeChat, as a technical means, actually only makes people have more convenient contact. As for what will happen between related groups, it is actually a reflection of social reality. Therefore, what kind of problems and relationships will appear in parents' WeChat group reflects what kind of social relationship should be between teachers and parents.
"WeChat parents are similar to parent-teacher conferences in the traditional sense, but it makes communication more convenient and daily. As a public space, parents and teachers should communicate what they should and should not communicate, and there must be certain rules between parents. "
Jia Xijin believes that it is necessary for teachers to communicate with parents in time, but when this communication becomes a daily communication mode, there is a core question "Where are the students?" "If students are excluded from this relationship, it is actually very bad, and it becomes a direct relationship between teachers and parents and an indirect relationship with students. This model is actually depriving students of their autonomy, because teachers and parents are helping students grow. "
"Behind this, it involves what role parents should play in education." Jia Xijin said that in the traditional model, parents only play the role of cooperating with the school, such as learning attitude, moral quality, family environment and dealing with people. But in reality, to a great extent, parents have become an educational subject, which may need to be reflected.
"In order to reduce the burden brought by parents, every parent must be good at himself and abide by the rules. This is fundamental." Chu said that it is necessary to build a platform for communication and information exchange, rather than expressing opinions, so that the parent group can meet its functions without bringing many contradictions.
(At the request of the interviewee, Wang Li, Huang Fei and Liu Juan are pseudonyms.)
Extended reading:
Publish more documents to standardize parents' groups and prevent parents from correcting homework.
Jiangsu parents who send out the video of quitting the group online may only represent some parents, but the problems exposed behind them are thought-provoking. In fact, in recent years, documents for "reducing the burden" for teachers, parents and students have been issued continuously.
As early as 20 17, the Education Bureau of Jing 'an District of Shanghai issued the Convention on the Construction of WeChat Groups in Primary and Secondary Schools in Jing 'an District, which clearly stipulated that any form of advertising, canvassing, red envelopes, praise collections and other contents unrelated to schools and students were prohibited in class WeChat groups. Stop reporting roll calls, criticize students, and publish scores or rankings in groups.
20 18 The Education Bureau of Chengxi District, Xining City, Qinghai Province issued a special document to standardize the management of home-school network communication platforms such as schools, kindergartens, WeChat and QQ work groups. And reduce the heavy work and study burden of parents and students. Students' homework teachers should be arranged in the classroom and not published in the exchange group. Students' test scores shall not be published.
There are also many rules for parents to correct homework. For example, Taiyuan Education Bureau recently issued a document prohibiting parents from correcting homework. In Zhejiang, the Education Department and other departments 14 jointly issued the Implementation Plan for Reducing the Burden of Primary and Secondary School Students in Zhejiang Province, which also mentioned that parents should not be assigned homework, asked to check and correct homework, asked to submit cultural homework by punching in, and should not turn student homework into parent homework.
Last year, the Opinions on Deepening the Reform of Education and Teaching and Improving the Quality of Compulsory Education issued by the Central Committee of the Communist Party of China and the State Council pointed out that students' homework should not be turned into parents' homework or parents should be asked to check and correct homework, and punitive homework should not be arranged. Teachers should carefully correct homework, strengthen face-to-face explanation and give timely feedback.