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Family education lies
Parents lead by example. There are many compromises in the adult world, and sometimes we can't help lying about something. If the child knows, he will feel that although his parents said not to lie, he did it himself, indicating that lying is not so serious.

2. Establish effective communication with children. Effective communication is the best way to understand children's inner thoughts and needs. Always understand and care for children, decompose the bad emotions in children's hearts, and let children fully feel the love of their parents. Make practical rules for children, and children are willing to accept them. Children don't need to lie.

3. Accept and tolerate children. When we find our children lying, we often get angry and hit them. This will scare children and make them more inclined to lie to cover up their mistakes. Accept the child himself and refuse the mistake of the child lying.

4. Reduce control over children. Many children lie to discover their true selves and do what they want to do. At the same time, they try to make their parents happy and make them think that they are doing what they should do and what they want to do. Therefore, parents should reduce interference and control over their children, change the concept that children must do things according to their own wishes, and respect their choices.

5. Don't criticize blindly. The first reaction of many parents is to expose and criticize severely, so that they can remember the lesson. However, exposing children's lies will never stop them from lying, but will only help them make up lies more comprehensively next time. It is better to guide children correctly than to say it, so that they can better understand lying.

6. Pay attention to the child's first lie. Parents must tell their children clearly that lying is wrong and immoral from the moment they find out that they are lying. Let children establish clear moral standards in their hearts. Children often can't tell right from wrong, so parents' guidance and reminder are particularly important. Therefore, when children lie, it is often the best stage to set moral standards for children.

7. Help children solve practical difficulties. Sometimes, children feel that it is too difficult and too tired to finish a thing, so they avoid it. And this is his responsibility, and he knows that it is wrong not to finish it, because they are afraid of taking responsibility and they lie. For example, some children are stuck on a problem. They can't think of a solution to the problem, and they don't want to ask their parents for advice. They just want to watch TV quickly. At this time, parents should do a good job of "scaffolding", analyze problems for their children and help them clear their minds. Instead of scolding them or giving them an answer right away. If children are still doing homework and cutting corners, parents must check their homework every night to let them know that there is no room for lying.

8. Find the root of the problem, tell the children the dangers of lying, pay attention to the words and deeds in life, and let the children successfully get rid of the problem of lying. Blindly criticizing and accusing will only make children feel fear and inferiority, and even hate and disgust. Not only can it not solve the problem, but it will bring greater psychological and psychological problems to children and affect their healthy growth.