I am stubborn when I meet a child with a big temper. I really can't force it. Pupils who eat soft rice instead of hard rice often resist homework, but their parents' educational behavior. Mingming studied hard at school all day and wanted to watch TV after school. My parents just wouldn't listen and insisted that I do my homework first. If you do your homework slowly, you will also be criticized by your parents. In children's life, parents overemphasize the importance of learning, and primary school students will have rebellious psychology. The collapse of parents comes from the inability to control their children's study. Bad temper and bad homework are the result of parents' tutoring, not children's nature. Since children are so resistant to learning, our parents might as well change their minds. Change the way of counseling and learning, and optimize the way of chatting with children in communication. In the process of tutoring, the relationship between parents and children must be equal, not a top-down requirement. Parents have the responsibility to urge their children to study, not to force them to study. When your child often loses his temper because of homework and study problems, parents need to pay attention. This is not a question of learning attitude, but a question of communication. Teacher Kojima wants to share three methods that parents can try to do, which may ease the current parent-child relationship. 1, when the child began to lose his temper, you might as well say that it was because of homework problems that parents and children entered a state of tension. What should parents do? Parents calm down first, don't say bad words, it's just homework. What is your child's learning attitude? This is not a day or two. Parents are most aware of the causes of children's problems. Therefore, when the parent-child relationship begins to lose his temper because of homework, parents may wish to say: I know that we are both in a bad mood now, so let's discuss it another day. You don't have to do your homework, or I don't rush you, so calm down. Send a message to your child that homework will not affect your relationship with your parents, and learning is your own business. Parents just urge to study, and come back to this problem next time. The first step for parents is to deal with their emotions calmly first, and then appease their children's emotions. Otherwise, an assignment, which is not filial, will force parents to go to the hospital for emergency treatment when their blood pressure rises. This is not a question of study, but a question of parents' education. Parents should also listen to their children's voices more, and don't refuse as soon as they come up, let alone say why they don't want to do their homework. 2. When you can't fulfill your child's learning demands, you might as well do it disobediently, just like parents labeling their children. This is the self-consolation that parents can't control their studies, and they put the blame on their children, thinking that children don't learn according to their own methods. In fact, when children deny doing homework and studying in various ways, parents should first think about whether they have not completed their children's learning demands. For example, children usually suggest that they want to watch TV for a while before doing their homework. Parents regard watching TV without finishing their studies and homework as unreasonable demands and refuse all of them. This is the relationship that provokes the contradiction between parents and children. Actually, we can communicate in another way. When children's learning demands are inconsistent with their parents' and parents don't allow them, parents might as well do this: tell their children that I think your idea is good, but we can finish our homework first and then watch TV as long as you want. Do you think it's okay? Give children the right to choose questions, don't refuse immediately, it is a negotiable channel for children, and treat their demands correctly. At least, the child will not lose his temper and feel unwilling, but as long as the communication method is correct, there is nothing difficult to solve between parents and children. It is not easy for children to understand their parents, that is, to let children see with their own eyes that their parents are often confused. Obviously, they work overtime until late at night, not all for their children to earn money, but their children don't understand their parents' hard work. He didn't study hard, lost his temper and even talked back to his parents. Parents are tired all day, and they have to help their children with their homework at night. Children just can't understand their parents' difficulties. This is often the most intense contradiction between parents and children in the process of homework. Solving this problem is also very simple. Parents can try this: If you want your children to understand their own suffering, let them see your suffering with their own eyes, and it is best to experience it personally. Let parents participate in cooking and other housework and understand their hard work. Conditional parents can also take their children to their own companies to see how they work overtime. If you can see it with your own eyes, your child can understand what parents often say: Is it easy for me to do this? It all depends on what you mean. Pupils have a bad temper and don't do their homework well. It's not all the children's fault. Parents have a solution.