Myth 1: A general strike. Some parents are annoyed with their children's rebellious words and deeds such as talking back and disobedience, and feel that if their children's "evil energy" is not suppressed, their children may become worse. So parents took tough measures, either beating or scolding. Gradually, on the surface, the child returned to the "good boy" who did what he was told. In fact, in his heart, the door to communication with his parents has been closed.
Myth 2: Let yourself go. In reality, some parents face the children who are difficult to teach, and after several times of discipline, they have little effect, lose confidence and begin to let their children go with the flow. At this time, regardless of the child's words and deeds and thoughts, parents no longer ask and guide. Over time, children are adversely affected and their behavior is biased. When parents regret it, they find that they have delayed their children's life.
Parents will find it difficult to communicate with children who are obviously rebellious. Here are some practical parent-child communication skills.
Respect for children
Parents should not always stare at their children's weaknesses, and compare their children's shortcomings with other children's strengths. When in contact with children, parents should try their best to find the advantages of children and encourage them to reduce their resistance to parents.
Transposition consideration
Parents also came from the rebellious period of youth, but not as obvious as children now, so in the face of children's inexplicable behavior, we might as well put ourselves in their shoes and think about why children are like this. With empathy, you will understand the child and find the crux of the problem.
Avoid getting down to business from study.
When communicating with children, parents should not always focus on academic performance, which will only make children feel pressure and doubt the motivation of parents to communicate. When communicating, parents can start with family affairs and stabilize their children's emotions before getting down to business.
Stabilize mood
It is certainly irrational for parents to educate their children with emotions, which will lead to more resistance of children. Therefore, parents should not educate their children when they are impatient, irritable and not calm. After you calm down, you can communicate with your children.
Allow children to make mistakes
This stage is a critical period for children to form their own opinions, and small mistakes are inevitable. Therefore, parents should allow their children to make some mistakes and suffer some losses, and don't excessively bind their children's hands and feet. At the same time, parents are the best role models for children. Children in the rebellious period have strong imitation ability, and parents' good words and deeds can exert a subtle influence on children.
Lighten the burden on children
Parents have the idea of "expecting their children to succeed and their daughters to succeed". Some parents even impose their unfulfilled wishes on their children, and their children have to receive training they don't want when they come back from school, so that their children can't get a good psychological relaxation, which brings great mental pressure to their children and leads them to hate life, and the rebellious period comes early. I hope parents can give their children proper time to play when they are studying!