First, arouse students' confidence with white lies.
? As a teacher, the first thing that comes to mind is to be a teacher by example, especially in front of students, to be honest and upright, and not to cheat. But educational practice makes me feel that under some special circumstances, beautiful lies can be regarded as an effective way of education. Xiaojie transferred to my class in grade three. He is sleepy in class, and the words in his exercise book are crooked and messy, which is often criticized by the class teacher. Inferiority occupied every nerve in his class. After a while, I tried to communicate with him with words of praise, friendly eyes and grateful smile. I gradually found out that he dared to speak in class and handed in his exercise book. I am glad for his change. It was after the mid-term exam that he got the only failing grade in his class in Chinese. What shall we do? The students all around me endlessly asked me about my grades, and I felt his expectant eyes. If I tell him the truth, it will undoubtedly throw cold water on him who is learning better and better, and will mercilessly drown her re-established self-confidence. I pushed my way through the crowd and said loudly, "The students did well in the exam. What delighted the teacher most was that Zhai Jiacheng scored 73 points this time. It really pays off. " The classmates looked at him with different eyes in peacetime, and he couldn't help but straighten up and look at me excitedly. When handing out the paper, I handed him a blank piece of paper and said, the teacher showed your paper to other teachers, and I don't know where I can't find it. I'm really sorry. Can you make another one with better quality? He wrote it again carefully. After I explained to him, I said to him, "The teacher is looking forward to your progress. You are a clever boy. What if all subjects have such enthusiasm? " A week later, I lied to him solemnly: "The teachers in the office are very happy to hear about your progress, and they specially asked me to tell you that I hope you will continue to work hard and strive to be an example for the whole class." Hearing this, he was particularly excited. His mother called me at night and said that the child's performance at school was true? I said, "It's true. The child told you that he wanted more confidence and hope from your parents." Hope and trust are intangible, but their power is immeasurable. From then on, I found that Xiaojie studied harder. I often think that if I had made his real situation public at that time, if I didn't have the plot asked by the teacher in the design office, could this newly confident classmate continue to forge ahead? Indeed, on the road of students' growth, sometimes beautiful lies are more effective than honest words. With the heart of the speaker and the meaning of the listener, a tacit understanding can be formed over time. A beautiful lie arouses the confidence of a student with learning difficulties and lays a psychological foundation for him. Isn't that what our education is all about? Let children have confidence in themselves.
Second, use tolerance to melt children's weariness of learning.
Xiaoli, a special student. Being late, lying, pretending to be ill easily, often violating discipline and deducting class points, all her classmates don't like her. People really love and hate such children. But I believe that such a child can also influence him with love and tolerance. On this day, Xiaoli was the last one to come to the classroom. He is used to being the last to enter the classroom every day. I came out of the classroom and he consciously followed me into the office. He looked at me helplessly, which was his usual expression. I asked, "Why did you come so late today? Do you have a stomachache again? Still have a headache? "
"Neither." "So your last stomachache was fake?" "Last time it was a real stomachache, last time it was fake." "Oh, that's right. Why are you pretending? Did the teacher criticize you? " No, but you said you had a stomachache. Do you know how worried the teacher is? I am so nervous. " "I know." She hung her head. "The teacher knows that your stomach is not good, and sometimes it hurts. You can come and talk to the teacher, but if you are often late for this, the teacher will be angry, right? " "I ... I know I was wrong." She mumbled something with her head down: "My classmates don't like me. I often pretend to be sick just because I don't want to go to school ... Looking at her timid eyes, I am a little surprised, angry and even dull. At this moment, a child who often makes mistakes opens his heart because of the words and actions I care about. How much courage it takes. I took her hand, walked into the classroom and wrote the words "equality and tolerance" on the whiteboard. Guide students to discuss the incident that Xiaoli doesn't want to go to school. Students express some narrow ideas and practices in the process of interacting with Xiaoli. I have to sum up truthfully: "classmates, everyone is an independent individual and has his own advantages and disadvantages." There are no perfect people in the world. We should treat everyone equally and accept all people with tolerance. This will fill our hearts with happiness and bring endless joy to others. Why not? "As soon as my words were finished, the monitor stood up and said," I hope Xiaoli stays in our group, and none of us can fall behind. " Other students also said, "Yes, you can't leave anyone behind." At this time, Xiaoli had tears in her eyes and said loudly, "Teachers and classmates, I was wrong. Please forgive me. "
Instant, warm and lasting applause reminded me, that moment was deeply imprinted in my mind, and I will never forget it. Tolerance is a kind of beauty, a refreshing beauty, which makes people feel like spring breeze. "The sea is full of rivers, with great tolerance, high mountains and high Wan Ren, and no desire is just." As a class teacher, we should accept all rivers, infect every student with a tolerant heart, and let fraternity and tolerance stay in every child's heart.
Third, use care to appease children's extreme psychology.
In everyone's eyes, these eleven or twelve-year-old children should be happy, but one student in our class is different from other children. He is taciturn, often hiding in the corner during recess, playing by himself, and often fighting with his classmates.
Why is the sunshine age so extreme? I drew a big question mark in my mind. So, I found his parents and learned from them that the child's parents divorced, his father worked in other places, and his mother remarried. He has no peers and is often bullied by others. At school, he always feels that he has no friends and no one to trust. No matter who offended him, his only solution was to resist. The reason for this phenomenon is the lack of care, especially the care of parents and teachers. Sometimes teachers' care and love should shine on every child like sunshine, warming every immature heart, especially those students whose hearts have been hurt. Psychology believes that teachers' sincere love for students can infect and impress students, and even turn it into psychological motivation, which affects the formation of students' moral character and the direction of personality development. I am determined to take action to care for him and eliminate his extreme psychology.
I look for opportunities to talk to him alone about family affairs and classmates, and give him more care in my usual study and life. At the same time, I told his parents about his situation and asked them to cooperate. Under my persuasion, they are also willing to change their education methods and begin to try to respect his views and meet some of his requirements.
Sure enough, he is making progress day by day. Looking at his progress, I deeply feel that every time I turn into spring mud to protect flowers, I will reap a harvest of "moistening things silently".
"Ten years of trees, a hundred years of tree people." The highest state of education is love without leaving a trace. "As a bodhi tree,
My heart is like a mirror. "As an old class teacher with 27 years' teaching experience, I always tell myself: Educate with your heart. Let every child see hope because of our guidance and every family see hope because of our efforts. Finally, I want to say that, except now, we should make beauty and hope flourish and glow in the poetic and distant education.