Through this study, I benefited a lot and felt a lot. I deeply understand the importance, care and love of the school for students, and also deeply understand that family education is the most important key in the process of children's growth and learning. Let me understand that family education is the earliest education and has a deep influence on children. Now there is only one child in each family, and parents can't afford to lose. But how to educate children is correct, but it has always been a problem that puzzles every parent, and I am no exception. While listening to the expert's explanation, I am also reflecting on the expert's point of view. I found that there are many misunderstandings in my educational viewpoint and practice, but fortunately, there are also some right places. Now I want to talk about my feelings after the lecture:
First, the combination of home and school can effectively cultivate children.
Today's children are all only children, and the family is all adults; Therefore, her family environment is actually an adult environment, and the school learning environment is very different from the family environment. In the middle, parents and teachers played a bridge role. Only when parents and teachers fully communicate can they help their children grow up in all directions. For example, when the school holds a parent-teacher conference, parents and teachers can communicate face to face, discuss children's education together and reach a consensus, which can be described as getting twice the result with half the effort. Another example is the parents' open day of the school. Parents can see their children's classroom performance and the ways and means of teachers imparting knowledge, so that parents can also know their children's advantages and disadvantages and their own differences, and guide their children to carry out family education in a targeted manner to help them improve.
Second, cultivate good habits and benefit for life.
Habit is the mindset of people, and it is a subtle force. As the wise man said: success is a habit, and failure is also a habit; Then change your life, starting from today, starting from forming good habits. When listening to the teacher explain how to cultivate good study habits, it should be said that he received a good education. In school habits, teachers can teach and learn from other students; But at home, it depends on the supervision and guidance of parents. Therefore, at home, we should start with children's writing habits, homework habits and living habits, and try our best to carry out family education under the guidance of that concept in combination with our own family reality. For example, we now require children to sleep regularly and get up regularly; Do your homework carefully and quickly; Doing things seriously and so on are trivial things, but children just need to cultivate good habits in these casual things. It is said that behavior determines habit, habit determines character, and character determines fate. I hope that children can develop good study and living habits through hard work.
Third, understand and respect children's choices; Trust children and get along equally.
I have read the words "crouch down to see the child's world, walk in to see the child's heart, stand up to see the child's behavior", and I think one of the most important concepts is to understand and respect the child. Indeed, every child is an independent individual, just like two identical leaves cannot be found. There are absolutely no two identical children in the world. Therefore, I think parents should analyze the pros and cons from her point of view. As long as it is reasonable, they should generally agree. At the same time, it can also help to cultivate children's self-confidence and autonomy, and also make children trust you more.
Fourth, parents should keep a normal mind and treat their children correctly.
As the saying goes, "children are their own good", most parents think that their children are geniuses, everything is good, and they can't bear any grievances. Criticism of teachers can sometimes not be treated correctly. In fact, the teacher's criticism of children shows that teachers attach importance to children. If our parents and teachers agree, it will be more conducive to children to correct their shortcomings; On the other hand, we should also see the advantages of children, even if they have made small progress, we should also give them affirmation to build their self-confidence. At the same time, we should dilute the concept of achievement and pay attention to the cultivation of children's comprehensive quality and learning ability in all aspects.
The expert's "three widths" made me realize that I should be patient with my children and not be too anxious. Children still have a long way to go, so don't rush for success. Teacher Liu said to look in the mirror when he lost his temper, which showed me how ferocious his face was when he lost his temper. How scared and frightened the children are. How scared adults are in this fear and fear, let alone a child who is very dependent on you. In this case, any education for children is counterproductive.
Only when parents learn to be a qualified parent can children make progress. If a child has a problem, we must first find the reason from ourselves. Only by combining the characteristics of children and finding corresponding solutions can children make progress. The formation of children's good habits and morality is not once and for all, nor is it a race against time. I must use the attitude of "three forbearance" to give my children time to correct their mistakes. Finally, let me use the attitude of "three widths" to give children a "three widths" environment.