1, self-reflection. First of all, I will analyze what happened, find the reasons from myself and see which link is out of order. If my communication tone and attitude with my mother-in-law are wrong, I will apologize to my mother-in-law in time and correct it. I will pay special attention to my communication tone and attitude next time.
2. Respect your mother-in-law and listen more. When I encounter contradictions in parenting, I will first understand the details of the matter, listen to my mother-in-law's narrative, and let them finish first, instead of judging and accusing at the first reaction.
3. Don't discuss it in front of the children. When there is a contradiction, if I have a bad attitude, I will find a suitable time to apologize to my mother-in-law. When everyone's mood is relatively calm, then analyze the problem and find a suitable solution.
Tell my mother-in-law the harm of some bad parenting methods through some news and examples of people around me. Because it is more acceptable in the form of examples.
5. Learn more by yourself, improve your parenting skills and concepts, and let your mother-in-law know the correct parenting style through her own personal demonstration.
6, negotiate with her husband, let her husband communicate with her mother-in-law, and divide the custody of the children. If you want your mother-in-law to just help with laundry, cooking and picking up the children, then let your husband tell her that her mother-in-law needs help in these aspects, and it is his own responsibility to raise the children. It is best to draw a clear line between each other and not interfere with each other.
7. If conditions permit, it is best to live separately from the elderly. If you have a better way, please leave a message to interact and learn together.