The consequences of suppressing education
. Nowadays, parents' repressive education can be seen almost everywhere, but as parents, have we ever thought about what harm repressive education will bring to children's growth or cultivate their character? I think we should think twice before making a decision or adopting a method, and we must consider clearly what disadvantages this measure will bring and what greater obstacles will be caused to children's development.
First, let children feel inferior.
The most serious influence of parents' repressive education is that it will lead to our children's inferiority complex. Children's sense of inferiority will not only be produced after comparing with others in food, clothing, housing and transportation, but also after we deny the children's self again and again, the children will gradually become inferior and unconfident, and will deny everything about themselves and feel that they can't do it. This will make our children miss many opportunities in their future growth.
Xiaoming likes to dance street dance. He spends a lot of time practicing dancing every day. In a competition, Xiaoming won the first prize of that competition by virtue of his years of dancing experience. However, when he got home, his parents didn't praise Yang Xiaoming and encouraged him to keep his interest in learning. Instead, they told him that you only practiced dancing all day. Look at your cousin, first in grade. You can get the first grade when you go home.
Xiao Ming went back to his room silently after listening. He didn't want to give up the fun of dancing, but his parents didn't support him and encouraged him to deny himself again and again. Finally, he is unhappy every day.
Second, let the children have no motivation.
Long-term repressive education will make our children feel inferior, but at the same time it will also make our children lack interest in other things because they have not been praised by their parents. Because they will think that even if I participate in my efforts and make achievements, so what? My parents will still say that I am not hard enough and not good enough. In their eyes, other children are always good, while my own children are always not good enough, so we should continue to work hard. How should parents educate correctly?
Is that repressive education really completely denied by us? Actually, it's not. Repressive education is possible, but it needs a degree. We should grasp a certain degree. Children drift too far and should be properly suppressed. But if our children really improve, our parents must give them encouragement. Parental praise and parental encouragement and support are really important to our children. Be sure to grasp it well and praise the children in time.
Parents should praise our children more and criticize them less. Children need the praise of our parents, so as to give them more growth. If we suppress children blindly, it will only make us