Education Begins with Respect is divided into seven chapters, each of which is very exciting and beneficial. Based on the educational experience and sentiment of an only-child father, this book explains the true meaning of education-love and respect through vivid and interesting educational examples. The book contains Sun's unique discoveries and profound insights, as well as wonderful cases and practical suggestions. This is a work that Sun boasts of educating his children for his father. It is a faithful record of China's father's education, with sincere feelings and heartfelt words, integrating experience, appreciation and operability.
Reading this book, we can always feel Mr. Sun's trust and care for teenagers and children, and his deep anxiety and reflection on contemporary education, which makes people unconsciously resonate with him. "The premise of educating children is to understand children, and the premise of understanding children is to respect children." This view of Teacher Sun runs through the whole book and his education of his daughter Sun Ran. With the deepening of reading, I agree with this view more and more.
In the second chapter of this book, the author mentioned that children's rights should be respected. Only by being respected can children gain self-esteem and learn to respect others. Therefore, we adults should protect children's awareness of rights and give them enough respect. To respect children, we must respect their rights to survival, development, protection and privacy. In real life, these rights of children are often greatly discounted, and their rights are often violated. Some parents often regard their children as their appendages, and plan everything for their children from kindergarten to primary school and middle school, to which university their children will go to, and even to what occupation they will engage in in in the future. Everything about the children is under their arrangement, and they have no right to choose, regardless of their true feelings.
If children don't listen to the arrangement and do what they want, parents will say that everything is for their children under the banner of love. In this case, many children have lost the respect they should enjoy as independent individuals, and they are miserable, and some even have rebellious psychology and make excessive behaviors. This can not help but make us think, as parents and teachers, how should we educate our children? How to respect children? On this issue, Teacher Sun has set a good example for us. When her daughter enters junior high school, junior high school and university, Mr. Sun lets her decide for herself. As a father, he just gave her some advice. His education has given children enough respect, strengthened their awareness of rights, perfected their personality and made them more independent. This is exactly what we should learn as parents and teachers.
Without respect, there is no education. Only those who are respected can truly learn self-esteem, and only self-esteem can learn to be a man. As parents and teachers, we treat every child equally, give them enough respect and let their personality develop healthily.
In the third chapter of the book, the author also mentioned that children should be given free time, which I quite agree with. Today's era is an era of accelerated pace of life and fierce competition. In order not to let their children lose at the starting line, parents hope that their children can arrange their time according to their own requirements and that their lives are not in danger. As a result, some parents really want to seize every minute of their children, and every minute of their children is arranged, which makes them extremely nervous. Children's schoolwork burden is heavy enough. Weekends should be a happy time for children to relax, but some parents arrange various classes for their children, and parents are nervous when their children are free.
According to the survey, the average disposable time of the only child in China city is only 68 minutes per day. Under the arrangement of parents, children lose themselves and almost become learning robots, so that they become more and more lazy, numb, passive and even lose their enthusiasm for learning. This cannot but make us feel sad. Depriving children of their free time is actually depriving them of opportunities for growth and development. Through chatting with parents, I found that many children left their parents' arrangements and their free time became at a loss. The same is true in class. Some children don't know what to do after completing the tasks assigned by the teacher. The reason is that we give our children too little free time, and they don't know how to arrange their time. Therefore, as parents and teachers, we should change our ideas, give our children enough free time, help them use their time effectively, discover the joy of life, show their talents and let them grow up healthily and naturally.
The premise of education is respect, and respect is more important than love. The fundamental purpose of education is to teach students to learn to be a man, and the most fundamental quality of being a man is respect. As parents and teachers, we should sow the seeds of love and respect in children's hearts from an early age, so that children can get due respect and learn to respect others. Only by gaining self-esteem and learning to respect can we respect parents and families, teachers and schools, and society and the country. Only in this way can our quality education be truly realized, the quality of our students and citizens can be truly improved, and our society can be truly advanced.
Thank you for letting me meet you in the vast sea of books and let me understand the true meaning of education-education begins with respect! Thanks to teacher Sun Yunxiao's advice, I know how to be a good parent and teacher. In the future education, I will have more understanding and respect for children, so that children and students can grow up healthily.
Reflections on Reading Education Begins with Respect (2) I browsed the book Education Begins with Respect in my spare time. In the book, Sun Yunxiao explained the true meaning of education in simple language-education begins with respect. Sun Yunxiao, the author, is a loyal watcher of new education across the century and a defender of childhood, and has published more than 30 personal monographs. He can always grasp the spirit of the times and walk into the hearts of children. He is a scholar who really enters the children's world. This book is based on the educational experience and sentiment of an only-child father. In the vivid narration of intriguing educational cases, the true meaning of education is expounded-"Good relationship is better than many educations", "Father's love is like calcium", "Education without criticism is pseudo-education" and "Children without secrets will not grow up". Educational cases close to the reality of life give people a feeling of deja vu, as if this were an ordinary little thing that happened around us. But the author can dig out the refreshing educational truth in this ordinary little thing.
The author mentioned in the book that true love is selfless. Indeed, he is a very enlightened parent. When he learned that his daughter's exam results were not satisfactory, he didn't complain or blame, but enlightened her and worked with her to find reasons and find ways. The author also points out that in real life, some parents often complain that their children are not sensible and say, "I hurt you for nothing!" " "When you see that your child's grades are not satisfactory, you say," Why are you so disappointing? What's the use of raising you? "I usually deal with my parents and often hear such words. At that time, I only said things with sympathy and didn't think much. The author points out that such parents' love for their children is selfish. He hopes that children can achieve their desired goals while providing them with all kinds of superior material conditions. Parents must have a correct attitude. No matter whether your child can't reach the predetermined goal or not, don't complain and don't hurt your child with words. I think it is necessary for parents to have a normal mind, understand and respect their children, and set expectations according to their actual situation.
The author also mentioned in the book: "It is difficult for children without filial piety to have love" and "Children who are touched by true love will know how to be grateful". I think it is necessary for some parents to know these two views. Because in real life, some children don't know how to understand their parents' hardships, and they don't know how to honor their parents. Parents pour their love into their children, but they don't get any gratitude from them. Instead, I feel that everything my parents have done is right. In the face of such children, parents should not blindly complain that their children are not sensible, but should find reasons from their own educational methods. The author pointed out: "To cultivate children's filial piety and love, we should start from small things: if we can't let children eat alone; Often tell children about the hardships of work; Don't be "responsive" or "unresponsive"; Parents should set an example for their children to honor the elderly. "
Parents' love for their children should be pure love, scientific love and rational love. Parents' true love is a full seed, which is sown in children's tender hearts, cultivated with true love, and exchanged with true love.
Think carefully about every word of Teacher Sun, which can also be confirmed in the teaching details. In class, if a child plays tricks and doesn't attend class, touches his head unnoticed, or quietly puts things aside, the child will blush or correct his behavior immediately; When children make mistakes, they will be quietly pulled aside to communicate patiently. Finally, children will smile happily ... It is "education begins with respect" that tells me that this "silence" is called "respect", and it is this respect that makes every child grow up healthily without silence.
Let education begin with respect, and respect is more important than love. Because of giving students respect, students can feel the equality between teachers and students, feel the existence of self-esteem, find greater motivation and shape a stronger spiritual pillar. Respecting students is a positive response to the concept of "people-oriented". The fundamental purpose of education is to teach students to learn to be human. The most fundamental quality of being a man is respect. Respect education can teach students to respect others. Only by learning to respect can we respect parents and families, teachers and schools, units and collectives, and society and the country. Only in this way can our quality education be truly realized, the quality of our students and citizens can be truly improved, and our society can be truly advanced. Any teacher who has made achievements in education and teaching will never lose the word "respect" in their dictionary of educational life.
Reading a good book is like talking to an expert. Although I didn't have face-to-face communication with the author, I was fortunate enough to enter his journey of understanding the true meaning of education. "Education begins with respect", let's understand its true meaning from practice!
Reflections on Education Begins with Respect (3) When I borrowed books from the school library during the holiday, I chose the book Education Begins with Respect without hesitation. I studied this book in depth during the holiday, and I think I am not wrong. It is indeed a good book worth reading by parents and educators.
Education Begins with Respect is divided into seven chapters, each of which is very exciting and beneficial. The book contains Sun's unique discoveries and profound insights, as well as wonderful cases and practical suggestions. It is Sun's self-proclaimed work of educating children for his father, which integrates experience, appreciation and operability, and is a faithful record of China's father education.
In the second chapter of this book, the author mentioned that children's rights should be respected. Only by being respected can children gain self-esteem and learn to respect others. Therefore, we adults should protect children's awareness of rights and give them enough respect. To respect children, we must respect their rights to survival, development, protection and privacy. In real life, these rights of children are often greatly discounted, and their rights are often violated. From the birth of a child, everything is planned for the child, from kindergarten to primary school, middle school, which university to take an examination of, and even what career to engage in in in the future. Everything given to children is under their arrangement, and there is no right to choose for children at all. If children don't listen to the arrangement and do what they want, parents will say that everything is for their children under the banner of love. In this case, many children lose their due respect as independent individuals and make excessive behaviors. This can not help but make us think, as parents and teachers, how should we educate our children? How to respect children? On this issue, Teacher Sun has set a good example for us. When her daughter enters junior high school, junior high school and university, Mr. Sun lets her decide for herself. As a father, he just gave her some advice. His education has given children enough respect, strengthened their awareness of rights, perfected their personality and made them more independent. This is exactly what we should learn as parents and teachers.
I once read an article "A snail goes for a walk". After reading it, I was deeply touched. Educating a child is like walking with a snail and walking through his childhood and youth with the child. Although there are times of madness and impatience, children unconsciously show us the best side of life at first. Children's eyes are frank and their perspectives are unique, so why don't parents slow down, put their subjective thoughts aside, accompany their children to quietly appreciate the taste of life, listen to the echo of their inner voices in the secular world, and leave some time for themselves to poke their heads out of endless life, which is greater than their children's achievements.
In the third chapter of the book, the author also mentioned that children should be given free time, which I quite agree with. Today's era is an era of accelerated pace of life and fierce competition. In order not to let their children lose at the starting line, parents hope that their children can arrange their time according to their own requirements and that their lives are not in danger. Children's schoolwork burden is heavy enough. Weekends should be a happy time for children to relax, and so should classes. Some children don't know what to do after completing the tasks assigned by the teacher. The reason is that we give our children too little free time, and they don't know how to arrange their time. Therefore, as teachers, we should change our ideas, give our children enough free time, help them use their time effectively, discover the joy of life, show their talents and let them grow up healthily and naturally.
Thank you for letting me meet you in the vast sea of books and let me understand the true meaning of education-education begins with respect! In the future education, I will have more understanding and respect, so that my students and future children can grow up healthily.
Reflections on "Education Begins with Respect" (IV) The author of this book, Sun Yunxiao, is a faithful watcher of new education across the century and a defender of childhood. He has published more than 30 personal monographs. He can always grasp the spirit of the times and walk into the hearts of children. He is a scholar who really enters the children's world.
This book is based on the educational experience and sentiment of an only-child father. In the vivid narration of intriguing educational cases, the true meaning of education is expounded-"Good relationship is better than many educations", "Father's love is like calcium", "Education without criticism is pseudo-education" and "Children without secrets will not grow up". Educational cases close to the reality of life give people a feeling of deja vu, as if this were an ordinary little thing that happened around us. But the author can dig out the refreshing educational truth in this ordinary little thing.
After reading the whole book, what impressed me the most was the plot of the grassland contest in the book:1In August, 1992, 77 Japanese children came to Inner Mongolia and held a grassland adventure summer camp with 30 China children. At the picnic, the Chinese captain found that all the fat and idle children were China children. China's child was ill and immediately cried and went back to sleep. Japanese children are sick and stick to the end. Japanese parents leave by car, leaving encouragement to children with high fever. China's parents came and pulled the children into the car on the difficult road. After three days' trekking on the grassland in August, the children finally reached their destination successfully. At the end of the summer camp, the Japanese Miyazaki City Councillor made a summary. He deliberately asked the Japanese children loudly: "Is the grassland beautiful?" Japanese children shouted in unison: "beauty!" Is the sky blue? "Blue!" "Are you coming?" "Come on!" The loud noise shocked everyone in China. When the Japanese child looked up, everyone's eyes shone with tears.
The Japanese left China with a smile, but the thinking left for China people was heavy. The contest on the grassland is not only a contest between children of the two countries, but also a contest between adults of the two countries! It is the different fatherly love and maternal love between the two countries! It's a contest between the education of China and China!
How can parents give their children real love and help? Sun Yunxiao's suggestion is:
1, don't just treat children as objects of education, learn more about their thoughts and ideas.
2. Children's growth always takes some time, so children's education is often divided into three points and seven points. Waiting for children to grow up is also a kind of beauty.
3. Teach children how to survive. Happiness is the most important thing in life. These viability are more likely to bring happiness.
The author mentioned in the book that true love is selfless. Indeed, he is a very enlightened parent. When he learned that his daughter's exam results were not satisfactory, he didn't complain or blame, but enlightened her and worked with her to find reasons and find ways. The author also points out that in real life, some parents often complain that their children are not sensible and say, "I hurt you for nothing!" " "When you see that your child's grades are not satisfactory, you say," Why are you so disappointing? What's the use of raising you? " The author points out that such parents' love for their children is selfish. He hopes that children can achieve their desired goals while providing them with all kinds of superior material conditions. Parents must have a correct attitude. No matter whether your child can't reach the predetermined goal or not, don't complain and don't hurt your child with words. I think it is necessary for parents to have a normal mind, understand and respect their children, and set expectations according to their actual situation.
Which parent doesn't want his son to be a dragon, but wants his daughter to be a phoenix? However, some parents, who don't respect their children, are not good at finding them, regard their own ideals as their children's ideals, and insist on letting their children do what they want, which is likely to stifle their enthusiasm and initiative. Only by finding children, liberating them and respecting their actual situation can we have happy children and harmonious families. Parents should encourage and guide their children's future development according to their own characteristics. Finding and liberating children is a panacea for improving and promoting good parent-child relationship.
The author also mentioned in the book: "It is difficult for children without filial piety to have love" and "Children who are touched by true love will know how to be grateful". In real life, there are indeed some children who don't understand their parents' hard work, let alone honor their parents. Parents pour their love into their children, but they don't get any gratitude from them. Instead, I feel that everything my parents have done is right. In the face of such children, parents should not blindly complain that their children are not sensible, but should find reasons from their own educational methods. The author pointed out: "To cultivate children's filial piety and love, we should start from small things: if we can't let children eat alone; Often tell children about the hardships of work; Don't be "responsive" or "unresponsive"; Parents should set an example for their children to honor the elderly. "
Let education begin with respect, and respect is more important than love. Because of giving students respect, students can feel the equality between teachers and students, feel the existence of self-esteem, find greater motivation and shape a stronger spiritual pillar. Respecting students is a positive response to the concept of "people-oriented". The fundamental purpose of education is to teach students to learn to be human. The most fundamental quality of being a man is respect. Respect education can teach students to respect others. Only by learning to respect can we respect parents and families, teachers and schools, units and collectives, and society and the country. Only in this way can our quality education be truly realized, the quality of our students and citizens can be truly improved, and our society can be truly advanced. Any teacher who has made achievements in education and teaching will never lose the word "respect" in their dictionary of educational life.
Think carefully about every word of Teacher Sun, which can also be confirmed in the teaching details. In class, students will not attend classes, touch his head unnoticed, or quietly put away their things, so they will blush or correct their behavior immediately; When students make mistakes, they are quietly called aside to communicate patiently, and finally the children will show a happy smile ... It is "education begins with respect" that tells me that this kind of "silence" is called "respect", and it is this respect that makes every student grow up healthily without silence.
There are many poetic languages in the book that infect me. For example, "the art of punishment is to awaken the sleeping sense of responsibility in children's hearts", "appreciate the advantages of children, which may become the fire of starting a prairie fire" and "birds only know how vast the world is when they fly to the blue sky." "It will be a beautiful spring to get out of this rainy season."
We are both teachers and parents. If we can treat our children with more respect, care, understanding, tolerance and educational art like Sun Yunxiao, then more outstanding talents like Sun Ran, the daughter of Sun Yunxiao, will be born!
Reflection on education begins with respect (5) As a teacher, plus my personality, I like being with children very much. I really like children who are not influenced by the world. But many years have passed, and I regret to find that it is not enough to have love in the face of growing children, but also to have the ability to love, which I don't have. I am more and more eager to have this ability of love-the wisdom of education, which can make me a real teacher that students need and have the ability to capture fleeting educational opportunities in their study and life. Therefore, as a teacher, for the sake of children's growth, I am eager to grow up quickly.
With this desire, I started my own reading and reclamation journey. From the beginning, I like Suhomlinski, because he is a person who came into this world to love children, a noble person who devoted himself to education and practice, and full of compassion! When I read his works, my heart is often full of emotions. It is precisely because I am full of yearning for Suhomlinski's "harmonious education" that I like him in many educational works. When I found Sun Yunxiao, when I saw that "all education is harmonious education" advocated by him, when I felt that his works were not as abstruse as those of other experts, but simple and practical.
I read the book Education Begins with Respect a few years ago. Today, a few years later, I chose to read it again because of the title and theme of this book: education begins with respect, and the premise of love is respect. Without respect, there is no education. In this book, Sun Yunxiao combines the growing process of his daughter Sun Ran and summarizes many educational proverbs from his profound life experience through his keen educational tentacles. Dewey, a famous American education expert, believes that children should learn and do things in life, which is simply "learning by doing". Through my goddaughter experience in Sun Yunxiao, I feel that in fact, not only children, but all of us, whether experts or ordinary people, are not "learning by doing" if we want to learn everything well. At first, Sun Yunxiao faced her daughter's cowardice. She was as angry as all of us and said everything. He became an expert in education because he was not only good at deep introspection after the incident, but also kept his word. Is a sensible daughter, plus her own learning, reflection and sentiment, has made a real education expert. Didn't Sun Yunxiao's success prove that everyone's success lies in "learning by doing"?
The ideas and ideas in the book Education Begins with Respect also run through Sun Yunxiao's other works. I read this book because I have something to say about Sun Yunxiao's "education begins with respect". The Modern Chinese Dictionary defines "respect" as 1. Respect, respect; 2. Respect and take it seriously; 3. (behavior) serious. It can be understood that a person who respects another person is afraid of "lack of respect", which has nothing to do with ordering, instigating, yelling and scolding. The process of teachers training students in schools is called education. It can also be understood that if a teacher commands, instructs, scolds and scolds students at will, it is not education, but runs counter to real education.
Regarding "education begins with respect", I want to start with myself. I remember when I was young, I went to school. There is no such phenomenon as "school choice" as now, and all students are enrolled nearby. Perhaps because of this reason, there are so many students, or because there are so many children in the class, the learning level is uneven. There are always some restless and playful students in the class who do something that adults call wrong every day, which makes the head teacher, including the classroom teacher, very angry and even angry. So sometimes after class, mostly in class, teachers will begin to seriously educate these students. Sometimes it is criticizing the good children in the class as a reference, how to live up to expectations and always make big mistakes; Sometimes being straightforward is a personal attack, and yelling and swearing is a common occurrence. I have been an obedient boy in the eyes of teachers and parents since I was a child. Therefore, it is often praised by teachers and often becomes a reference for teachers to criticize bad students. Arguably, or anyone else, will be complacent about this. But, teacher, how could he know that the result of his doing this is to give me a lot of pressure invisibly, and at the same time, it also makes bad students feel more inferior. So in order to make the teacher happy and live up to the teacher's praise, I have been pursuing perfection in all aspects and trying to be perfect. I'm afraid of making mistakes. I can't imagine how I can stand the teacher's disappointment and scolding if I make a mistake. In fact, I seldom make mistakes. So a "mistake" in childhood is still fresh in my memory. In an exam, I, as a study committee member, had the honor of helping the teacher to hand out manuscript papers, two for each person, to copy the questions written by the teacher on the blackboard. I carefully picked up two pages and tore them up. However, due to the wrong force, the manuscript paper was torn from the middle. My little heart thumped for fear of being seen by the teacher, so I tore it off and put it on my seat for my own use. Although I got a hundred points with these two pieces of broken manuscript paper, I didn't feel happy. From then on, as I grew older, I was heartbroken at the thought of it.
Today, when I saw Sun Yunxiao's "education begins with respect", how could I not feel it! Lu Qin also said in "Good Parents, Good Children", "In some cases, teachers' disrespect for students is more harmful to children's hearts than parents' disrespect for children, because in children's hearts, teachers are supreme." As a teacher, scolding the normal mistakes made by growing children is not education! Where did you get the disrespectful education? As we all know, the result of shouting and cursing is that three parties suffer: the teacher himself, the bad boy in the teacher's eyes and the good boy in the teacher's heart! However, now think about it, how can a child not make mistakes? People grow up with mistakes! As a strong student, I have never made any mistakes, let alone the connivance of the teacher. But as a child who needs to grow up like a poor student, how many good opportunities I missed! Fear of making mistakes made me sensitive and timid since I was a child. I pursued perfection in everything, even found fault, and never said a word that hurt others. But another bold and enthusiastic me told me how wronged and tired I was! In Education, I have something to say, Qiu Guangxin said, "Students who are in the growing season of their lives may feel even more terrible if they really don't make mistakes."
In fact, only I understand the truth that "education begins with respect". Looking back, I have become a teacher, just like my own teacher. Students who make mistakes are always scolded for their own good. How ignorant! Fortunately, I'm awake now. Although my educational knowledge is poor and my ability as a teacher is limited, I remember that there is no real education without respect. I will never forget my childhood experience and my ideological struggle in the rainy season. Understanding is respect. Teachers should first put themselves on an equal footing with students, starting from a caring attitude, starting from the care of life, moving with emotion, understanding with reason and influencing with personality strength, so that students can truly feel the care and love from the heart of teachers. Suhomlinski said: "Only those who never forget that they were children can become real teachers." Only when you don't forget that you are a child can you understand children. Understand children, love will be concrete and rich, will be everywhere, and will make teachers, students and students full of warmth. Only by understanding and respecting children can students' potential be greatly stimulated. So I want to be full of understanding and love, comfort and encouragement for my children. I want my children to always remember that in the beautiful stage of their lives, some people understand, some people support and some people appreciate themselves.