1. Keep your word.

There is a common problem about children's education. Because of children's temperament, they worry that children will become more and more difficult to manage and have many habits of not growing up well. If you discipline your children, worry will obliterate the innocence of childhood. As a parent, it is really tangled. One parent sings the good COP and the other the bad COP, and the child doesn't know who to listen to. It's just the two of you fighting. Leave me alone when it's over. Minutes can raise the problem of children's education to the problem of marital relationship.

2. Excessive intervention

Contrary to passive education, excessive intervention means that parents are too cautious and pay too much attention to all children's behaviors during their growth. Everything is carefully arranged and taken care of by parents, which almost deprives the child of any personal space in the process of growing up, and the child completely loses the opportunity to try. For example, a child's personal hobbies, as long as they are inconsistent with parents' expectations, parents will not agree or support them at all.

3. Lack of educational consensus

Another situation is that family members lack consensus in educating their children. For example, if a child makes a mistake, the father will criticize the education and the mother will protect it. Especially in the it family, once the elders lack the most basic educational consensus, children will easily lose the correct direction and judgment.

Children are the dawn of a family, and family education has a great influence on children's future growth, which basically determines their three views. However, there are more or less various problems in our usual family education, which will also have a negative impact on the growth of children.

Second, common family education problems

1. complaining about children blindly

An online research survey shows that children who grow up in complaining and complaining families often have these performances: sensitive, easy to feel inferior, afraid to tell their parents a lot of things, choose to bear it silently, and afraid to disturb others. No matter how talented they are, they are unwilling to express their ideas ... The attitude of parents towards their children is the children's view of the world.

2. Make children feel guilty

Parents always say, "I want to sell you iron." "I live for you." Wait a minute. Papi sauce Frankly speaking, although I know my parents' original intention is to inspire me, I only feel guilty. I would think that I caused the worst part of my parents' life. Parents love themselves and have their own life and life pursuit, so that children can pursue the life they want without any burden. If you love a child, let him know that he is not a burden to his parents, but a driving force for their better life.

Open education

Whenever a child makes a mistake, whether in front of teachers, classmates, relatives and friends or other strangers, his parents will immediately educate him. In fact, this is very harmful to children. It is not only harmful to children's health, but also humiliates and deprives children of their dignity, which will bring very serious consequences, and some even endanger their lives.

The problem of education is really not easy. The role of each family member plays a different role in children's education, and no one can be absent. Therefore, in this case, mom and dad must do a good job of division of labor.

Third, how to educate children's parents about the division of labor?

1. Be strict and kind.

Strict father's loving mother is better. In my childhood memory, my father was always strict and my mother was always kind. This division of labor has kept me in love but not spoiled. Father's sternness is about principles and rules, which is relatively indifferent; Motherly love is empathy, reasoning, moistening things silently and relatively warm.

2. One is inside and the other is outside.

I ching said: "home, women are inside, men are outside, men and women are right, and the meaning of heaven and earth is right." Therefore, it is best for a family to be male and female. When I was a child, I often heard my mother say: Early to bed and early to rise, Chen Gu sucks. Simple language expounds a profound truth, that is, I should develop good habits of work and rest. Dad can practice running with his children, whether it's March 9 or three days, without interruption. This is to cultivate my will quality.

3. About the division of labor of children.

Now children's homework is the biggest headache for parents. At one time, there was news that parents accompanied their children to write homework and were scolded for being naive and hospitalized. There are also contradictions caused by both parents not letting each other accompany their children to do their homework. Therefore, parents can discuss who will accompany their children to do their homework and who will help them check their homework before the problem of accompanying their children to do their homework appears. A clear division of labor can improve efficiency, reduce contradictions, and also play a very important role in improving the harmonious atmosphere of the family.

Children themselves are pure creatures, waiting for adults to draw the blueprint of life, so parents must give their children correct guidance and education and establish correct concepts for them. There are still many problems that need attention, and parents need to explore hard.

Four. Problems needing attention in family education;

1. Don't just judge from the perspective of adults.

Parents should remember that the world in children's eyes is different from that seen by adults. In my mother's opinion, this is just a toy building, and it's no big deal. But in the eyes of children, what you are destroying is his "municipal construction". We can judge whether a child does something right or wrong, not only from the adult's code of conduct, but also from his motives and intentions. If you only reason with children according to adults' world outlook and rules, you can only talk with chickens and ducks in the end, which is invalid communication. There is no benefit except to make both sides more angry and emotional.

2. The importance of parents' words and deeds

Set a good example for children. Example is an important way to influence and educate children with other people's good thoughts and behaviors. Such as classmates, neighbors, teachers, heroes and model figures, are all objects for children to learn and imitate. Therefore, parents should always show themselves everywhere in their daily lives.

3. Environmental impact

Create a good environment for children. Parents should consciously create a good living environment for their children to be infected and edified. Family is the main place for children's life. Parents should organize their children's life and handle the relationship between their members.

Both parents agree not to undermine each other.

Education is the most taboo for mom to say that dad is tearing down Taiwan, which greatly reduces the educational effect and affects one party's prestige in the eyes of children. The opinions of both parents must be unified, so that children will not go back to entangle who they listen to and avoid cognitive confusion.

Family education is a problem worthy of our attention. Family is the first educational environment for children. Family education for preschool children is the focus of education, which has advantages different from other forms of education and has great influence on children's life development. So we must do a good job in children's family education.