It's the first time I heard the word example.

The idiom "teaching by example" was seen by children when they were studying in kindergarten and reading Zhuangzi Tiandao at night. What does "expensive" mean in language? Those who follow the meaning cannot be explained in words. "

It means to explain and teach in language; Example: Prove by action. Teach by example. Refers to influencing and teaching others by words and deeds.

When explaining idioms, I read them after the words, which is very simple and easy to introduce. If the children nod their heads to show their understanding, I will laugh it off happily.

Simply follow the literal understanding and know how to influence and teach others with your own words and deeds. I didn't think deeply about this problem at that time. Did I really understand the real meaning when I taught my children by example?

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Appear again and attract attention.

Until two days ago, I chatted with banana peel (banana peel is a junior, he is my writing tutor, awesome. I like to chat with him when I am unhappy), ask him how to educate his children, complain to him that children are disobedient, talk back, and always like to lie ... Children complain to him about a series of bad habits and feel that they have sacrificed so much private space for their children, but what they get is such a result, and they are extremely depressed and anxious inside!

Banana peel first soothed me with a depressed and disappointed face and relaxed my mood. He also recognized my contribution to children and praised me constantly.

But he also put forward some views of his own. In educating children, a situation like mine is also a problem faced by many parents. As a parent, I have paid a lot and sacrificed a lot in my career and hobbies for my children. I thought that children who grew up in such a friendly family environment should be very obedient, love learning, know how to thank their parents and honor the elderly, but the situation is not optimistic now.

Banana peel suggested that I should lead by example, mainly by example, supplemented by example!

This is the first time I have heard this word, and it is still very ambiguous with my original understanding. I always thought that words and deeds were the master. I usually reason with her more and teach her how to do it. I completely forgot the importance of setting an example.

Although my child's uncle also communicated with me about educating my children before, let me set an example, don't play mobile phones in front of my children, spend more time with my children, play together, and grow up with her.

But at that time, I didn't care. I still think I studied hard in those years. Now I feel afraid of that kind of meditation and finally get rid of school. Now I want to go back to my hard-working life. I was so tired that I decisively refused my brother's suggestion.

Now I mention banana peel, which is so cultured and has my own personal opinions, and it also sets an example for me to love reading and learning in front of my children. When children see a diligent and studious mother, they will gradually join in active learning, which is better than forcing her to study by herself. You can also praise her for doing the right thing on appropriate occasions and remind her of what she should pay attention to. I believe she will be very willing to be friends with herself, not the relationship between parents and children.

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The first time you set an example, you will gain something.

After listening to banana peel's advice, I controlled my anxiety and dissatisfaction these two days. I intend to review myself and take action to make my children feel their changes.

Take out the book "The Road to Wealth and Freedom", which has not been turned over for many years, and start to set an example.

Yesterday morning, before the children got up, I had taken out the book The Road to Wealth and Freedom written by Li Xiaolai, which had not been turned over for many years. It looks serious and even reads aloud when it comes to keywords. When the child got up, he saw me reading, rubbed his eyes and gave me another look. He curiously asked his mother why she was so early today and what she was doing.

I confidently announce that from today on, my mother will study as hard as a baby. If she doesn't understand, I hope the baby will give me more advice, and I hope you can urge her to study. She looked surprised, and then said with a chuckle, "You adults still have to learn. I can still make friends with you when I was a child, but I can't. After that, I will be your little teacher. "

I nodded respectfully to her and praised her for being better than myself. My mother studied too long and forgot many words. I need a little teacher's guidance. After all, what she heard at first was a burst of laughter. After all, it was Ma Ma who forced her to do this and that for so many years. Today, it's her turn to be a mountain king. I answered quickly, well, seriously, I hope I can really help you.

I was secretly pleased to see her self-confidence for the first time. She was once told to talk back and resist everything. Now that I want something from her, she naturally flies with joy. The first step is to test small successes.

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I like this kind of communication again.

This afternoon is the day when they finished the final exam and got their report cards. School is over at five, and her father will pick it up after work. I happened to be writing an article in the living room when I heard the door opening. Seeing that I didn't look at her, she wanted to sneak up to me and get the TV remote control.

I looked up at her and wanted her to report her grades, but she looked at me silently and picked up the TV remote control to watch cartoons. Seeing that she is not going to report my grades, I can't bear to remind her that it's time to report my grades.

At first, she gave me a disappointed expression and kept her head low. As if she had done something unforgivable, she said carefully, old lady, I'm sorry, I didn't do well in both subjects.

When I heard that I didn't do well in the exam, I was already very dissatisfied, but in order to change the way of education, I adjusted my breath, pretended not to care, pretended to be calm and said, it's okay, you have worked hard, and I usually look at you very hard. My grades are not the most important thing for my mother. I gave her a big hug.

At this time, she was lying in my arms, looked up at me and said, Chinese 99, math 98.

When I hear this score, I usually complain that I almost didn't get a perfect score, accusing her of why she couldn't be more careful in the exam at that time and check it several times ... it would be nice to get a double percentage.

Praise her for being great now. Although she didn't score 100, it was the result of her hard work for a semester, which was quite good. When she went to the supermarket, she was rewarded for choosing what she liked at will.

Seeing her jump up excitedly, she ran to my side and kissed me a few times. This intimate feeling has not happened for too long. It is very important for her to be sure of her children. Think that she had high demands on her children before and was always dissatisfied with her present situation. She is always running away and rebelling.

It is also a very good way of education to take off the title of an adult, integrate into the world of children, spend childhood with them and find the figure of childhood.