I saw in the video of Fandeng's book club that Alina Zhang said, "My mother is 60 years old, with a waist circumference of 1.9 feet and a big shawl. She leads a very good life and has a very good career. Before 18, I always thought that my mother was the most beautiful woman in the world, and I wanted to live like her. " Seeing this scene, I can't help thinking that most of our mothers in China are trying to improve their children's grades, and they are too anxious to sleep all day. In order not to let their children fall in love with each other, they are busy with family chores, so they forget that they are just a girl who likes flowers, romance and a good life.
If a mother is full of hope for life every day and let her children see that her mother is an attractive woman with ideals and wisdom in life, what will the children do? My answer is: I can worship and imitate. Alina Zhang is a typical example. Her mother played the role of a perfect woman in her growing up. She admired her mother since she was a child, studied her time management and was infected by her attitude towards life. Her mother has always insisted on reading, and her family will have a group reading time at 6 o'clock every night. After reading it, she will summarize the ideas in the book with her own work and study. Parents give their children unique insights and encouragement every day. There is absolutely no such thing as "whose child is excellent" in their family. This is the wisdom of parents to educate their children.
Motherly love itself has fetters on children, so mothers should be careful in the process of educating children and pay attention to ways and means in the process of giving love to children, because imitation is the instinct of children. Sometimes it's not as effective as I heard.
In addition, many people say that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is difficult to do well, but in fact, the biggest enemy in a woman's life is not her mother-in-law or her husband, but her mother. The most injuries I have suffered in my life are from my mother. Because before I met my mother-in-law, my daughter's values had been established, and my mother participated in the whole process of establishing her daughter's values. A large number of data show that narcissistic mothers account for the majority in society. This type of mother always wants to turn her daughter into what she wants. The way for a mother to control her daughter is simple. She always says "You piss me off" and "You give me a stomachache" to make her feel guilty and then compromise. Narcissistic mothers control their daughters to become anxious personalities, which makes many girls be strict with themselves since childhood, always failing to achieve their expected goals and full of frustration.
In my opinion, as a woman, you can't give up something just because you have a lover and children, and you will live a happier life if you insist on it.