First, Dale? Carnegie (1888 ~ 1955)
He was naughty when he was a child, especially after his mother died. He became more disobedient and became a "bad boy" known to the neighborhood.
When Carnegie was nine years old, his father married a new wife. Carnegie was so disgusted with this that he had no respect for his stepmother. He even came up with a series of ideas to play tricks on his stepmother
On the day he met his stepmother, his father introduced Carnegie and his stepmother, and said to his stepmother, "Honey, you know, in front of you is the worst child here." Maybe, tomorrow morning, he will throw stones at you. You should be mentally prepared. "
His stepmother was not surprised by these words, but walked up to Carnegie with a smile, gently touched his head and said to his father:
"I think you must be mistaken, dear. This is not a bad boy, but a clever boy, but he hasn't found a way to vent his enthusiasm. "
These words were like a warm wind blowing into Carnegie's heart, which made him feel guilty about his gentle stepmother.
Gradually, he changed his hostile attitude towards his stepmother and tried to correct his bad habits.
Soon after, Carnegie's transformation surprised everyone. He not only changed the image of a bad boy, but also established a harmonious and friendly relationship with his stepmother, and gradually focused on his studies.
This laid a solid foundation for Carnegie's future development, making him a famous American success master and a world-famous writer and rich man.
Facing a hostile bad boy, Carnegie's stepmother did not use her parents' authority to suppress and restrain him, but adopted a gentle attitude to praise him, which made her quickly recognized and accepted by Carnegie.
Second, Napoleon? Hill (1883 ~ 1969)
His position in interpersonal science, creativity and success is higher than that of Dale Carnegie.
His mother died when he was 10, and his father married another wife a year later, that is, Hill's stepmother Martha.
On the first day, his father said, "This is Napoleon, the worst of the Hill brothers."
Napoleon? Hill was identified as a bad boy since he was a child. The cow got lost and the tree was cut down for no reason. Everyone thinks it's him.
But his stepmother said, "Is this the worst child? Not at all. He happens to be the cleverest of these children. And what we have to do is to bring out his clever qualities. "
Martha soon fell in love with this energetic stepson, who often played some little pranks.
The education and encouragement of stepmother Martha had a great influence on Hill, which benefited him for life.
When World War I broke out, President Wilson used his inspirational secret to train and motivate soldiers and raise military expenses. This makes Napoleon? Hill's name is associated with the history of a country.
When recalling her stepmother, Hill quoted Lincoln's words about her stepmother: "I owe everything I have achieved to her."
Third, there are no bad children, only improper education.
Children's education has always been or will always be a matter worthy of attention and dedication, which is related to children's future and their happiness in the second half of their lives.
In these two stories, the stepmother recognized her stepson and fully appreciated her children with full love, treating them as her own children.
Parents' complaints will make their children grow up wronged, and they may give up on themselves and ruin their lives; And praise a child, he will be grateful, reduce resistance, there will be hope, towards the direction people expect.
Stepmothers and stepfathers are different from their biological parents after all. Because there is no blood relationship with the child, I lost my natural intimacy. So they need to pay more love, tolerance and generosity, be able to see the advantages of children, respect and encourage them.
Children will be grateful for their life and the love of their great parents.