How to communicate with parents? In school, as teachers, we need to communicate with parents to a certain extent, so that parents can safely give their children to us. Next, I will show you the skills of communicating with your parents.
How to communicate with parents 1 First of all, "respect" is the prerequisite for teachers to communicate with parents.
First of all, we should respect the parents of students and put ourselves and their parents in a correct position. Parents, like teachers, are the guides for children's healthy growth and shoulder the heavy responsibility of educating children. Students are educated by teachers at school and by parents at home. It is also for this purpose that our teacher strengthens contact with parents. Teachers and parents are actually allies, and parents and teachers should play the role of education, guidance and demonstration in children's growth.
There is no difference between parents and teachers in terms of social status. If teachers and parents can trust and encourage each other, there will be a friendly, cheerful and cooperative atmosphere. Therefore, teachers should treat students' parents sincerely and equally, gain their trust, strive for their best cooperation, and jointly explore the best educational methods for children in order to achieve the common educational goals.
Secondly, help parents build confidence in their children's education.
Self-confidence is an indispensable condition for success, especially for parents of students with poor learning foundation and poor grades. Some parents often hear negative comments on their children's performance at school and lose confidence in educating their children well. They think their children are useless or even hopeless, so they give up education. Then the effect of teachers' education in school will be greatly reduced, even if it is not a complete failure.
Therefore, teachers must avoid complaining about home-school contact and cannot criticize children blindly in front of parents. If you really need to contact your parents because your child made a mistake, you should also sit down with your parents to analyze the root causes of your child's mistake, and actively reach a consensus with your parents to form a tacit understanding and cooperate with each other to work out the best solution.
Third, discuss with parents the ways to educate their children.
Some parents think that their education level is not high, their cultural quality is low, they are uneducated, or they feel unable to educate their children because of their busy work. Some parents even think that only beating and cursing is the only way to make their children give in.
At this time, parents should be helped to improve their bad educational methods. Sincerely help students' parents to change their wrong educational ideas, concepts, attitudes and methods, but we should not turn a blind eye to the educational methods that parents violate students' psychological characteristics. Whether parents dote on their children, beat and scold them, indulge them, or have different requirements for them, they should help them correct and improve their educational quality.
As long as parents truly appreciate the teacher's sincere care for their children, they will naturally try their best to supervise and care for their children and educate them well.
How can teachers communicate effectively with parents?
First, I think it is necessary to know the family situation of students and the basic information of parents. Because of the differences in parents' occupation, personality and cognitive level, their educational concepts and methods are also different. You can learn about parents' position and educational methods towards their children through interviews, telephone interviews or chatting with students, and even feel whether the family is harmonious, what they are afraid of, what they like and so on. In this way, when we communicate with our parents, we can know ourselves better.
Second, we should have different attitudes towards different parents. For example, for parents who love their children relatively, when communicating, we must first affirm the advantages of the children. In full and objective praise, parents will respect you in return, and then you will gently point out your child's shortcomings, so that he will naturally accept your point of view.
For example, parents who usually ignore their children, regardless of their children, should constantly inspire their sense of responsibility, actively involve them in various educational activities for their children, and also point out the harm that laissez-faire brings to their children's growth.
For example, for the parents of underachievers, we can't always compare horizontally. Parents should see their children's progress and growth, and have confidence in their children, then they will take the initiative to communicate with our class teacher and cooperate with our work.
Third, in today's developed information, we can use all kinds of advanced scientific, convenient and effective ways to improve the effectiveness of communication. Like my school, the forms of communication are varied. For example, contact between home and school, weekly feedback, including students' current situation, homework, fees to be paid, matters that parents should pay attention to and so on.
For example, class QQ group, generally each class has a group, parents (or brothers and sisters, etc. ) Join in when necessary. You can talk about the homework of the day, the students' performance, and the educational experience. For example, in a telephone interview, if a student has any special performance or wants to leave school, the class teacher should inform his parents. Of course, he doesn't exaggerate the shortcomings of students at will, let alone report them.
For example, home visit is the most effective means of home-school contact. Like our school, at the end of each semester, the whole school staff will be organized to visit students' families from top to bottom.
How to communicate with parents 2 1? When communicating with female parents, we should communicate more emotionally, let them know that they care about their parents and children, and then communicate the advantages and disadvantages of students, which will be much smoother.
2. When communicating with male parents, as long as it is practical and concise, too much verbosity and greetings will kill the patience of male parents and have the opposite effect.
Emotional resonance is a magic weapon for doting parents. If you are already a parent, the teacher can talk to parents about their children's parenting experience and confusion as an ordinary father or mother. If you are a new young teacher, you can communicate with your parents about the growth environment that your child really needs.
4. For difficult parents, we must first accumulate evidence. A small matter is not enough to make parents aware of their children's problems. These small problems can be recorded in detail, and persistent problems within a certain time span are more likely to cause parents to reflect.
Parents with high education level may be strong and confident. When communicating, they should first seek common ground while reserving differences. Parents with low education level may fall behind in their educational concepts, beat and scold their children or ignore the majority. When communicating, we should arouse parents' attention and give appropriate guidance.
Communication skills with parents. Several skills of communicating with parents must be killed.
First, we should respect our parents. Respect parents and lay a good foundation for communication with parents. Respecting students' parents is the first condition for teachers to communicate with parents. The social interaction theory put forward by American social psychologists J·W· Whibaut and H kelley holds that the essence of any interpersonal relationship is interaction, and the core of interaction is interdependence, which is called "interdependence" in sociology. It should be said that the interaction between teachers and parents should be "interdependent" interaction, because in this type of interaction, the dominant position of both sides can be truly highlighted and the initiative can be reflected. But in reality, the teacher is often the active side of the interaction, which determines the arousal, progress and end of the interaction, while the parents are the passive side and are always led by the nose. Therefore, respecting parents and making them psychologically equal to teachers have laid a good foundation for communication.
Second, be sure of the child. A trivial compliment from a teacher will make parents feel very happy until it affects their attitude towards their children, such as kissing their children on the cheek and saying, "You are great! The teacher likes you. " The behavior and language of this kind of reward strengthen the children's psychology of continuing to work hard to some extent. At the same time, this kind of affirmation can also make parents face the teacher easily, confidently and happily, and take the initiative to raise some shortcomings or puzzles of their children to the teacher, hoping to get guidance and help from the teacher.
Third, patiently tell parents to use scientific education methods. Many parents don't know how to educate their children because they don't understand their age characteristics. Sometimes the way to educate children is inappropriate, blindly doting and even conniving. Teachers are education professionals. When encountering problems, parents should be inspired and guided in various ways, so that they can understand their children's physical and mental characteristics, update their educational concepts and master the correct educational methods. Parents learned correct educational knowledge from teachers and changed their educational methods in time. At the same time, teachers know children better and distance themselves from their parents.
Overcome the feeling of blaming each other. Facing the underachievers, teachers and parents often blame each other. On the one hand, teachers can't teach it, on the other hand, parents can't raise it. In this way, the two sides have produced opposing feelings. When communicating with parents, teachers should analyze the causes and solutions of the problems in detail to prevent the phenomenon of "exposing shortcomings" and "complaining".
Fourth, treat parents equally and adopt reasonable and effective communication methods. The differences between parents are objective, with different academic qualifications, different positions and different personalities. No matter what differences exist between parents, from the day he sent his children to our school, parents and teachers began a common course-educating children well. Therefore, teachers should learn to communicate with every parent so that every parent can feel the teacher's concern or attention.
5. Teachers should communicate with parents in the way of "transposition". Many of our teachers have not experienced the role of parents, which requires teachers to understand the role of parents and understand their feelings and needs from the role of parents. Children sometimes hurt their hands or heads in group activities, and parents must be very surprised and heartbroken when they pick up their children. At this time, we should understand the role of parents, put ourselves in their shoes, and understand their love for their children (class C students are beaten, communicate with their parents in time, get their approval, and solve things. )。 But some teachers act as if nothing has happened and think that parents are making a fuss. Then, a small incident will immediately make parents feel that teachers are not caring enough for their children and are not responsible enough for their work, which will affect the relationship between parents and teachers and set obstacles for home-school communication. If the teacher cares about the child from the role of the child's parents, or thinks from another angle, if the injured child is his own child, he will naturally understand the mood of the parents and his attitude will be very different. Then the communication between home and school will not be blocked.
Sixth, to give full play to the charm of language art, both sides will inevitably talk about children's shortcomings in home-school communication. As a teacher, parents should be informed objectively about their children's school situation, and should not be mixed with subjective colors and emotions. Teachers should communicate with parents in a calm tone, a euphemistic attitude and a divided view. First of all, praise first and then restrain. First introduce some children's advantages to parents, and then talk about their own shortcomings or areas that need to be corrected, so that parents can easily accept them. Secondly, dilute the child's shortcomings and mistakes. In the eyes of parents, their children are the best. They think that their children have made a mistake, but they are just confused for a moment.
Seven, the common love for children is the basis of communication. The communication between teachers and parents is for a common goal, which is to educate children well. Common love brings parents and teachers closer together and makes communication between home and school more natural and harmonious. However, parents' love for their children is sometimes incorrect, either too much or not in place. For example, when the child fails to complete the task assigned by the teacher, the teacher will educate the child: "Take charge of your own affairs." Some parents, afraid of their children being criticized, take the initiative to excuse their children: "It's my fault, I didn't remind him." Let the children feel at ease. "Completing the teacher's task is a matter for mom and dad, and it has little to do with me." Some parents hate iron and don't produce steel, and accuse their children in public: "What do you think is the end of others? How did you forget? " In this way, children feel ashamed and their self-confidence is greatly hurt. When communicating with parents, teachers should first understand and affirm the parents' good starting point, don't let parents feel depressed, and at the same time give some help, so that parents can correctly educate their children with love and make their children develop socially healthily.