In China, many parents often ignore their children's consciousness, which has a great influence on their children. In traditional education, few parents can find the real reason behind their children's negative emotions.
When my child was three years old, I remember clearly once that my friends took their children out to play with mine. My child has a new type of toy, and my friend's children want to play when they see it, so they start fighting for it.
As a result, my children didn't want to play with their friends and children, and my friends began to try their best to persuade them to leave my children's toys. I didn't choose to interfere at all, but in the end I refused my friends and gave them to my children to play with.
If I am a friend, I should be happy for my children to lose their temper because of toys, which proves that their children can have their own needs and have their own consciousness, so I will refuse to give them toys, not because I love them, but to let my friends' children clearly realize that sometimes losing their temper can't solve the problem.
Many parents, like my friends, will choose to compromise, thinking that there is nothing wrong with everyone taking turns playing with a toy, but for children, in this embryonic stage of self-awareness, parental guidance is the most important.
One or three-year-old children have a small bud of self-awareness. Three-year-olds have their own consciousness. Children in this period have their own feelings about their bodies, so they often use body language to express them, but the expression is very subtle, which is difficult for us adults to find.
At the same time, children in this period will have a brief understanding of themselves, and what they like and want will stay for a short time.
And because the child's expression is very simple, in addition to language and body, so many times if you want to express more emotions, you need more exaggerated expression.
Second, when your child is three years old, the method of discipline will affect the child's self-awareness, and the child will form a psychological balance in the face of parents' education, so if parents use such extreme methods next time, the child will be very scared.
This will seriously hinder the development of children's self-awareness and make children in a stagnant state.
Therefore, when I choose to educate my children, I often choose to directly satisfy their emotions and patiently guide them, rather than treating them directly in a violent way. Such an extreme way will make children more different.
What should you do about the education of 3.3-year-old children? 1, keep the principle of education and learn to refuse children.
In the face of out-of-control children, we cannot blindly support them. We should learn to say no and make them feel rejected. When children know that they are not paid attention to this, they will better set their own balance beam.
Parents need to be clear about their educational principles, and when to compromise and when to refuse, parents need to weigh clearly.
2. Guide children to get rid of negative emotions and return to a positive state.
Sometimes children's sadness and negative emotions are to attract parents' attention, or sometimes they are just venting.
But it is such venting that children are likely to fall into a sad mood and it is difficult to alleviate it.
Therefore, children must learn self-regulation, and parents should guide their children to restore a positive state and let them learn to get rid of sadness and negative emotions.
3. Teach children to solve problems instead of losing their temper.
When many children face difficulties, the first choice is to give up, not to solve the problem. So what we need to help our children is to let them solve the problem first, instead of losing their temper as soon as they encounter problems.
This process requires the patience of both children and parents. Only in this way can children ease their emotions and find themselves.
Whether your child is three years old or not, our parents need to help their children manage their emotions and help them move forward.
Therefore, we need to patiently guide children to develop self-awareness, constantly let children vent with correct emotions, and let children become masters of emotions, their own masters, rather than being controlled by emotions. When parents face their children's emotional catharsis again, they should not take the extreme way of beating and cursing, but should patiently guide them.