Systematic view: the fifth family motto and family inheritance

Introduction: Be a basically qualified family education lecturer.

Righteousness: Righteousness turns people into others.

Feeling:

According to the arrangement of the sixth phase of Yichuan Good Teaching Course, one of the four golden keys to educating children, "Let nature take its course", is taught by Mr. Sun. For some reason, Mr. Sun couldn't finish sharing the lecture. During the group meditation that day, President Chen suggested that Mr. Chang should give the lecture. Teacher Chang is busy with chorus rehearsal, hoping that Teacher Ma will give a lecture. Later, when Mr. Ma communicated with me, he also expressed that he wanted me to talk about this key idea, but I didn't talk about it once, and I didn't have a bottom. In addition, I am a particularly timid and rigid person, unable to be flexible and afraid to fight an unprepared battle, so I have no courage to take responsibility. Teacher Ma accepted the sharing task of this class at a critical moment.

This morning, this class was held in the lecture hall of Du Yuan as scheduled. Under the auspices, Mr. Wang seems to be born with the ability of the host. Her host was calm and elegant, fluent and natural, summed up in place, with frequent golden sentences, and almost didn't read the manuscript during the whole process. She could interact with Teacher Ma in combination with the scene and complement each other. Although Mr. Ma was dying, he made great efforts before class. The collection of cases, the application of videos and the organization of languages have left a deep impression on people. Thanks to the efforts of the two teachers, not only did I have a general framework for the thinking of this key, but I also learned a lot and even reminded me of a long forgotten memory.

This key mainly talks about two points: at the beginning of life, human nature is good, and children should be taught what is good. Everyone has dignity, is eager for progress, and should teach older children at will. Through today's study, I feel that I have gone with the flow in teaching.

When I was a child, my father bought a car to transport coal from Yichuan to Luanchuan in Songxian County, and Dai Yue made three or four trips every day. At that time, because there were few cars, bad road conditions and no cell phone communication, it was inconvenient to refuel and maintain the vehicles. It's hard to imagine how many hardships my father has experienced in running and transporting for more than ten years. When I was a teenager, every time my mother talked to me, she would talk about my father's difficulties: it was not easy to leave home, it was not easy to earn money, and my body suffered. On several occasions, because the weather was too cold, it was difficult for my father to start the car (at that time, the car was called a four-wheeled car, which needed manual stirring to start), coupled with fatigue and hunger, he fainted beside the car several times. Because of my mother's words and deeds, I have been particularly distressed by my father since childhood. In order to reduce the burden on my parents, I never compare with others, eat snacks, spend money indiscriminately and buy new clothes for the New Year. Every time I come home from school, I will silently help my parents do some work that I can, reduce their burden and please their parents. After listening to Mr. Ma's class, I realized that my mother's education method in those days was persuasive, and it was only taught today. This kind of education method also affected my education of children.

When the children were young, I would often tell them about the hardships and difficulties of my lover. Children are kind, too. I remember one year, my lover's foot was broken and in plaster. When eating, 10-year-old son moved to a small stool and gently put his father's feet on the stool. Just after eating two meals, he ran to the back room and took a small mattress, folded it into a small square, put it on the stool, and gently put his father's feet on the mattress. It turned out that my son was afraid that his lover's feet would be flustered on the stool and put on a thick plaster. How could he feel this way? However, good teaching seems to open children's hearts and make them filial and considerate.

However, as children grow up day by day, they begin to have their own ideas and their own world. Now I seem to be still in my childhood, and teaching according to my own wishes is particularly poor. But their mother always imposes her will on her children and is not good at listening to their voices. Doing a wrong thing or saying a wrong word is always a kind of harm and concern for the other party.

Thanks to Mr. Ma's teaching, I once again found my own shortcomings: I am afraid of wolves before doing things, I want to be perfect in everything and want to be recognized by others. In fact, this is a kind of self-reliance, and the only way to break it is altruism without self. Practice alone is not enough. We have not yet achieved the unity of knowledge and action. Without understanding of children, you can't be a caring person.

And all this requires constant learning.