Where is the cloud of girlhood? It feels like she's been pushed out. The cloud was a facade when it was young. According to common sense, she should be in the middle of the line. You can see that basically every endorsement is standing in the middle. Speaking of exclusion, I can only say that I was in the Korean circle when I was young, which was very good. They are very United. . To be honest, I think Sika and Yuner had the best relationship before. Of course, after Sika leaves the league, there will inevitably be anti-fans making irresponsible remarks about her, but believe me, she is not excluded!
What should I do if my 4-year-old daughter is beaten by her classmates in kindergarten? Communicate with the kindergarten teacher first, explain the situation and let the teacher pay attention to it. If there is no improvement after education, you should accept your daughter's advice, because her daughter has already developed a sense of fear there and can't be forced, otherwise the child will be psychologically troubled.
It is suggested that children should be comforted first, and then teachers should come forward to communicate.
So what should parents do when the child comes home and cries? In this serious conflict, parents can do this when their children are crying.
First of all, tell your child "I know you are not feeling well today" to make him feel safe and calm down.
Then parents should take the initiative to communicate with the teacher and calmly understand the cause and process of the matter. If it is a small conflict between children, parents should understand it from the perspective of children's psychological development. Don't worry, think that your children are bullied and wronged. Perhaps, children quarrel one moment and become friends the next, and parents are upset about it, which is totally unnecessary.
In fact, children crying is often an expression. Parents should learn to listen to the meaning behind their children, instead of analyzing and solving them by adult standards.
"If you really encounter anything, please talk to the teacher." I don't agree with the "wolf sex" education that some parents shouted back. Although the elders are distressed, it is not desirable. As parents, we can teach our children to protect themselves from harm and improve their self-protection ability, such as avoiding, for example, covering with other objects, or seeking help from teachers. If you encounter an aggressive child, then parents can also advise the child to reduce the chances of contact with this child.
Deal with and guide the batters to apologize to each other, so that children can learn to be tolerant.
Children are 7 years old, except kindergarten. How to guide children to suffer, and how to educate them? Now most families have only one child, and in the eyes of parents, their child is the best. However, children always have to engage in social interaction. In the process of your interaction with friends, it is inevitable that you will suffer, and he will take advantage. The loss of a child is sometimes material, like what he got you didn't get; Sometimes it's physical, like being beaten by other children. Of course parents care about their children, but what should you say to them at this moment? Must we win it back and get the best? Or do you want to answer blows with blows, and you must never suffer? Many parents expressed their views in the daily supplement forum, and we selected representative parents to speak, hoping to inspire the parents. Is suffering a blessing? When I was a child, my grandmother taught me that losing is a blessing, and those who don't know how to lose will really lose sooner or later; When I grow up, the teacher also said that losing is a blessing; When I arrived at the unit, the superior leaders also said that it is a blessing to endure hardships. My ears are calloused, and I feel that it is not a blessing to suffer. When I have a daughter, as long as I feel that my daughter has suffered, I will personally get it back for her. If I can't finish the task, I will also mobilize the men at home to continue their efforts. It seems that it is a great shame not to get it back after eating. I preach in front of children from time to time that you just can't be bullied. Don't talk after eating, and people won't bully you every day! We don't bully people, but we are not bullied. Anyway, our daughter can't be bullied casually. In this environment, my daughter grew up gradually. When she was four or five years old, I found that she became overbearing. Children in kindergarten and neighborhood were bullied by her. Every time she comes home in trouble, I will severely criticize her and apologize to others. However, no matter how I educate her, it is useless. A few days later, she bullied others again. I said to her father helplessly, "Who is this child with?" It doesn't hurt at all, and it always causes trouble. ""You are used to it, but who do you want to ask? " The child's father complained. Think about it, my daughter's toy was robbed, and I will go to others until they nod their heads and admit their mistakes. My daughter was pushed around by other children in kindergarten. I'll ask the teacher for an explanation, and I won't take it out until I apologize to my parents. All of these, which one is not unreasonable, everything does not suffer? It turns out that my daughter's bad temper is the result of my education! It really cost me a lot of money and almost hurt my child. In the subsequent education, I pay attention to setting an example, and some things are not deliberately pursued by others. Some people have already apologized, so they should forgive others, forgive others. Even if sometimes children are really suffering, we just tell each other that we don't care about losing some money, but you shouldn't do that, even if it's over. Especially when I encounter losses outside, I don't care about setting an example. Once the company organized a tour and stayed in a hotel room near the sea, but another colleague took my key and pretended not to know that I had taken it wrong. I led my daughter to the other side: "Do you like the sea? My daughter and I like it, too. Great, we are all people who love the sea and can play together. "Although it seems that we suffered a loss in this matter, the other party thought that I would settle accounts with him, but we didn't care and made him feel guilty. So, during the whole browsing process, he took good care of my daughter. After I came back, I specially changed the position next to the plane porthole to my daughter. Through these examples, my daughter has gradually changed. Now my daughter can not only understand that losing is a blessing, but also teach other students! As for me, in the process of educating children, I understand what the old people often say: suffering is a blessing! When children get along, there are always things to take advantage of, and they are worried that their children will be bullied by other children. It is estimated that every parent has had such an experience. Older children, especially boys, always provoke others when they are free. If you occasionally offend the children at home, we adults look at it this way: you must show your attitude, let him know that you don't like what he does, and you can tell him publicly and privately. Boys have more face, and private communication may be more acceptable to each other. Private reconciliation is often effective, and it is easier to reach an understanding when there are only two people. Disputes between friends and classmates value peace, but some people take pleasure in bullying others. For this kind of person, you either can't stand it and fight with him to the end; Either relax, generally don't care about him, make him feel bored and shrink back. Which one to choose, the key is which one you can accept more. Both of them have their advantages and disadvantages, and they are well trained, but you have to understand one thing, you can't compete with him and eventually become like him, which is a complete failure. Interpersonal relationship, like international relations, is a complex problem full of variables. It is impossible to have a specific plan, but there is a general principle. Just like peaceful coexistence in international relations and non-interference in each other's internal affairs, people should also coexist peacefully and not enslave each other. This is the most basic principle. If he tramples on your personal dignity and treats you like a human being, then you have nothing to worry about. Don't be soft on such people, forget it if you don't start, and stop him if you do. As parents, of course, I hope that both sides can solve the problem and nothing serious will happen. The way of using force is always the best policy, and the way of wisdom is the best policy. Of course, on the other hand, you can't take pleasure in bullying others. These metaphysical empty arguments don't know that they don't work for children. In a word: eat small losses, boys should not be so stingy; If it is a matter of principle, it will be a big loss and you can't eat it. When you can't solve it, you can tolerate it appropriately, but patience is not an end, but a strategy before solving the problem, which will eventually be solved. The children in our family have always been gentle and kind, and everyone loves them. He is not good at using force, but he has several excellent friends. I haven't heard what they did. I have a Swiss style in my life. I am active in self-defense, strong but not attacking, and peace is the goal. But once, a person in the school challenged him again and again. He kicked the guy on the toilet and couldn't get up. Everyone was happy when he came out of the bathroom. The so-called loss is a question of tolerance; The so-called "no loss" is a question of how to relieve patience, from children to adults to the country. Self-reliance, respect for others' attitude and problem-solving ability are the key points to stay away from losses. After being beaten, I first found out that my son was wronged, and that was when he was in kindergarten. My son is introverted and seldom talks. In kindergarten, he often plays alone and doesn't want to talk to children. I asked my son about kindergarten, but he never answered me. In order to improve his introverted personality and know something about him in kindergarten, I chat with him every night before going to bed. At the beginning, I always tell him something about what I did that day, what interesting things I met, and so on. Sometimes it's trivial to the details, such as what kind of porridge you ate for breakfast and how many steamed buns you ate. Today, I saw a child carrying a Teletubby bag, which was beautiful ... Whether he wanted to listen or not, I always took him as an understandable adult and took pains to say it. One night, after listening to my speech, he actually changed the role of an audience and began to tell me about him. "Mom, Dong Huan won't let me wash my hands today!" "Are you? She won't let you wash your hands? " "I stood beside her and washed my hands, and she hit me." My heart hurts at once. I saw the picture of my introverted and cowardly son being bullied by his children. I taught his children a lesson in my imagination. Soon, I calmed down and I had to talk to my son. He is asking me for help and ideas. He has to learn to analyze and solve problems by himself. "Let's discuss how to solve this problem." I began to seriously analyze with him. Why don't we start with hitting people? "It's wrong to hit people!" The son said. Based on my son's conclusion, I added in time: "I agree with you. You won't hit anyone, will you? " Then start to analyze how to solve the problem. "Think about it, is there any way to make her stop hitting you?" We came up with four ways: avoid, tell the teacher, loudly say that you didn't hit her right, stop her wrong behavior and hit her. Next, he and I briefly analyzed the advantages and disadvantages of the four methods ... To be honest, I didn't expect my son to solve the problem by himself at that time, but I didn't report the situation to the teacher the next day. I leave this problem to my son to solve. That night, my son said that he told the teacher, and I was a little surprised. In the next few days, when chatting at night, I asked "by the way" if anyone hit him. Fortunately, the child who hit him never hit him again. Later, when his son grew up, he transferred from kindergarten to primary school. He is still bullied, such as who kicks him during the nap, who scratches his face after class ... Every time, I will discuss with him the right and wrong behavior and how to solve the problem. The founder of the problem-solving method has gradually changed from me to him. It may be a habit formed invisibly. Now, when encountering problems, my son can always come up with several solutions, and can tell the advantages and disadvantages of each method, so he will choose it more decisively. This is purely a windfall, hehe, I got an unexpected gift, but I can't buy it! Good for evil, good for evil. There is a child Niu Niu in my daughter's class. I've heard three teachers in my class say that Niu Niu loves to hit people. Because teachers rarely make negative comments on a child, we can see the seriousness of the problem. Asked why Niu Niu loves to hit people, Niu Niu said that what Mom and Dad said should not be bullied. The teacher reflected the problem to the parents of the children, and the mother of the children taught the children in this way on the pretext that their children were often beaten and bullied when they went to the small nursery last year. In fact, children have just entered the long journey of life, and it is most important to cultivate healthy psychology and good personality. Everyone's growth process is also a socialization process. We have learned a lot of skills and cultivated a lot of morality since childhood. In the final analysis, how to adapt to society. Niu Niu's parents seem to have found a magic weapon to make their children stand in society. Their original intention is to protect children from bullying, cultivate their overbearing character, and let them not suffer in the adult world in the future. It is true that there are many unreasonable and imperfect phenomena in the adult world, but it is absolutely wrong for Niu Niu's parents to do so. Let's not talk about the big problem of children's lifelong personality cultivation. At present, because of the inconsistency with the teacher's educational concept, teachers will naturally classify such children into different types in general teaching, which also brings pressure to children's life in kindergarten, and children have to pay for their parents' mistakes. Niu Niu's parents did this not to help their children, but to harm them. Children's life is very simple and consists of two parts, one is kindergarten or school life, and the other is family life. Parents are worried that their children will suffer in school life, and the teacher's educational philosophy is still relatively healthy. Any teacher will strive to establish a good class atmosphere, and will not particularly pamper and bully a child in class work. In school, children are forged according to a standard. Children's different personalities are definitely determined by their parents' differences, and their behavior reflects the views of adults. I don't agree with the view that suffering is a blessing, and I don't agree with the attitude of "a tooth for a tooth, an eye for an eye". Everything should be analyzed objectively and realistically, so that children can learn to protect themselves and cultivate a healthy attitude towards life. Confucius particularly emphasized the discretion of doing things, neither allowing "excess" nor "deficiency". Someone asked Confucius, "How about good for good?" Confucius said, "complain straight, and repay good with good." I think the answer to the question of how to deal with children who suffer losses should be found in Confucius' words.
What should I do if my 4-year-old daughter is bullied by her classmates in kindergarten? Sometimes, she should remember to educate her children and pay attention to the wording so that they can be kind. If there are contradictions between children, they should find a teacher to solve them, or parents can't just find children. It is king to let children live in harmony, and nothing else is useful. It is normal for children to grab a toy or something. Adults should intervene reasonably and let children learn something from it, such as sharing.
My daughter was expelled from school because of her outstanding talent. What can I do to make friends with people who are equally talented? To tell the truth, keep a low profile at school and don't be too conspicuous. Ask the teacher for help.
What if a child is excluded by other children in kindergarten? If children have the same resistance as other children, you can teach them to return. Otherwise, if you are always bullied by other children, you will form an escape state in adulthood.
My daughter was excluded from the dance class. Should she be allowed to study? Interest class is the word "interest", and even the word "interest" can't be done. Why did she join the interest class? If children like dance classes, they can choose to change dance classes.
My daughter is often scratched in kindergarten. What can I do to make her learn to resist? Only when she is strong will she not be bullied! It is also necessary to talk to the teacher, but the teacher is not always watching! Only by yourself is the last word! People like to pick soft persimmons these days!