Zijun went out of the family for the sake of marital independence, regardless of all criticisms and difficulties, and even shouted the voice of pursuing individual freedom. Although Juansheng is not as brave and enthusiastic as Zijun, they finally broke through many obstacles and established a hopeful family on the basis of common ideas and resolute struggle. Why their love will eventually break down, the main reasons are:
They live in an old society where women have no chance.
At that time, people always only maintained the spirit of ethics, feudal ethics, three cardinal principles and five permanents, such as chastity and filial piety. In their eyes, the marriage of young men and women should be "the fate of parents, the words of matchmakers." If someone violates this rule, all they get is spit on and punishment.
Although Zijun is a new woman who accepted the new ideas of the May 4th Movement, as long as a person lives in this society, he will inevitably deal with people in this society and will unconsciously accept other people's comments and comments on you. She can't get rid of the family status arranged for women by the feudal ruling order for thousands of years, that is, she is attached to the subordinate status of men. Society does not allow her to go out to work, nor will it give her the opportunity to work, so Zijun's life can only rely on a trickle, and all he can do is housework. The heavy housework such as raising children made her lose herself, her vision became narrower and narrower, her personality gradually disappeared, and her fighting spirit became more and more depressed.
The flower heart gradually lost, and her wings were broken, so that when love died, Zijun could only go back to the past and be taken away by his father. Maybe she has been hurt all over by her love, maybe she is numb and just goes with the flow.
Yes
(B) Juansheng and Zijun's love foundation is not solid
Although Juansheng and Zijun were both educated and influenced by western freedom, equality and personality liberation, they both opposed the shackles of feudal ethics and strived for personal freedom of marriage. In that era when old ideas firmly bound people's hands and feet,
Their advantages quickly aroused each other's interest and produced a good impression, which is the basis for their mutual attraction and love. However, Zijun's education of traditional culture is much deeper than that of new ideas and new cultures, and her acceptance of new ideas is limited to superficial and deep connotations, which she does not understand. Zijun's courage to resist feudalism and her unremitting pursuit of love are entirely due to her blind love for Juansheng. She also
I don't know that Juansheng was only moved by her courage and outstanding tolerance against feudal ethics.
(3) They don't know enough about marriage.
Zijun got Juansheng's love in an anti-traditional way, but he still expressed his love for Juansheng in a traditional way. Bound by the old ideas, Zijun willingly became a housewife with a skirt. Undisputed obedience, wholehearted attachment and meticulous care, she expressed her love for her husband in the way she recognized and was told, just like every woman for 5,000 years. Zijun thinks that she left home for him and took care of his daily life.
I have done my duty of love. And neglected that the love between them should come from the collision and communication of hearts. "How can the canal be so clear, and there is running water at the source?" Zijun doesn't understand that she still needs to inject freshness into love and marriage from time to time.
The vitality, so that her flower of love will not wither, her married life will not die.