Girls of the same age are more worried. They can not only help share the housework, but also study well and have a glib tongue, especially when they meet the parents of girls who like to show off. Compared with his own son, he is nothing.
Many parents are nervous and even anxious about the boy's discouragement.
Actually, it's not necessary Because boys are born later than girls, whether psychologically or physically, you may even find that some girls of the same age are taller than boys.
Parents who have boys don't worry, don't be impatient. There are ingenious ways to raise boys and learn how to deal with their rebellion, which is much better than violent education.
The philosopher Plato said, "among all animals, boys are the most difficult to control and deal with."
This is because: boys' prefrontal development is slower than girls', their self-control is relatively weak, and they are impulsive.
Coupled with testosterone, boys are energetic and easy to become rude, aggressive and aggressive.
Therefore, it is not a bad thing for a boy to be naughty. On the contrary, it proves that the boy is full of energy, but his parents need to work harder.
Strong parents, using violent means to make boys yield, are actually challenging their children's bottom line. Once he didn't want to endure it any longer, it broke out completely. Parents will think, "Why is my child so obedient and suddenly do such a rebellious thing?"
Boys who are educated by their parents in a violent and tough way seem to yield, but behind them are resistance, confrontation, violence with violence, and even revenge.
If you hit your child, he won't stop loving you, but he will stop loving himself. This is a dangerous signal. Boys rebel because their parents are too "strong"!
1, coveting convenience is the foreshadowing of educational failure.
Active boys are smart, sunny and energetic, but active boys are also prone to inattention and carelessness. Surprisingly, neurotic children often do better in school than those who study hard while playing.
Because learning focuses on thinking and concentration, those seemingly casual boys are as "active" in thinking as their personality.
When a child's shortcomings turn into advantages, parents should feel gratified.
On the contrary, obedient children tend to form a "naive personality", focusing only on learning and saving trouble, which is the foreshadowing of educational failure.
2. Violent education of boys will only be counterproductive.
Sometimes you may even find that when you educate your child with violence and beat him up, one day you will sigh: I can't beat him at last ...
Qian Qian, a friend, often sighs: "My son is in the fourth grade of primary school, and his homework is sloppy. Once he teaches, he will be abandoned. Now I think it's hard to beat him. In another year, he is likely to fight back ... "
Exclamation is the helplessness of a mother who hates iron for her children, and it is also the extreme of education methods.
Educating children with violence can only make them seem obedient to you on the surface, but subconsciously it inspires their rebellious "seeds." This is also why parents think that junior high school boys are more rebellious and can't control them.
3. Educate parents of boys to learn to show weakness.
Parents should learn to show weakness when educating boys. The male chauvinism of many boys has infiltrated from the subconscious. If you have a good talk with him, you can still communicate friendly. Once parents exercise "privilege", they will jump up immediately.
Boys have subjective consciousness since they were about 6 years old. He wants to do things according to his own ideas and doesn't like being tied down. This is also the wildness of boys.
Therefore, parents need to have "skills" in their hearts to educate the boy and communicate with him in a lower voice and a calmer mood, even if you are already angry. Stop yelling, it's no use.
Reasoning with boys should be concise. The more you criticize him, the more impatient and even disgusted he will be. Educate a boy, the more parents nag, the more rebellious the child is. In public, give the boy face, maintain his self-esteem and praise him, and he will behave.
Boys are psychologically sensitive. Some boys have strong self-esteem, but they are very fragile inside. Any education that ignores boys' psychology is futile.