I remember an educator's famous saying, which probably means that when students realize your educational intention, education loses its function. Indeed, the beauty of education lies in that it has no trace of education. In the sense of natural fluency it gives people, that is, in the personality infection of teachers and students, in the collision of hearts, in understanding and listening, and in sincere encouragement, it has silently completed the mission of education. There are various methods of "inaction" education, which are listed as follows.
1, set an example
An educator's demonstration, a silent example. The ancients said that "he is honest and has no orders to do things", which is about the role of setting an example. Teenagers are good at imitation, and educators' behavior becomes an example, which will naturally produce great educational power, which is the subtle influence of "moistening things quietly" Leading by example is the primary method of "teaching without class". With a good example, the task of education is half finished.
The garbage passage of the new teaching building of the school was blocked, and the general affairs office put a seal next to the crossing-"No Dumping". In the next two months, after cleaning, the students will cross the playground and dump the garbage in the garbage chute of the old building.
The headmaster went to work after the operation. After finding the seal, he picked up the iron bar and went through the garbage passage. A teacher who saw him told him, "The General Affairs Office has posted a notice." . The headmaster said, "Your sewer is blocked. Is it unnecessary to put a seal on it? " The teacher was speechless. "I want to live my life at school!" The headmaster's words were deeply impressed on the teacher's mind. Later, she also became a principal, always remembering "taking school as home".
Step 2: Listen.
With an open mind, educators listen carefully to the frank complaints of the educated object, and urge the other party to realize self-psychological adjustment in venting. When people have psychological conflicts, what they naturally need is someone to talk to. Educators should be good at listening, that is, they should listen to any idea of the educated object (of course, it is not necessarily correct), express their own understanding, guide the situation in listening, and let the educated object draw the correct conclusion by itself. Psychologists believe that listening carefully is half the task of psychological counseling.
I remember a friend who is a doctor once said such a thing: one of his patients was diagnosed as terminally ill. Patients often go to see him while taking medicine. My doctor friend often talks to him because of his professional habits, or just listens quietly. On one occasion, the patient talked a lot about his past, present, happiness, sadness, various moods and worries after illness. My friend listened for a long time. When the patient finished speaking, he was relieved and much more relaxed. Later, I heard that the patient's mood had been very stable before his death, and the cooperation with treatment was much more active than in the past. The doctor judged that the life of three months was extended by nearly one year. My friend told me that he was glad that he didn't give the patient long-winded comfort and advice that day, but just listened quietly. He said insightful: "I don't know if this is my role, but I know from this incident that only the body can be prescribed and treated, but listening can suppress a person's spirit."
3. Motivation
Educators implicitly and profoundly touch the minds of the educated, mobilize their enthusiasm and creativity, and develop their potential through various means such as language or writing. Motivation comes from respect and trust. Unexpected treatment can often shock the hearts of educated people.
An unforgettable memory of a primary school principal's score in the exam when he was a child;
Due to the transfer halfway, my homework is much behind. After a math exam, I handed out the paper, and I took it in fear. I was very surprised. The teacher didn't grade, only wrote two words: "Oh dear!" . At this moment, I understood the teacher's mind. The teacher doesn't believe me. The teacher is giving me a chance. The teacher is waiting for me. The teacher waited for my efforts in such a kind joke. I'm determined to make up the lessons I left behind. Sure enough, I got full marks in another exam.
Many years have passed, and I have gone through countless exams and read hundreds of papers, but only one has no score and says, "Oh dear!" My test paper has become an eternal treasure in my heart.
4. Experience
By creating situations, we can guide the educated object to realize emotional experience through personal experience, get real feelings and understand the nature and laws of things. Without experience, there is no complete educational process. Experiencing success is an effective way to cultivate self-confidence. In the experience, I got "I can do it!" The enhancement of self-confidence consciousness.
In order to overcome her timidity, a mother asked her fifth-grade daughter to buy 10 Beijing Evening News, which was sold at the original price. Half an hour passed and the child couldn't open his mouth. After ideological struggle, I overcame my vanity, started shouting loudly, and finally sold the newspaper.
Selling newspapers in downtown areas is a situational activity. Children have been tempered, experienced success, and gained ideological gains that cannot be obtained by preaching alone.
Step 5 compare
So that the educational object can find the gap in the comparison of events or emotions, and the mind is shocked, awakened and enlightened. There is no understanding without comparison, and there is no education without comparison. The greater the contrast, the deeper the impression. In contrast, finding the level of moral realm will naturally lead to shame and self-blame, thus achieving a leap in understanding and spiritual sublimation.
There is a story that an ancient warrior was bent on becoming the world's first shooter. He visited famous teachers and trained hard, and finally achieved the goal of hitting every shot. Soldiers are very complacent. One day, I met a monk in the deep mountain. The monk knew his archery and pointed to two eagles flying in the air. The samurai got the message and shot one of them with an arrow, but the monk said, "Why use a bow and arrow to get the eagle?" A master should shoot without shooting. " . After saying this, the monk raised his hand and pointed to an eagle in the air, only to see that the eagle was badly beaten and landed at the monk's feet. The samurai was frightened and sighed, "This is the highest state of archery!
Step 6 make a detour
We don't preach directly on the topic, but use psychological hints to inspire associations and other ways to let them know the laws of things and understand the true meaning of life. It is often a successful strategy to retreat in order to advance and detour in order to go straight.
A middle school student is a biology lover and has collected many specimens. His mother is a teacher. One day, the mother found that her son was in a low mood. Instead of asking directly, she said to her son, "Mom is tired today and wants to go to the park. Will you go with your mother? " The son agreed. When visiting the park, in the face of all kinds of plants, my mother kept asking questions and my son kept answering them, showing a wealth of knowledge.
The mother found her son in a particularly good mood when he did his homework at night.
7. Blank
Abandon arranged substitution, leave creative space and time for educational objects, and mobilize their initiative. In order to achieve the actual effect of education, it is often necessary to wait. Patience is a great teacher.
When Yang Zhenning was a graduate student in The National SouthWest Associated University, his tutor was Mr. Wang Zhuxi. One day, Mr. Wang asked him to write a paper "Order and Disorder in Solids" and let him refer to a book. Yang Zhenning couldn't understand the book, so he asked Mr. Wang for advice. Without saying a word, Mr. Wang asked him to read the second book. Yang Zhenning couldn't understand the second book, so he went to ask Mr. Teacher Wang still didn't talk about it, but recommended the third book to him, and asked him to look back at the second and first books after reading the third book and express his views on the first book. After reading the third book repeatedly, Yang Zhenning read the second book and the first book, and really wrote an excellent paper.
8. Tolerance
Fully understand the mistakes and reasons of the educational objects, and let them reflect on themselves in an unexpected generous attitude and relaxed environment. The application of the art of war "winning by surprise" in the field of education is the acme of educational methods. The tolerance of educators makes the educated object feel ashamed, which is the real educational poem.
A student's personal wishes were not met, and he made a sharp remark to the teacher. The teacher didn't give any explanation, but wrote her a little poem:
The land tolerates seeds and gains;
The sea contains rivers and seas, and it is vast;
The sky contains clouds and has magical colors;
Life forgives regrets and has a future.
After the student took it, he pondered for a long time and suddenly smiled. She thinks life is really beautiful, and she is naive.