1, pay attention to the family education of children in junior high school. Observing the importance parents attach to children's education, nursery parents are often stronger than primary school parents, and primary school parents are stronger than junior high school parents. Many parents think that their children will learn when they are older when they are in junior high school, so don't worry. Over the years, many parents, when their children have learning and behavior problems, will say, "I will pay the tuition, and educating their children is your school's business." If the child has a problem, the school should be responsible. " This is not simply shirking responsibility, but parents' understanding of family education is problematic. Parents are children's first teachers and lifelong teachers. Junior high school is a critical period for children to learn to lay a foundation and initially form a view of right and wrong and life. Parents' responsibilities are heavier, and the guidance and education for children can not only be relaxed, but also strengthened.
2. Understand the characteristics of children in junior high school. Family education is an important task for parents from birth to adulthood, especially in junior high school. If parents want to do their children's education well, they must clearly understand the characteristics of junior high school students in study, life and psychology.
Seventh grade: When students enter junior high school, they first have a sense of freshness. They stepped into the middle school gate with excitement and pride, saw the new campus, met new classmates and gave lectures to new teachers. They are full of freshness about everything around them. Facing the new environment, they are full of new hopes. They generally have a good vision and desire for progress in the future middle school life, and are eager to leave a good impression on new teachers and students. Even students with poor academic performance and bad behavior in primary schools often make up their minds to start over. Therefore, new parents should be enthusiastic and encourage and have high hopes. Students with good grades in the past should be encouraged to lay down their burdens and start friendly competition with their classmates at the same starting line; Students with poor grades and unsatisfactory grades should be encouraged to start from scratch, and never expose their original "old background" in front of teachers or classmates, so as not to dampen their ambitions. Of course, it is necessary for parents to tell the teacher the truth about their children's situation (including shortcomings and mistakes), but they should pay attention to methods to avoid embarrassing their children in public.
Children will gradually encounter some difficulties after entering junior high school. First, the difficulty of learning knowledge. Compared with primary school, many subjects such as English, politics, history, geography, biology, etc. They have all been added to junior high school, and the learning burden has obviously increased. Many students can do nothing about it. The second is the difficulty in learning methods. In primary school, I mainly study Chinese and math. The teacher followed closely from class to tutoring and even doing homework, and spoke very seriously and clearly. After entering junior high school, subjects increase and knowledge increases. Teachers are not as nervous as primary schools. Therefore, many students' knowledge in class is not systematic enough, their homework is not completed well, and they are even unwilling to do their homework. After a long time, your grades will be affected. Third, the characteristics of knowledge are difficult. The knowledge of junior high school is more abstract than that of primary school, such as mathematics and geography. If rote learning alone is not enough to solve the problem, students will feel uncomfortable and have difficulty in learning. Fourth, due to the influence of the senior high school entrance examination, the study time in junior high school is relatively tight, and the examination frequency is relatively high, and sometimes students feel psychological pressure. Parents should keep abreast of these new situations that are likely to occur after their children enter junior high school, often communicate with teachers, understand their children's adaptation to middle school, and take corresponding measures as soon as possible to help their children get a good start in middle school.
Grade 8: Students in Grade 2 are not as fresh, idealistic and passionate as Grade 1, nor are they faced with graduation as Grade 3, and they feel pressure ideologically and academically. Therefore, it is the most critical period for children to go to school in the second year. The first is the differentiation in learning. After a year's study, some students have adapted to it, and some students feel that they have more and more knowledge and it is a bit difficult to study. For these students, more energy is needed to keep up with them. On the other hand, once the mentality is relaxed, it becomes a student with poor grades, that is, students with almost the same grades, and their grades are polarized. The second is the change of thinking. Students who perform well are more mature. They actively approached the Communist Youth League and worked hard to become the right-hand man of the teachers in the class. However, a few students often lose confidence in progress and even give up on themselves because they can't keep up with their studies. If there is no timely help at this time, or if you are lured by unhealthy young people in society, your behavior may get worse and worse, and even go to crime. The third is physiological changes. Most junior two students are about 14 years old, and generally enter the second peak of growth and development, with rapid physical growth and secondary characteristics. Boys are aggressive and impulsive. They worship heroes, respect the loyalty of Jianghu and love to show themselves in front of girls. Girls love beauty, pay attention to dressing up and are sentimental. They think they have grown up, so they always want to be independent in thought and behavior, but they lack the ability to distinguish truth, goodness and beauty from falsehood and ugliness, and are easily influenced by the outside world. Therefore, at this stage, bad behaviors such as alcoholism, smoking, puppy love, running away and minor crimes occur from time to time. Parents generally believe that at this stage, children have begun to understand and can let go. But the fact is that "Troubled Autumn" requires parents to carefully observe their children, communicate patiently, and actively communicate with the school to jointly do a good job in children's counseling.
Ninth grade: Children enter the third grade. With the approach of the senior high school entrance examination, most students can't help but get nervous, and teachers and parents also hold on tighter. At this stage, most students have a strong sense of urgency, while a few students with poor foundation show lack of confidence and even give up on themselves. As a result of entering adolescence, sexual function is becoming more and more mature, and people are full of curiosity, longing for contact and even admiration for the opposite sex. Therefore, in this year, parents should educate and guide their children's outlook on life, achievement and employment, adjust their psychological pressure and help them get through the critical period smoothly.
3. Create a good tutor environment. After understanding the characteristics of children's junior high school, parents have a certain theoretical basis by cooperating with the school to do a good job in children's education. But these are not enough. It is still very important to create a good family education environment for children's growth. Although children are very different, the good family education environment is common, and the unique naturalness, strong pertinence, ethical authority, extensive educational content, emotional appeal and subtle influence on words and deeds of family education are common. So how to create a good tutor environment?
First, parents should strengthen their self-cultivation. As parents, we must be strict with ourselves, honest and law-abiding, and enterprising. It is certainly uncivilized for a parent who is full of swearing words and children to speak. Only when parents' quality is improved can they give their children more positive influence and play an exemplary role. Locke was a famous British educational thinker in the17th century, and he paid special attention to the role of role models in education. He said: "The simplest, easiest and most effective way is to set an example in front of them." A good example can inspire people to make progress, while a negative example will drag people down. For example, a middle school student of 14 years old talked about the reasons why he stumbled in the labor camp and said, "I usually like to read some pornographic books and periodicals, which my parents brought home." It can be seen that the influence of parents' casual behavior on children is subtle. Parents should pursue their own careers, be full of confidence in life, respect knowledge, and have certain specialties if possible, which is more conducive to educating their children. Of course, it doesn't matter if parents have low education. It is important to set up a good image for children in language and behavior. Second, family members live in harmony and get along well with neighbors. How parents treat their elders, how to deal with neighborhood relations and how to treat others will affect their children. Especially after children enter junior high school, they have grown up. Parents should be treated equally, and some things at home can be discussed with them. Parents should criticize themselves if there is something wrong. If parents do not handle these problems properly, it will affect their prestige and the healthy development of their children's psychology. For example, a junior high school student wrote in her composition that "whenever she heard her parents quarreling endlessly over trivial matters, it was as if she had personally participated in a war, and she couldn't wait to leave home at once and never wanted to enter this home again". Her dissatisfaction with the family environment is revealed between the lines. Children living in such a family environment will definitely be negatively affected in their studies and psychology. Third, pay attention to the educational atmosphere of family environment. The family layout should be comfortable and aesthetic, and take into account the characteristics of children's learning period. In addition to the necessary daily necessities, it should also reflect noble interests. Conditionally set aside a separate room for children as a study and living space, guide children to hang some elegant pictures in the room, or encourage people to make progress, to help children create a good learning environment. Fourth, family work and rest should be regular, and children's lives should be well guaranteed.
As a competent parent, we should take good care of our children's schedules and adjust our schedules according to their school hours. For example, when children are studying at home, try not to invite friends to play at home, control the volume of watching TV, get up early in the morning to prepare breakfast for their children and so on. These seemingly trivial things have a far-reaching impact on their growth.
4. Take the initiative to contact teachers and support the work of the school. To educate a child well, it is not enough to rely solely on parents or teachers. Close cooperation between the two can form the greatest synergy and promote the growth of children. Therefore, families and schools should establish a working relationship of mutual respect, mutual trust, mutual support and mutual understanding. Some parents, especially those of students with poor academic performance and behavior, are very reluctant to see their teachers, which is wrong. On the one hand, because they don't know enough about their children's learning and performance in school, they lack purpose in their education; On the other hand, it will be a psychological blow to children and I feel that my parents can't see me. I am definitely not. Therefore, parents should actively communicate with schools and teachers, understand their children's school performance, and cooperate with school education to make family education more targeted.
First, as a teacher's helper, children often talk to their parents about the teacher, how students talk about the teacher, and talk about some shortcomings of the teacher. At this time, parents should not blindly obey, but talk more about the advantages of the teacher they know and help the teacher to establish prestige in the children's hearts, because only by convincing the children that the teacher is willing to listen to his class can they learn the subjects he teaches well. Of course, a teacher's shortcomings should also be corrected through appropriate channels, such as correspondence, communication with teachers or school leaders and so on.
Second, support the work of the school. Some parents don't support their children to join some collective organizations or serve as student cadres in schools, thinking that it will affect their study. This idea is wrong. It is an important opportunity for children to participate in community organizations or serve as student cadres to exercise and improve their abilities. As long as the study time and activity time are arranged organically, they will not delay each other and will promote each other. Parents should give support in this regard.
Third, take the initiative to visit schools and teachers to cooperate with school education, so you must take the initiative to visit schools and teachers. In this way, parents can be in a more active position in home-school contact, and they can have more in-depth and detailed exchanges with teachers on children's education when they are prepared. When visiting the school, you should visit both the head teacher and Mr Duan. It would be better if you could contact the teacher in advance. It should be noted that when there are no special circumstances, don't go to the classroom to find the teacher who is teaching, so as not to affect the teaching.
Fourth, encourage teachers to visit their homes. We should warmly welcome teachers' home visits. Whether children can be present at home visits depends on the specific situation. If parents and teachers have obvious differences in educating their children, they should let go. Parents should listen carefully to the teacher's introduction, requirements and suggestions, and don't interrupt the teacher's words easily, let alone feel embarrassed when hearing the child's shortcomings, or rush to defend, or beat and scold the child on the spot. Parents should also reflect their children's performance at home realistically. They can't talk about advantages just to leave a good impression on their teachers, nor can they say that their children are useless just to show that they are strict with their godchildren. After the home visit, parents should have a heart-to-heart talk with their children, tell them the advantages of their children in an expanded way, harmonize the relationship between teachers and students and encourage their children to make progress; At the same time, unify the requirements of teachers and parents and give children some hope and suggestions. Never have a teacher's home visit, and the child will be beaten, so as not to let the child have resistance to the teacher.
Fifth, parents who know and participate in class management should actively participate in parent-teacher conferences, and must not be absent or ask other family members to attend on their behalf unless they have to. Don't be late or leave early to show your support and respect for the school and teachers. Don't speak too long at the meeting. If you can't talk about some ideas at the meeting, you can exchange views with the teacher alone after the meeting. After the parent-teacher conference, we should convey the contents of the conference to our relatives so as to unify our understanding and maintain the consistency of family education.
In a word, junior high school is the first step for children to move from childhood to adulthood, which is very crucial for their later life. Grasping this stage of education means that children have a good start in life.