Mimi, who recently published her third book, Let the cows go and they will eat grass themselves, said that "obedience" is the biggest burden in Asian education-every child is required to meet the expectations of socialization in performance and behavior, so Mommy forgot what she was like when she was a child. "I have never grown up, so I think I can understand children very well. However, this is also my cover door. I don't like socializing, so I can't make a lot of money (laughs). From a utilitarian point of view, I am not very successful. 」
Replacing outcome theory with participatory process
As an advertiser, Mi Gu said, "The most important thing in advertising is to communicate with customers. If I say something today, but my son doesn't pay the bill, I will actively try to make adjustments before I can sell my product (that is, my idea)! 」
For example, children used to forget to turn off the water and lights and waste toilet paper. Mother's practice at home is to constantly scold her grandson, "Why are you so wasteful?" But these curses are useless to children. Mimi's approach is to show in the film that when the ice melts, polar bears have no place to live, and finally they can only swim to death in the water … and tell the children that everything we do now may affect polar bears. Let the children draw some polar bears and stick them on the switch. Children who love animals will remember to turn off the lights and water whenever they see polar bears.
Disciplining ≠ beating and scolding, refusing Asian fast food education, Mimi, a lost mother, got lost and created an elk when she was 9 years old, and began the road of graphic writers. Coupled with Mimi's brother's humorous creation, the fan page "Lost Explosion" operated by Mommy Mimi has a popularity of 300,000, and the mother-child relationship is deeply concerned by everyone. What does Mimi think of children's education? It's no use beating and scolding children. In the company, most people do everything the boss says. Outside, customers are always the first. They gave all their goodwill to their bosses, customers, neighbors, relatives and friends. When they get home, they get impatient when they meet children-you just listen to me and I am your boss! In fact, parents have worked hard to raise their children, but when they are angry, they stop listening and can't fight.
Mimi believes that when parents say these words, they should know that these words are useless, so Mimi often spends a lot of patience and time on some things repeatedly. "I think long pain is better than short pain. I'll do my homework first, and then it will be easy. " Mimi shared the experience of a person who had experienced it.
Stick to principles and never give up.
Before going to kindergarten, the explosive brother at home staged a drama of crying and playing tricks almost every day, and once insisted on playing mobile phones for 3 hours! Parents may cry for about half an hour, so they are afraid of being tired and bored and give up their weapons. However Mimi cried with him for three hours.
To this end, Mimi also paid her parents who lived together to go out to the movies, and then told Bao Ge that "Mommy knows that you really need to cry now, and you can continue to cry" and told the truth to the children, but Bao Ge, who was only 3 or 4 years old at that time, could understand only a limited part. However, Mimi let the children know through uncompromising-whether they understand or not, they can't do it! Later, when I met the same thing, Mimi stayed with her crying brother, only this time she cried for 2 hours and suddenly stopped crying. The third time, I only cried for 40 minutes, because the child found that my mommy seemed to be very hard. Later, I broke my brother, and almost didn't cheat by crying and grabbing the land.
Most parents think that their children will not listen to all kinds of scolding because they are "unprincipled". This phenomenon just shows that the education of Asians is very fast. They hope to use the most efficient method to prevent children from doing things that adults don't like, and children will be afraid after scolding. However, after becoming a mother, Mimi found that what the child was afraid of was the current mood-"My mother hit me, which was terrible! But I couldn't figure out why I couldn't do it or why I was beaten, so he did the same thing next time.
Some mothers think Mimi's behavior is cruel, but Mimi doesn't think so. "Aren't you cruel to spend every day beating and scolding children?" I think this is more difficult! It is best to hold the idea that long-term pain is better than short-term pain and grasp the principle. 」
Disciplining ≠ beating and scolding, refusing Asian fast food education, Mimi, a lost mother, got lost and created an elk when she was 9 years old, and began the road of graphic writers. Coupled with Mimi's brother's humorous creation, the fan page "Lost Explosion" operated by Mommy Mimi has a popularity of 300,000, and the mother-child relationship is deeply concerned by everyone. What does Mimi think of children's education? Don't simplify! Discipline doesn't mean beating+cursing. Many people think that discipline is beating and cursing. Mimi, who grew up in the education of beating and scolding, was beaten by the teacher at school. "I didn't go to Peking University or National Taiwan University, but now I haven't gone astray." So Mimi thinks that if she was treated differently when she was a child, maybe it would be better now.
"How can everyone go to the north to study? Did you pass the exam? Mimi thinks that you shouldn't force every child to be exactly the same. Achievement is only a small part of life. If your child likes dancing, why not let him dance? Just like my lost brother likes cooking, why not let him do it?
There are many possibilities for discipline. Making good parents is more than strict discipline. In a creative way, you can throw away the whip and the child will run forward.
Autonomous learning is better and faster.
According to the idea in the traditional system-when children come home from school, they should quickly put down their schoolbags and do their homework; On weekends, when I saw the children having fun, I scolded them: "What are you playing? Have you finished the homework for the cram school? " "There will be an exam tomorrow, and you are still playing!" I don't pay attention to sports and leisure, but only care about grades, so I have raised a bunch of mothers and strawberries.
When these parents scold their children, they should think about why their children have become like this. Parents deprive their children of learning opportunities first, and life is full of parents and talented classrooms. Day after day, suddenly one day, let the children decide everything. Of course, he is at a loss, but it is really unfair to call him "how come you have no idea about your future" at this time.
Mimi thinks autonomous learning is very important! If it is something that children want to learn, they can learn it well. On the contrary, if they are forced to learn, if you hit me, I will take a step, and if you don't hit me, I won't go. It is impossible to learn well.
Do your duty first, then you can enjoy your rights. Many mothers will say to their children, "You wash the dishes, I'll give you 50 yuan", "I'll give you 100 yuan exam" and "I'll buy you toys for the top three in the speech contest". Snowballs will get bigger and bigger, and it may take 20,000 to 30,000 yuan for children to move when they go to college.
Mimi clearly tells the children that everyone has a task in this world, one is responsibility and the other is right. Only when I have fulfilled my responsibilities can I enjoy my rights. I never use this kind of material reward, but use something that children like instead. Children will gradually know that if I do my homework and housework carefully every day, I can have a good time. However, doing housework in the lost house seems as interesting as playing games.
Recalling her childhood, Mimi hated washing dishes very much, because every time she tried her best to finish washing, her mother would say, "You washed it badly, I'll wash it again!" " Mimi doesn't want to wash the dishes, but she will be scolded by her mother for not washing the dishes. Why are you so lazy? ""What will you do when you get married? 」
However, the lost brother and the exploded brother have been washing dishes by themselves since they were two or three years old. It's strange that such a small child washes the dishes clean! Mimi will pick out the cleanest one from these bowls and praise it greatly, so that children can get a full sense of accomplishment from it and feel very funny; Compare dirty bowls and point out where there is vegetable residue and oil; He also named the clean bowl Xiao A and the dirty bowl Xiao B, and told the children, "If all the little Bs were washed like Xiao A, you would be great!"! 」
Lazy mommy raises capable children.
Some parents will tell their children to "help me" with the dishes. Mimi won't say that, but the other way around. When the child is sick or has something to do, Mimi will wash the dishes and tell the child, "I helped you wash the dishes today." . Unlike most adults who think that children are doing things for adults, Mimi will make children feel that this is his business. Mimi smiled and said, "I am a lazy mommy." I have to raise a capable child so that I can cross my legs and rest! " 」
Disciplining ≠ beating and scolding, refusing Asian fast food education, Mimi, a lost mother, got lost and created an elk when she was 9 years old, and began the road of graphic writers. Coupled with Mimi's brother's humorous creation, the fan page "Lost Explosion" operated by Mommy Mimi has a popularity of 300,000, and the mother-child relationship is deeply concerned by everyone. What does Mimi think of children's education? Learn to accept children's imperfections.
Some mothers pursue perfection, such as drying clothes, folding clothes or washing dishes. Children must not do very well, so they just do everything by themselves. Mimi reminds such a mother, "all capable people can never start, so don't complain about how children can't do anything in the future!" " ! 」
My brother's clothes are still in a mess, and Mimi is still slowly guiding and teaching. There are always 1 and 2 pieces folded well, so I continue to encourage him. "I am very casual. I can accept that children fold clothes in a mess, and I won't unfold and fold his hard-folded clothes in front of children. Otherwise, if you hurt your child's self-esteem, he will care about this. It is precisely because Mimi can accept children's imperfections that children's learning and progress begin earlier.
Many parents in Taiwan Province Province don't allow their children to make mistakes, for example, the dishes are not clean, the grades are not good, and they can't help calling someone outside. Mimi, who spent a lot of time with her children to make mistakes, felt that she didn't make mistakes, so how could she do it right!
Family life after class is beautiful and rich.
After finishing the daily housework, children can "have fun". The so-called enjoyment may be going straight, visiting the night market and making desserts. Different from some children, their parents don't pay much attention when they go home, as long as the children don't make noise, so it's very interesting and wonderful to play with their toys, watch TV, play tablet after class, get lost and explode the family life of the two brothers.
Children want to eat cheese, but don't know how to do it, so they first look up recipes online, then go to the supermarket to buy materials and go home to cook with their children. When you want to eat snacks, go to the supermarket to buy your favorite fruits and vegetables or meat slices, cut them, wash them and dry them, which is not only delicious, fun and reassuring; Sew old sweaters that can't be worn into needed handmade products. I also like to get lost and explode in gardening and plant the finished fruit seeds. Guava at home has grown very tall, and fresh fruits and vegetables can be harvested every year.
It is more fun and meaningful to use both hands and brains.
Mimi mentioned that there was a fire at home before, and many toys were destroyed. In the process of discarding, the two children were actually indifferent, and even some toys were fished out to find their existence. Mimi thinks that plastic toys don't have much creativity. They can only attract children's attention for two or three days, and then throw them there to pursue the next plastic toy. This is not only a vicious circle, but also not environmentally friendly.
Later Mimi found that it is "hand-made" that can make children play for a long time, play well and have fun. Whether cooking, sewing or kneading mud, it is more fun and meaningful to find your own needs from life, meet your needs with creativity, and create unique handmade works with your hands and brain.
Lost mother (Mimi)