This is a question I often see in Zhihu or Weibo.

To be exact, I deeply feel that the subject only limits "education" to "cognitive education", that is, when to teach literacy and arithmetic.

But "education" is obviously much broader than cognitive education.

Cognitive education is knowledge-based and biased towards intelligence;

"Education" also includes non-intellectual factors such as emotion and values.

Although China has not yet issued a guide to the learning and development of children aged 0-3, the five development areas of preschool children, namely, physical health, social emotion, scientific mathematics, language cognition and art, put forward in the guiding documents of preschool education provide us with important reference.

Generally speaking, preschool education before the age of 6 is the foundation stage of life, and the focus of education is not how much knowledge to learn, but the cultivation of more basic habits and character. Education before the age of 6 is closely related to academic performance in the future and whether it can adapt to the society well.

If life is a train, whether you can exercise a strong engine and hone its wear resistance before you are 6 years old will directly determine how far and how stable you can go in the future.

Remember, life is a marathon, not a sprint. Don't judge children by temporary gains and losses.

In this sense, the education of children even starts from marriage.

Because this determines the micro-environment of children's future life.

According to the ecological theory of brenner, a human ecologist, it is the micro-environment-family environment that is crucial to human growth.

Therefore, if you are really responsible for your children, you should carefully consider getting married and choose the marriage partner.

If you are hesitant to marry someone, ask yourself the ultimate question, "Do you want your future children to be like TA?"

I always insist that the reason for having children can only be "loving children".

Because of love, you will take pains and not be afraid of hardship.

All efforts will make you "I do".

Anyone who gives birth to a child for other reasons has mixed "love" with impurities:

For example, because the boss is a daughter, you have to fight for a second son;

I always believe that such a birth implies unfairness to the eldest daughter, who will always be wronged inadvertently after her son is born; Because this son has inherited the high hopes of the whole family, he will inevitably be paid too much attention when he grows up. Is this good for the growth of TA?

Adler, the pioneer of individual psychology, has long discussed the influence of birth order on personality, so if you know that your child's future life is not satisfactory, will you still choose to give birth to TA? Isn't this worthy of serious consideration in a responsible manner?

For example, because the relationship between husband and wife is not harmonious, there must be a child to ease the relationship between husband and wife;

Emotion is also a kind of resource. If you spend too much on unhappy feelings, you will lose a lot of energy to the right and worthwhile people and things. Parents' feelings are not harmonious and seemingly respectful, but in fact they are as cold as ice. No one can tell what impact this will have on children's future views on marriage and happiness, but I believe it will not be a good impact.

Children can only be born because they love children.

Love can produce happiness.

Social psychology believes that behavior will affect attitude.

Many parents who are not ready to give birth, even if they are not ready to be parents at first, will gradually accumulate deep parent-child feelings with their children and begin to love them.

Love because of parenting.

Therefore, even if you are not a natural beauty in born to love, you should nurture TA with love and try your best to make up for the fact that TA is not a natural regret of born to love.

For whatever reason, if you decide to have the baby in your belly, you should consciously carry out prenatal education.

Whether it is because prenatal education can really promote children's intellectual development,

Or because all mothers who are interested in adhering to prenatal education are not lacking in educational literacy;

Mothers will think that everything that may be good for their babies is better than nothing.

Only the satisfaction of this kind of psychological comfort is also in line with the "exogenous gain" advocated by Chinese medicine-the mother's external living environment and psychological environment directly affect the pregnancy environment of the inner tube baby.

After the baby is born, real education begins.

When you first met TA, what kind of life did you want TA to lead?

What kind of happiness do you want TA to have?

Please always review your initial heart during your child's future growth.

(Please look forward to the next part, the focus of education for 0-3 years old)

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