Learning Chinese studies can cultivate children's "three hearts"
First, cultivate children's filial piety.
Our parents and teachers want our child to be a caring child, because caring is the foundation of being a man, and the core of education is to cultivate a healthy personality. No matter what college children go to, they should have love, which is the success of education.
The cultivation of love is not an easy task. It is found that some children are particularly independent now because they are only children. They only care about themselves, ignore others, say hurtful things, say whatever they eat, don't give it to others, don't understand their parents' hardships, and are rude and disrespectful to the elderly.
How to do such a difficult thing?
We want to cultivate love by cultivating filial piety.
Because we cultivate children from the shallow to the deep, from the near to the far.
Children first feel the love of their parents. He has an instinctive reaction and feedback, imitating adults to do things, and also has an inner gratitude and cherish. At this time, encourage and guide him, and his filial piety and love will be easily cultivated.
For example, when my son was two years old, one night, our family ate watermelon. I cut the watermelon into pieces and put it on the table so that he can show it to everyone. Soon, he knew which piece was the biggest. First, he picked up the biggest piece, stood still and looked around. Finally, he gave me a look, and I gave him a hint with my eyes: then I gave my grandmother the second largest watermelon, and my grandmother immediately said: My grandson must have a future; Then I gave my father the third largest watermelon, and his father praised him: It's great that I have such a good son! Gave me the fourth largest watermelon, and finally gave me the fifth largest watermelon. I said, son, you are great! Watermelon is left, so you can be rewarded for eating more. When I was sleeping that day, he said to me, mom, you know what? I want to give you the biggest watermelon. I thought for a while and you said, "When you eat, you should give the best food and the biggest food to the biggest person, which is a good child, so I will give it to grandpa." However, I still want to give it to you first. " I said to him, I know you think so. You have always been a good boy, making your mother happier than eating watermelon. He nodded as if he understood.
Every time he eats bananas, the first thing he does after peeling them is to give me a bite. If I am busy and don't eat first, he will be unhappy. He won't be happy until I have a bite first.
It is very important for children to have a grateful heart. ...
He spent half of his first month's salary on buying gifts for his family, and I didn't listen to what my mother said until I got home. He said to me: Mom, I didn't buy you a present, but I don't know what your biggest need is. I'm afraid that the gift I bought can't be exactly what I want, so I'll give you 500 yuan salary in the second month, even if you buy the gift yourself, I'll give it to you. The next month, when he gave me 500 yuan, my eyes filled with tears. It's good to be a mother.
Experts remind: the education of children without love is unsuccessful. Don't let children eat only snacks. When eating, they must think of people who are related to them. The minimum requirement is one for each person. Words and deeds, the power of example is infinite.
Second, learning Chinese classics can cultivate children's love.
What did our ancients say?
Saint Amethyst said: The beginning of life is beautiful.
The same nature varies from upbringing to upbringing.
It means: when people are born, they are kind in nature and have little difference in personality. However, due to different education, their habits are very different.
Case: There was a Lu Gang in Peking University who was admitted to the doctor's degree and went to the University of Iowa to study for a doctor's degree in space physics. After arriving in the United States, his studies were excellent, and he won the first place in ten exams. American experts say: this child will win the Nobel Prize in the future. As a result, after he got his doctorate, the first thing he did was to buy a pistol, because after he went to the United States, China University of Science and Technology later sent a student to the University of Iowa, named Shan Hualin. He not only got excellent grades, but also had a good personality. He came later than he did, and got a doctorate, and was elected as the president of the college student club by the school. Lu Gang thinks that a university professor is partial to mountains, and he wants to get back at them. At the graduation ceremony that day, I shot two American professors, then Shan, then the dean's office, then the dean's office, and finally myself, killing six people in less than ten minutes. Shocked the United States and shocked the world.
Later, the reporter went to know his parents, and his mother said: Lu Gang has no filial piety at all. After he went to America, he didn't contact us and said to me, What did you help me? Relying on my own skill and cleverness, I gave my parents a passbook and said, just give you a little money, as if my parents were beggars in front of him. Lu Gang looked down on his teachers, classmates and parents, and only he was the greatest.
Parents, if you have a son of a college student, are you still proud? Still proud? This is a failure of education.
Parents' love is the most precious and abundant educational resource for children. No education in the world can surpass the power and energy of parents' love, because parents' love is unconditional, unrequited, selfless and great, but you must let your children cherish this love.
Among family members, children often miss their parents, and parents often miss their children, forming emotional interaction, which is a kind of love ability.
Third, learning Chinese studies can cultivate children's compassion.
Mencius said: compassion is the purpose of benevolence; The heart of shame and evil, the end of righteousness; The words of the heart are the end of the ceremony; The heart of right and wrong is also the end of wisdom.
Meaning: compassion is the bud of benevolence; Shame is the bud of justice; Concession is the bud of ceremony; The heart of right and wrong is the bud of wisdom.
Benevolence, righteousness, propriety and wisdom are four kinds of ethics advocated by Confucianism.
Parents, if you want your children to have four kinds of ethics, please look at the classic "University". The first sentence says:
The way of university is to be moral, to be close to the people and to stop at perfection.
This university is not today's Peking University Tsinghua. It refers to profound knowledge and profound knowledge. The purpose of the university is to carry forward the aboveboard morality, make people abandon the old and innovate, and make people reach the most perfect and highest realm.
Virtue is fundamental. Some things have happened in today's society: "tainted milk powder, gutter oil, fake egg, dyed steamed bread, and so on. People who do these things are immoral. Since childhood, our parents hope that their children will stay away from these shortcomings and people, from low-level ideas and social rubbish, cultivate their aboveboard moral character, let them know how to be filial to their parents, respect their teachers, study hard, and become the pillars of the motherland and the people most in need of socialist construction when they grow up.
Mencius said in describing his ideal society:
Respect the elders in my family, so as to promote respect for the elders in my family.
Take care of my children, thus promoting the love of children's children.
When supporting and honoring your elders, don't forget other elderly people who are not related to you by blood. When raising and educating your younger generation, don't forget people who have nothing to do with you.
We should care about other people's parents as much as we care about our own.
We should care about other people's children as much as our own.
Confucius said, "An old friend is not alone in his relatives and children, so that the old can be supported, the young can be used, and the young can be strong and lonely." The idea is,
It means that people not only love their parents, but also love their children, so that the elderly in society can live and work in peace and contentment, mature people can contribute their talents and children can grow up smoothly. So that husbands who have lost their wives, widows who have lost their husbands, orphans who have lost their parents, the elderly who have lost their sons and the disabled can rely on them.
This is the virtue of our Chinese nation, and it is exactly what our society is doing now. Everyone has medical insurance and everyone has social security.
Parents, learning Chinese studies can make children have the heart to honor their parents, can make children have love, and can make children become the pillars of the motherland and the elite of society!
I wish every family happiness and every parent success in educating their children.