It is said that education is the cause of love.
Without love, there is no education.
Suhomlinski said, "What is the most important thing in my life? You can answer without hesitation that you love children. "
Mr. Lu Xun said: "Education is rooted in love."
Teacher Xu Xia also said: "Love is the background of education."
As a teacher, I have been engaged in teaching and educating people for more than twenty years. I thought so before, and I also wrote an educational essay entitled "Love is the best education". However, in the past two years, combined with my own education and teaching experience and looking at the experiences of colleagues around me, I began to reflect, is love really the best education?
If you insist on this, then, I want to ask, are children lacking love now?
It is true that what children need most now is love. The love of mom and dad, grandparents, grandparents, and seven aunts and eight aunts are all gathered in the children. Some care about the body, and some care about learning; Some buy toys, some buy clothes; Some are responsible for three meals a day, while others are responsible for pocket money. ...
Where does such a child lack love? This is excessive love. What kind of results will excess love lead to?
There is a child in the class, one out of forty people, so he is not sensible. I don't learn anything in class, either sleeping or talking, no one is watching, and I am unscrupulous. The teacher takes care of him and sticks to his neck. I can't communicate freely when I get along with my classmates, and my tone of voice is particularly impulsive. If you don't agree with a word, you will punch. Bullying classmates and ordering them to do this and that for him.
As far as I know, and according to himself, everyone is very kind to him at home. Besides mom and dad, there are grandparents, and more importantly, there are his three aunts. His parents went out to work, and there was something wrong with the school. The child was a little uncomfortable. A phone call soon brought the third aunt. Such a big aunt can be regarded as "a good big aunt in China"!
I wonder, is the child doing well at home? I didn't know until I saw his grandmother that among the children in the family, this one was disobedient.
Grandma said that this child is the first boy in a big family and has been spoiled since childhood. How are you used to it? In primary school, children were late for school, teachers punished them, and the whole family made trouble with the school and teachers and threatened to sue them. From then on, the teacher gave up the child, regardless of it, and dared not take care of it.
To what extent is this child spoiled? After school on Friday, I smoked in the dormitory, and the leader on duty just went to the dormitory to check. Other children who smoked quickly threw away their cigarette butts, except him. Ask him why he didn't throw it. Answer: "I don't want to throw it!"
As a result, classes were suspended for two weeks!
Such a child is by no means a case. Many children who grow up in the nutrient solution of love are not diligent, many do not know right or wrong, many do not know respect, many are self-centered, regardless of right or wrong, and arrogant.
How many parents of baiwenhang love their children wholeheartedly? Countless, right?
Children receive so much love at home. Now, teachers are required to love them and care about their daily life, their mental health, their learning and growth, and their ideological trends. ...
Just like a small tree, it has enough rain and sunshine, enough nutrients and water, and will continue to water and fertilize. What will happen?
A few years ago, when I was a class teacher, my children gave them a warm look, gave them a simple gesture of patting their shoulders, or wrote an encouraging word in my exercise book. Children will be happy for a long time and will be deeply remembered. Nowadays, many children, whether parents or teachers, give them more love, and they are not satisfied and grateful. They just take it for granted and even want more.
Teachers and parents, what they do for their children, can touch the sky, touch the ground, but can't touch the ground. Many children are indifferent, even indifferent.
So I want to say that as a teacher, I should love my profession and my students, but the love of teachers must be different from the love of parents, not connivance, not connivance, not unconditional satisfaction, nor bottomless forgiveness of mistakes. The love that teachers give children should be correct love and more scientific love.
Before, I listened carefully to Professor Qian Wenzhong's lecture, and he emphasized not to give in to children again. I am convinced!
Children's blx, we must consider the child's endurance and pay attention to the way of speaking; If a child makes a mistake, he can't be punished if he is protected by the law on the protection of minors. He should persuade education slowly; If there is a contradiction between the child and the teacher, it must be that the teacher's words and deeds are inappropriate; The teacher punished the children who made mistakes. If they don't make trouble, they will be informed criticism, or even lose their jobs. Teachers can't treat children as scoring machines. Can children go to college without grades? Teachers can't be harsh and sharp, and the real society is so cruel that they can only treat your children gently?
Love is not the only education, nor the best education. This is just one of many ways of education. It is also reasonable that strict teachers make excellent students and filial sons make great achievements. At the very least, through the education of teachers and parents, children know what they can and can't do, and they will bear the corresponding consequences if they make mistakes.
The children we cultivate may lack knowledge, but they must not be discounted. We educators should refuse to cultivate giant babies!
A small tree, in the process of growth, will inevitably grow redundant branches. Pruning them may hurt for a while, but after the pain, they can become towering trees and pillars.
Please ask our experts and our superiors to stop emphasizing that love is the best education and teachers to love their students unconditionally. Let us be truly responsible for children's growth and future, and let them become normal people, physically and mentally healthy people and responsible people!
For children, we can and should love, but we should love rationally and healthily!