Should be silent, should be calm, should be cautious, should be frugal, and the four should be good and good. Avoid excessive desire, rash action, sitting around and putting others first. Four people are seriously ill.
Do it often and you will get a constant formula. Don't forget that if you don't help, you will get a step-by-step formula.
Respect this heart, then the heart will be fixed; Gas restraint, then flat. Nothing is lacking in human nature, and nothing can be added to human nature.
A gentleman's heart is too small, but his temperament covers his life. The villain's mind is unstoppable, but his will is confined to one corner.
Anger is a tiger, and desire is an abyss. Anger is like fire. If you don't stop it, you will start a prairie fire.
Desire is like water. If you don't stop it, it will be terrible. Punishing anger is like destroying mountains, and smothering desire is like filling gaps.
Punishing anger is like extinguishing fire, suppressing desire is like waterproofing. When my heart is relaxed, everything is out of control.
If the heart is negligent, everything will go unnoticed. Nothing is natural when the mind lasts.
Careless thoughts are the wrong start. The difference between one thought and another is wrong.
Ancient scholars worked hard at heart, so appearance was a symbol of virtue. Nowadays, scholars work hard on the outside, so if they are inside, it will be a disease of virtue.
As long as the heart is not presumptuous, there is nothing wrong. Only when the mind is not negligent will there be no ambition.
In the face of adversity, we must use pioneering methods; When you are in prosperity, you should use the convergence method. The world is weathered, and our hearts are refined.
The world is cold and warm, and we are patient. On the other hand, we have the resources to practice.
Justice in the day and the sky is cultivated from the cracks in the dark room. Spin dry to Kun economy, effective from deep position.
Fame comes from humiliation, and virtue comes from patience. Modesty is the first step to protect yourself.
Calm is the first step in doing things. Tolerance is the first step in dealing with people.
Free and easy is the first method of nourishing the heart. Behave yourself when you come.
When anger comes, behave yourself. When you are lazy, behave yourself.
Behave yourself when you are presumptuous. Self-detachment, treat people with things, nothing is clear, gain something, be complacent and indifferent, be frustrated and calm.
Static energy braking, sinking energy to control buoyancy, wide energy to control tension, slow energy to control urgency. Only quiet people can taste the real taste between heaven and earth.
There is a real machine between heaven and earth, and the quiet can see through it. Talented and slow-heating, you must be a great talent.
With wisdom and harmony, thinking is great wisdom. Avoid exuberance, fullness of heart and dew.
What has a role must be extraordinary. A wise man never reveals his talent.
Rough-headed and impetuous, nothing can be achieved. Calm, thousands of auspicious parallel.
Secular troubles should be tolerated. You should be free where the world is in trouble.
If you want to be pure gold and beautiful jade, you must forge it from fire. You have to walk on thin ice to hold up the sky.
People value quality. If they are a little dirty, they are not indomitable men. If there is anything to be ashamed of, it is not the character of Taishan Beidou.
People strive for glory, and when they ask for it, they are greatly humiliated; People compete for favor, and when they come by favor, the world is extremely cheap. The nobility of a husband lies only in his reputation and integrity.
I show off my husband, but I want clothes for everyday life. Men are ashamed to be concubines.
I really can't chisel, my Lord, I haven't lost my heart. A gentleman should be honest in things and humble when taking over.
In the matter of villains, they will flatter, flatter, be proud and be careless. Li Chao is not a good person, and neither is living at home.
He is not a good student at ordinary times, so he was not a good student when he was a child. Learning is like being a virgin, so why not be afraid of others.
Being an official is like marrying a daughter-in-law, and you have to support people. Go back to the forest like an old woman and teach people.
You can't see wealth when you are poor, and you won't be arrogant when you succeed in the future. When you are rich, you should not forget poverty. Once you retire, you will not complain.
Mo Yan was a bitch before you. He would call me and ask for his recommendation. Mo Yan is poor in front of the rich, and he will call me to beg for his pity.
I just hope people will appreciate it, but I will forget it. A gentleman owes money to others, and he must pay it back if he receives it.
Being in harmony with others will make you strong and irresistible. Grasp yourself and you will have flexible rights.
Make people famous in the front, but if you don't make people corrupt in the back. Make people happy in the first place, if it doesn't make people tired for a long time.
As charming as a nine-tailed fox and as clever as Kuzu, alas, I am ashamed of this seven-foot body! Fighting three tigers with violence is better than two-headed snakes, but it's a pity that it's broken Rolling around, laughing at Iraqis complaining first? Why are you so close to the ground? Finally, I'm going to ask you, why is the heart lighter than life? What is more important than wealth? Rich boys want officials to pour money, while corrupt officials sell goods and neglect their duties. Brothers analyze chopsticks and translate them into division.
Scholar-bureaucrats love money, but books stink. Scholar-officials should benefit future generations, not seek happiness for them.
Respect for family rules, respect for thrift, teaching farming and reading, and accumulating yin virtues will also benefit. Wide field house, marriage help, what to fight for, fame, this is also a blessing.
Beneficiaries are long, those who seek happiness are thick and short. Scholars should cherish the name of this life, not the name of this life.
Dunshi, integrity, caution and respect, this precious name. The city is also famous for bidding for the list, inviting dignitaries, doing things enthusiastically and learning from examples.
People who cherish fame will rest quietly; The name of the city is impetuous and clumsy. Scholarly officials should be family assets, not family assets.
It also costs money to help the party, extensively repair, save the famine, apologize and help the righteous. Singing and dancing are taught in the garden, which is extravagant and expensive.
Those who use money, those who gain or lose: those who harm others, cover them up when they are full. Scholar-officials should cultivate themselves for the world, not cherish themselves for the world.
Preserving appetite, reducing distractions, and abstaining from anger and dieting are also good for your health. It is also a pity to adjust interests, avoid labor and grievances, camp in caves and houses, and keep your wife.
Those who cultivate themselves are big, but those who cherish them are thin.
2. Describe a person with no culture in classical Chinese 1. The Book of Songs, Wind, Rat and Spring and Autumn Period was collected by Yin Jifu and edited by Confucius.
Rats have skins, people have no instruments, people have no instruments, and they live forever!
Rats have teeth, people are endless, people are endless, and death is endless!
Squirrels have bodies, people are rude, people are rude, and Hu will not die!
Translation:
Look at that weasel with skin. How can people lose face? I'd rather die than lose face.
You see this weasel is full of teeth, but people don't care about virtue. If people have no virtue, what are they waiting for if they don't die?
You see, weasels still have limbs, but people don't know manners. People who don't know etiquette should die quickly.
Second, the behavior is unreasonable, and I am afraid of reading articles if I play badly. -Cao Qingxue Qin's Dream of Red Mansions
Interpretation: Activities do not conform to secular etiquette, stubborn personality, and do not like reading.
Third, the eyes are long in * * *, and they only recognize clothes but not people. -"Yong Zhen" by Wen Qing Yingjiang
Interpretation: people who write clothes are ungrateful, and their eyes only look at clothes, regardless of the hard work of people who make clothes.
Extended data:
Creative background:
The Book of Songs, Wind and Mouse is a satirical poem, and its satirical object has different opinions. Predecessors generally have two opinions on this issue: Preface to Shi Mao thinks it is impolite to stab the incumbent, and Jian Zheng obeys it; "Lushi" thinks that this is a wife's admonition, and Ban Gu's "White Tiger Yi Tong" inherits this theory.
Although Kai He, Wei Yuan, etc. expounded the latter theory, most poets did not adopt it, but started from the preface of Mao's On, because the content of the expression was not consistent with the abhorrent feelings revealed in this poem.
Sogou Encyclopedia-The Book of Songs Wind Rat
3. Self-cultivation has four meanings in classical Chinese: 1. Refers to the cultivation and self-cultivation of Taoism. Song and Zhao recorded the return of guests. Volume 2: "Liu Gongquan's book is like a mountain of Taoist priests, and his self-cultivation has been completed." 2. It refers to the cultivation of noble quality and correct attitude towards others, or the enrichment and perfection of knowledge and morality. Ancient Confucianism mostly refers to practicing according to his theoretical requirements. Make words and deeds conform to the rules. "Thoughts on Learning from the Scriptures" quoted Cheng Yi in the Song Dynasty as saying: "The reason why self-cultivation passes the New Year ... is that it should be done here." 3. learn to imitate. Selected Works of Time and Rights in the Ten Years before the Revolution of 1911: "People in a country are all patient and humble, and strive to achieve exemplary cultivation. Not painful! " 4. rest and recuperate. Rui's divertimento "Village Residence by the Shaobian": "Move floating flowers, repair the remains, and arrange the twilight scene".
4. Please invite a commentator to be educated in ancient Chinese, and be polite and impartial all the time. I respect you with my dress, be loyal and obedient, my father with courtesy, my son with love, my brother with love, my husband with respect but not slow, my husband with respect but different, my wife with obedience, and my husband with fear and indulgence if he does whatever he wants.
This whole road is also chaotic, and it is ruled by legislation. Excuse me, what can I do? Yue shenli
In the past, the first king ruled that the ceremony was beneficial to the world, so Deda reached heaven and earth. No problem.
A gentleman is respectful but not difficult, respectful but not hard, poor but not about, rich but not arrogant, soft but not poor, and the ceremony of trial is also. Therefore, a gentleman respects others with courtesy; It is also helpful, but it is not a loss; Also in people, rich and resentful; It is also in the instrument, and there is no danger in modifying it; Its strain is also convenient and not tired; Skilled Guan Bai geisha also uses it, and it does not compete with energy. It's also in all things in the world, so you don't have to cut it. It is also obedient and incomprehensible; It makes the next one even and unbiased; It is also meaningful in making friends; It is also in the countryside, inclusive and not chaotic.
Therefore, poverty is the name, the general principle of merit, benevolence and righteousness cover the world without poverty, know the world without doubt, change things without doubt, be calm in blood and gas, be broad-minded and do it, be righteous and plug the world, be extremely benevolent, and be judged by the ceremony of the first king. If so, the old people will be safe, the young people will be pregnant, and friends will believe it, just like the dead children returning to their loving mothers.
Yue: Benevolence and justice, sincerity and love, courtesy and music, and the principle of transportation. The poem says: "There is a degree of etiquette, and laughter is rewarded."
Excerpts from Korean poetry biography? The fourth volume.
5. The cultivated ancient prose "Yuan Yi" is an ancient gentleman. He is also responsible for Monday and treats others lightly.
Focus on a week, so don't be lazy (3); Light about, the old friend is charitable. People who have heard of the ancient times are smooth, and they are also benevolent.
The person who finds the reason for Shun blames himself: "There is another person; Here, people also. He can, but I can't! "5. If you think early and think late, it is better to be smooth than to be smooth.
People who have heard of it in ancient times include Duke Zhou and talented artists. The man who begged to be the Duke of Zhou blamed himself: "There are people; Here, people also.
He can, but I can't "think about it at night. It's better to be Duke of Zhou than Duke of Zhou. Shun, the Great Sage, is shared by later generations; Duke Zhou, Great Sage, shared by later generations.
He is a human being, but he said, "It's not as good as Shun, it's not as good as Duke Zhou, and my illness is also." Not only responsible for the body, but also responsible for a week! It is also to people, saying, "that person is also capable of being a good person;" Excellence is enough to become an artist. "
Take one and don't blame the other; In other words, it is new, not old: fear is just the fear that others will not do good. A skill is easy to repair, and a skill is easy to repair. It's also for people, but it's enough to be able to be.
Say, "It's enough to do it well." Don't despise others? Today's gentleman is not.
The person in charge is also very detailed and honest with himself. Detailed, it is difficult for an old friend to be good; Cheap, so take less.
When there was no goodness, he said, "I am good, that's enough." I don't have the ability to say, "I can, it's enough."
It is not uncommon to deceive others on the outside, but it is rare to deceive others on the inside. Isn't it cheap to treat them? It is also in people, saying: "Although it can be done, it is not worth calling it; Although he is good, he doesn't use it enough. " Take one, not ten; Investigate the old, not the new: fear is just fear of what people hear.
Isn't it enough to blame others? Husband means not to treat others as yourself, but to treat people as saints. I've never seen him respect himself. Although people who do things have their origins, laziness and taboos are also called.
Lazy people can't fix it, and jealous people are afraid of others. I often try it.
Try to say to everyone: "A good man, a good man." People who should respond must be the same as others; Otherwise, it alienates people who are not interested in it; Otherwise, it is fear.
Otherwise, the strong are angry with words, and the coward is angry with color. He also tasted this sentence: "Some are not good people, and some are not good people."
If not, it must be with someone else; Otherwise, it alienates people who are not interested in it; Otherwise, it is fear. If not, the strong will speak ⑼in, while the weak will speak color.
It is the story that has been repaired and slandered and the morality destroyed. Oh! Living in this world, it is hard for a scholar to expect fame and fortune and a moral journey! Those who will do something on it, I said, guard it, and their country can make sense! [1] (1) Weight: strict.
Zhou: comprehensive and thorough. (2) Lightness: tolerance.
Jane is less. The above two sentences are from The Analects of Confucius Wei Linggong: "Do your best until you die".
(3) Don't be lazy: it refers to persevering in moral cultivation. ⑷ Shun: the king in ancient legend.
Benevolent: a person who conforms to the Confucian ethics of benevolence and righteousness. A sentence in Mencius Li Lou says: "shun ming is familiar with worldly affairs, observes human relations, and is benevolent, but not benevolent."
5. The sentence in On Mencius and Teng Wengong: "Yan Yuan said,' Who is Shun? So is Anato? If there is something to do, it is true. [6] Duke Zhou: Prince Zhou Wen, brother of Zhou Wuwang.
After the death of King Wu, King Cheng succeeded to the throne at a young age, and Duke Zhou was the Regent. A versatile artist: a versatile person.
"Shangshu Jin Xuan" sentence: Duke Zhou said: "A benevolent person can be versatile and can do things with ghosts and gods." Lian: Less.
(8) already: too, very. (9) Say the same as "Yue".
⑽ Several: A few, almost. [2] The ancient gentleman, he asked himself to be strict and thorough, and he asked others to be tolerant and simple.
Strict and thorough, so don't slack off on moral cultivation; Tolerant and simple, so people are willing to do good deeds. It is said that among the ancients, there was a man named Shun, who was a benevolent man. The gentleman said to himself, "He is a human being, and I am also a human being;" He can do this, I can't! " I think about it in the morning and evening, get rid of those places that are not smooth and imitate those places that are smooth.
I heard that there was an ancient man named Duke Zhou. He is a man of many talents. Begging the Duke of Zhou to be Duke of Zhou, he asked himself: "He is a human being, and I am also a human being; He can do this, I can't! " In the morning and evening, I was thinking about getting rid of those places that are not as good as Duke Zhou and imitating those places like Duke Zhou. Shun is a great sage, and no one in later generations can match him.
Duke Zhou is a great sage, and no one can match him later. The man said, "Shun is not as good as Duke Zhou. This is my shortcoming. " Isn't this strict and comprehensive with yourself? For others, he said, "that person can be a kind person with these advantages;" It is enough for a talented person to be good at these things. "
Affirm one aspect of him and don't ask for other aspects; Judging from his present performance, if he does not pursue his past, he is afraid that that person will not get the benefit of doing good. Good deeds are easy to do, and skills are easy to learn. He said to others, "That's enough."
(Again) said: "It is enough to be good at these." Don't you ask others to be lenient and treat others less? Now the gentleman is not like this. He asks others to be comprehensive, but rarely asks himself.
It is comprehensive, so it is difficult for people to do good things; Ask less of yourself, so you get less. I don't have any advantage, but I said, "I have this advantage, and that's enough."
I have no talent, but I said, "I have this ability, and that's enough." Deceiving others externally and deceiving one's conscience internally has stopped, and nothing has been gained. Are you asking too little? He said to others, (only), "Although he can do it, (but) he is not worthy of praise.
Although he is good at these things, his skills are not commendable. "Give him a point (criticism), regardless of his remaining ten points (how), investigate his past (mistakes), regardless of his current performance, for fear that others will gain fame. Is asking others too comprehensive? This is called demanding others with the high standards of saints rather than ordinary people. I can't see him respecting himself.
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6. What is education? It is manifested in moral cultivation in the way of behavior. It is the result of social influence, family education and personal cultivation, especially the moral code of conduct developed in the family since childhood.
The dictionary says: politeness refers to the expression of modesty and respect in speech acts; Education refers to the cultivation of general culture and morality.
Politeness and upbringing are not the same thing. Politeness is only one of the manifestations of upbringing. People who know manners may not be educated, but educated people usually know how to observe manners in their environment. For example, a well-educated farmer will observe the manners and manners in the countryside well.
On the relationship between politeness and upbringing;
Politeness is external and superficial, and can be put on by training and deliberately. Education, on the other hand, comes from the heart, which is the inherent quality of the combination of environment, education and experience. In other words, a person is polite and likable, but his heart may be selfish and hypocritical. But a person's education is not only manifested in external behavior, but also shows that his connotation and moral quality are good.
When it comes to education at first, I now know that if you don't show everything out of sincerity, it's just politeness, but polite behavior may change your attitude after a period of persistence and become heartfelt, and politeness will be transformed into education. From this point of view, politeness seems to be the basis of education, and it is the training process to obtain quantitative changes in education.
A good education is a natural and heartfelt behavior. Being kind to others is a kind of nature, not compulsory learning. I am with farmers in Italy, Jamaica and the western United States. Although they are engaged in manual labor, they are naturally humble and polite.
Education and politeness are different and interrelated. The difference is that education reflects people's essential quality and moral level, and reflects a positive attitude and behavior towards themselves and others, while politeness is only an external behavior of humility and respect when people communicate with each other. Their connection is that educated people always use politeness when they get along with others. Therefore, we can neither say that a person who is polite in social occasions but always speaks ill of others in private is educated, nor that a person who is very enthusiastic about helping others is educated.
In other words, we need not only the beauty and perfection of internal moral quality, but also the courtesy and propriety of external behavior. The unity of the two helps us to establish good interpersonal relationships with others. Otherwise, others will either "avoid us" (if we are hypocrites) or "stay away from us" (if we are enthusiastic people who are full of foul language).
The core of education
"Cultivation" plays an important role in good interpersonal relationships, such as caring for others, respecting others, being measured, understanding, gentle, paying attention to details, caring for others, being broad-minded, sincere, open and aboveboard, and so on.
The essence of education is caring for people. Because I care, I can pay attention to and accurately grasp the scale of communication, leaving necessary private space for others; We will overcome all kinds of inconveniences and make our behavior conform to the requirements of social morality; Pay attention to the use of polite expressions everywhere and strive to create a gentle and peaceful atmosphere.
There is a basic principle in interpersonal communication: don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you. You care about others, be considerate, thoughtful, sincere, decent, respectful and decent, and others will usually treat you in turn. Over time, you will have interpersonal attraction, and your social communication and social identity needs will be fully met. So you will create a good interpersonal environment conducive to sustainable development.
In this way, you have one of the most important external resources that a person can rely on: healthy interpersonal relationships.
Therefore, the concern in education is a great concern for people and themselves, which is helpful for interpersonal communication to enter a virtuous circle.
7. Read ancient Confucius and visit Kangzi. Disciples Zhang Zi and Xia Zi will follow closely.
After Confucius was seated, Zhang Zi and Xia Zi discussed with each other. They didn't decide whether to win or lose one day.
When Xia Zi spoke, his words were fierce, his tone was firm and his expression changed greatly.
Zhang Zishuo, "did you hear what the master said? When Confucius spoke, he spoke slowly, with a calm and firm attitude and a steady and respectful manner. Before he understands what others mean, he will listen silently and express his views calmly and carefully. He can push himself and others, be humble and courteous, have superb opinions and conform to etiquette. He is open-minded and can treat others with forgiveness, so that the road can be carried forward by example. "
Zhang Zi went on to say: "During the discussion, the little people with insufficient self-cultivation only looked at the problem from their own minds and were self-righteous. They specialize in finding fault with others, their eyes are wide open, their fists are clenched tightly, and they are almost shirtless. Their words are as urgent as eruption, and their words are like boiling water. Because of emotional impulse, eyes turn red, and occasionally surpass each other in a certain way, so I am complacent and laughing.
original text
Chuanyue: Confucius passed Kang Zi and He Cong. Confucius sat down, and the two sons said their own things, and they couldn't decide for a day. In summer, the characters are narrow and the colors change. Zhang Zishuo: "I also heard the master talk about evil." Yan Xu secretly surprised, prestige wing wing. Say it before you speak, and you won't have to. Believe it is good, it is strict, it is closed, and it is a reward. The theory of villains is also selfish, and it is wrong to say that people are also wrong. My eyes are embarrassed, my mouth is boiling and my mouth is red. I am lucky to win, and I am laughing. Dignity and vulgarity are also the foundation of a gentleman. "("Korean Poetry Biography "Volume 9)
Article source: Huaxia Renaissance. Com, originally titled "The Theory of Gentlemen and the Theory of Villains"