Lead: Teaching and educating people is a profound knowledge and an art that needs deep thinking. Only by establishing a healthy and harmonious relationship between teachers and students can we learn from each other and make progress together. So, how can we establish a healthy and harmonious relationship between teachers and students?

Skills of effective communication between teachers and students 1 1. Basis of communication between teachers and students

1. Care for students

Bater said: "Teacher's love is a drop of dew, even a withered heart can wake up;" Teacher's love is spring breeze, even frozen feelings will melt. " Suhomlinski said, "What is the most important thing in my life? I can answer without hesitation: love children. "Educators don't love children, teachers don't love children, just like singers have no voice, musicians have no hearing, and painters have no color, and they will accomplish nothing.

Teachers' love is an important condition for the smooth development of ideological education. Teacher's love is the golden key to open the door to students' hearts and an effective way to exchange ideas, especially the ideological transformation of underachievers, which requires loving feelings. Luo, an 8-year-old student, is "full of energy" in class, making small moves and talking loudly, disturbing the class order and affecting others' learning; Chasing after class, scribbling homework and not finishing it on time ... After learning about his bad behavior, he can only show himself by attracting the attention of teachers and classmates. Teachers should give more love and care to these students. As the saying goes, "Sincerity opens the stone", many underachievers can be transformed into good students with the patient education and care of teachers.

Teachers' love will affect students' emotional and personality development. For teachers, knowledge is like a seed. What teachers teach students in class can take root, sprout, blossom and bear fruit in their minds, and stimulate their desire to acquire more knowledge. This process is actually that teachers' personality affects students' personality, and the same emotion of teachers' love is a vivid example in front of students, which can influence students and arouse corresponding emotions in their hearts.

On the other hand, teachers' neglect of students will make students have paranoid personality, leave school to look for "sympathy and warmth" in society, and even go astray. No wonder Suhomlinski said: "Love and care for children is a powerful force, which can build a beautiful thing on a person and make him an ideal person." And if a child grows up in an indifferent environment, he will become a person who is indifferent to goodness and beauty. "

2. Respect students

Respect is a kind of love and trust. Only when teachers pay sincere love and show high trust to students can they get the same return from students. Respect means attaching importance to students' independent thinking, cherishing their emotional experience, providing them with more space for independent activities and free development, and protecting their individuality and personality.

Education should be based on trust in children. If you lose confidence in children and don't trust them, all educational ingenuity and all teaching and education methods and means will be out of the question. Teachers' trust and praise play a very important role in students' behavior. Under the emotion of teachers' trust and praise, students will have a serious and positive self-evaluation, and feel that there is not much gap with teachers' requirements, thus becoming more confident and having a good educational effect. On the other hand, students have strong negative emotions, lose their vitality and confidence, and are dissatisfied with their teachers, so the educational effect is relatively poor.

Tolerate students

Teachers' tolerant attitude towards students is often contained in their deep understanding and understanding of students, and students will inevitably make mistakes. At this time, they need the tolerance of teachers to prevent them from feeling useless and losing confidence in everything. When teachers encounter problems, they take a "relaxed" attitude towards students' unreasonable behavior, which can not only skillfully solve the problems, but also safeguard teachers' dignity and educate students. Teachers' tolerant attitude helps students understand their own problems, urges them to deeply reflect on their own problems, and arouses self-condemnation and self-education. The effect of students' self-condemnation and self-reflection is more obvious than that of others' education.

Second, the way of communication between teachers and students.

1. Dialogue and communication

Conversation is the basic skill of teachers and the most common way of language communication between teachers and students. Talk to your heart and learn about the students' family, personality and hobbies. In order to prevent the topic of hurting students from being unconsciously touched during the conversation. Conversation should vary from person to person, and students' ideological basis and personality characteristics are different. Conversation should be based on everyone's characteristics, and introverted students should take a "casual" approach and talk after persuasion; For straightforward people, come straight to the point. We should make use of all kinds of knowledge, make the best use of the situation, and let both teachers and students gain the most.

2. Action communication

Action communication mainly includes facial expressions, body expressions and gestures. Albert Melaambi, an American psychologist, once put forward a formula: the total expression of information =7% intonation +38% voice +55% expression. Thus, emotion plays an important role in communication. Teachers can express their support and encouragement for students' behavior through friendly and enthusiastic eyes, and they can nod and frown to express their approval or doubt for students' answers. When meeting a depressed student, the teacher patting him on the shoulder may be more infectious and expressive than asking questions.

Written communication

In daily life, teachers can also communicate with students in written form, such as comments, small notes, weekly notes and so on. Students can write what they saw in class, or what happened at home, their worries and so on. Teachers can also use this unique "two-person space" to understand students' voices, capture information in time, put forward some specific requirements for students, write some encouraging words, or talk about their own feelings, which may resonate with students.

Third, the skills of communication between teachers and students.

1. Listen to the students carefully.

Listening is an art and a process of soul collision and soul blending. Whether teachers can listen effectively is of great significance not only to the communication between teachers and students, but also to the development of students' potential and the creation of a good classroom atmosphere. In the process of listening to the students, the teacher should stare at the students who are talking and don't interrupt him casually. More approved opinions can be expressed by nodding or "yes"; And some different views should be hidden first. Teachers who are good at listening will certainly bring vitality and vigor to students.

smile

"Smile is the best expression of human beings." Teachers can inadvertently close the distance between teachers and students, eliminate the tension between teachers and students, and encourage students to bravely express their wonderful ideas when communicating with students. Teachers' smiles can infect students, make the classroom atmosphere relaxed and happy, open students' hearts, make students love me, love my dog, and become interested in this course. This is the charm of a smile.

3. Treat students fairly

Teachers should love every student and treat them equally. Mr. Tao Xingzhi, a famous educator, once said, "There is Watt under your pointer, Newton in your cold eyes and Edison in your ridicule." This sentence tells us that students with learning difficulties cannot be counted as dead. With the change of environment and the improvement of teachers' working methods, they will also change, and they can also be shaped into people who are beneficial to society.

Skills of effective communication between teachers and students (2) One-way communication mode

In the one-way communication mode, only one-way communication is maintained between teachers and students, and the teaching information is often not effectively fed back, so the teaching effect is poor. But when communicating emotional content, this way is very popular among students. Teachers' criticism is not enough to solve students' problems. Be a good listener, support their ideas and put forward their own suggestions in time. In this way, one-on-one conversation can be realized.

Multi-directional communication mode

The two-way communication mode is mainly the teacher's individual guidance to one or several students, which values the relationship between teachers and students and is arbitrary, so it is difficult to teach systematically. The advantage is that it helps to teach students in accordance with their aptitude. The two-way communication mode designs the teaching process from students' individual needs, aims at developing students' independence, emphasizes self-development through students' self-study, self-support and self-discipline, unifies the purposes and means, and encourages students to participate in the whole teaching process, which has become an effective way to cultivate students' learning autonomy. The unfavorable factor is the deepening differentiation among students, which affects the sociality of students' learning to some extent.

Small group communication mode

Stephen Robbins, an American management scientist, found that there are mainly three different communication modes in small groups, namely, chain, wheel and omni-channel. Among them, the chain network follows the formal command system; The core of wheeled network communication is the leader; All-pass networks allow all group members to actively communicate with each other.

Skills of effective communication between teachers and students. Respect students

Respect means that teachers should respect students' personality, and teachers and students are absolutely equal in personality. Because students and teachers are independent individuals, they are all "people".

A clever teacher talks to his students in the same way as a visitor at home. If his guest is lying on a clean sofa with shoes on. Teachers don't say, "Are you crazy? How dare you put your shoes on my clean sofa! Put your feet on the floor at once. If I catch you again, I will punish you! ..... "In fact, what will the teacher say to the guests? He might say, "Sorry, I'm afraid the sofa will get dirty." The host always treats his guests with courtesy and friendliness. If teachers can treat students like their own guests, the relationship between teachers and students will be greatly improved.

Teachers may find it difficult to do this. Then at least remember: when dealing with problems and criticizing students, tell the truth, and don't criticize and slander students' character and personality. In fact, this is the importance and respect for students' personality. Let's cite some things that often happen in school life to illustrate how teachers should respect students.

Second, we must have empathy.

Others call it empathy and empathy. Empathy requires teachers to understand students' feelings and think from the students' standpoint and angle.

Teachers and students can't be exactly the same in everything. If teachers only emphasize their own views and ignore students' feelings, students will easily have rebellious psychology, and students will alienate you, repel you and even hate you. What annoys students most at ordinary times is not being understood, especially by their own teachers. Therefore, teachers should observe and analyze from the students' point of view, understand the students' mood, find out the reasons why they have different views from students, and let students feel that teachers understand themselves. Only when students accept you can communication be effective. Let's look at how to deal with these things, which will be more effective.

Third, accept students.

Acceptance is such a psychological quality: "Teachers believe that students are a valuable person and try their best to convince students that they are a valuable person;" Help students believe that even if his teacher disagrees with some of his behaviors and ideas and they have to change, he is still a potential and valuable person in the eyes of his teacher. "Teachers don't ask students to correct their mistakes and become perfect before accepting them. Instead, they always unconditionally believe that students have unlimited development possibilities in a positive way, that is, to accept a relatively complete quality.

Gao Dun, a famous American psychologist and consultant, believes that accepting others is an important factor to cultivate a good relationship. Acceptance allows students to think deeply and openly express their feelings; Failure to accept makes students anxious, leading to resistance and communication stagnation and termination. But most teachers think that if you accept a child, he will remain the same, so the best way to make him better in the future is to tell him that your behavior is unacceptable. The reason for the poor communication between teachers and students is that the teachers' usual reaction styles-reprimanding, ordering and asking-make students feel that they are wrong, inappropriate and unacceptable.

Let's give an example to see what effect teachers' respect will bring.

Example: A student with the worst academic record raised his left hand and asked to answer the teacher's question. But when the teacher asked him, he couldn't answer. Later, when the surprised teacher asked him why he didn't raise his hand, the student cried and said, "Teacher, everyone else can. If I don't raise my hand, people will laugh at me. " After class, the teacher told the students privately that the next time you ask questions, raise your left hand if you can answer them, but not your right hand. From then on, every time I saw him raise his left hand, the teacher tried to give him a chance to answer, but never let him stand up with his right hand raised. After a while, the student became cheerful and made great progress in his academic performance. So the teacher quietly told this method to several other poor students in the class. As a result, he found that the whole class had changed.

In this example, the teacher accepted a student with the worst academic performance well: he felt from the students' words that the students had strong self-esteem and fully respected it; As long as the student raises his left hand, the teacher will try to give him the opportunity to answer and try to create opportunities for him to move forward; He didn't take the opportunity to educate the student because of his poor academic performance: "You can answer it if you study hard. Why don't you work harder? "

Imagine if the teacher sneered after listening to the students: "Why don't you raise your hand and join in the fun?" ! Or simply shout, "You're hopeless!" Or say indifferently: Oh, I see, you go back. In the future, this poor student will have no chance. So, what about this student union? Deeply feel inferior and then feel that you are really "hopeless" and simply "broken cans and broken falls"; Or have a strong resistance, hate teachers and hate learning!

Fourth, sincere praise.

In fact, many teachers already know how to praise students. The key is how to praise, and what kind of praise will work? Too general and vague praise, such as "You are a good student", "You have done a good job in this problem" and "You have made progress", may not promote the teacher's imagination. Praise needs to be targeted, specific and creative.

It is very important to praise students and find their bright spots. Every student has his own strengths and highlights. If teachers can find the bright spots of students and affirm them, then a small advantage can be doubled and promote the development of students in other aspects.

Almost all students want to be good students in teachers' eyes, expecting teachers' affirmation and concern. Especially the disadvantaged students need teachers' affirmation. For them, the teacher's affirmation can often play the biggest role. Therefore, teachers should never give up, do not abandon, but pay more attention.

Verb (abbreviation of verb) use criticism carefully.

When it comes to teacher-student communication, many people may first think of teachers criticizing and teaching students. It can be said that in the actual communication between teachers and students, normal students do account for a considerable proportion in the communication between teachers and students. Teachers always think of looking for students after they have made problems and mistakes. So that when it comes to teachers, students often think of an image of teaching with a straight face. Why do teachers like to lecture people? Is this a teacher's occupational disease?

Teachers criticize students not for criticism, but to make students realize problems, solve problems and help students improve! If criticism has no educational function, it should be given up. In fact, many times, teachers don't have to criticize to make students realize their mistakes. Sometimes teachers are more tolerant, give students a "step down" and protect their self-esteem, which will achieve better results. Suhomlinski said: Sometimes the moral shock brought by tolerance is stronger than punishment. In the face of students' mistakes or provocations, teachers should show mature demeanor, which can not only avoid conflicts between teachers and students, but also enable students to learn correct attitudes and methods to deal with problems from teachers. The teacher in the following example shows his tolerance and maturity well.

Comenius, an educator, said: "Children's desire to learn is completely aroused by teachers. If they are gentle and persuasive, they will attract students with kind feelings and language, not rough methods. If they are kind to students, it is easy to get their goodwill. " A good educator should be able to stand in the students' position, understand the surrounding things with students' emotions, put their emotions in their hearts and resonate with them, so as to build a bridge between teachers and students and finally achieve the best communication between teachers and students.