1, to avoid intimidation and neglect of children.
Whenever children are naughty or make mistakes, many parents will unconsciously use words like "I don't want you" to intimidate their children and make them "yield" because of fear. Others are very cold and give their children a "cold face". Long-term intimidation and neglect of children can easily lead to nervousness, anxiety, depression, sensitivity, fear and other reactions, and may even lead to stunting, mental retardation, neurasthenia, paranoia and compulsion.
2. Avoid "obliterating" children's efforts in comparison.
Many parents pursue perfection and ignore their children's efforts, and obliterate their children's achievements just because they have not reached the "best" or "ideal" standards. If some parents expect too much from their children, they often compare their children with those in their neighbors. If they don't do well in the exam once, they say to their children, "You see your family is smarter than you, and this time they scored 2 points more than you." Long-term obliteration of children's grades will have adverse effects, making children unable to evaluate themselves correctly and gradually feel inferior and depressed. In the process of growing up, children will constantly turn external evaluations into self-evaluations. Long-term negative evaluation of children will affect children's correct evaluation of themselves and lose self-confidence.
3. Avoid exaggerated words affecting children.
Many times, parents don't notice the exaggerated elements in their children's words, and some parents even "distort" things. If children make mistakes carelessly, some parents will exaggerate the consequences, which will stimulate children. In the future, children will be timid, become timid and make mistakes more easily. Even if he made a mistake, he didn't dare to tell his parents, which also laid the groundwork for many bad behaviors in the future, such as lying, quarreling and cheating. When children grow up, they will make mistakes easily.
Parents should be good mirrors for their children. When children are disobedient or mischievous, parents can not solve the problem by "verbal violence", but the trauma caused to children's hearts is far-reaching. Teachers and parents should be aware of its seriousness. Parents are a mirror of their children. To educate children well, we should start from ourselves.
Do not get along well with adolescent children
1, lack of democratic atmosphere, parents keep their word, and the dialogue with their children is either imperative or questioning.
If you don't know the truth of the matter, you will make arbitrary conclusions.
Don't let children participate in adult affairs, but interfere in everything of children.
4. Forcibly open children's letters and diaries.
5. Look at children's contact with the opposite sex with different eyes.
6. Always compare your lifestyle in middle school with your children and criticize them.
7, words and deeds are different, ask the children to do one set, and do another set yourself.
8. Children want to solve problems by themselves and don't want adults to intervene and be stubborn.
9. If you are wrong, don't admit it; if you are wrong, the child will bite.
10, impatient, rude, swearing, hitting people.
1 1, I don't understand the hardships of children's study, but only focus on exams.
12, often turning over old accounts in front of children.
13, lack of knowledge, don't understand education, don't like learning, always speak layman's words.
How to get along with adolescent children correctly
1, teaching by example is more important than teaching by words.
Parents should first pay attention to their own cultivation and establish their own prestige. A parent who doesn't like learning and only cares about eating, drinking and having fun, a parent who knows nothing, a parent with bad conduct, vulgar behavior, selfishness and disrespect for the elderly, will not cultivate good children.
2. Pay attention to parenting education.
Children are very concerned about whether their parents have made great efforts for their growth. Although some parents are with their children all the year round, they don't always communicate with each other. Most parents neglect parenting education on the grounds of being busy. Parents' parenting education should be ahead of their children's physical and mental development, so parents should devote themselves to their children's education, keep learning and improve their ability to educate their children, so as to win their respect and love.
3. Create a good knowledge environment.
Children should have a good small environment for learning, not for luxury, but for atmosphere. Students should avoid unnecessary family chats, friends' gatherings, etc. when studying, and try to be less received at home. In addition, we should create a harmonious, peaceful and stable family atmosphere. Parents should not fight often, which will affect their children's psychological development.
4. Trust children unconditionally
Parents are children's first teachers and role models for their lives. Children's strengths, weaknesses, good habits and bad habits basically come from the influence of parents and the surrounding environment. Therefore, parents should first do what their children are asked to do. Appreciate the child's advantages as much as possible, tolerate the shortcomings as much as possible, and look at the child with a magnifying glass. You know, there are no perfect children in the world, even perfect children have their own shortcomings. Parents' unconditional trust in their children is an important basis for communication with their children.
5. Praise more and criticize less
Appropriate praise is the lubricant for parents to communicate with their children. Parents always understand, appreciate, praise and encourage their children, which will enhance their self-esteem and self-confidence. Remember: praise and encouragement make children progress, and criticism and complaints make children fall behind.
6. When correcting children's key shortcomings, we must pay attention to maturity and choose the best place and time.