Being born in a family has a lifelong influence on us. Children need to grow up in an environment full of love, so parents are not harmonious, and children will be scared, sensitive and timid ... but children with normal family life are full of security. Unfortunately, family is not our free choice. Sometimes we don't know who to blame. Are other children more likely to be reborn? Why is this happening in our family? How can an adult raise a child if he can't live a good life? Moreover, our parents are unhappy all their lives, and they have to bring us up and make us more miserable. At the same time, they make us unhappy. It is difficult for us to balance our mentality. On the one hand, we are grateful to them, on the other hand, we hate their harm to ourselves. We are independent individuals, not puppets, with our own cognition and choices. Why should we listen to them? We may not understand when we were young. In fact, parents love us, but they don't pay attention to methods and feelings. Or a new father, inexperienced, parents treat it like this. So they also believe that a dutiful son comes from under the stick. This is their sorrow. We are in great pain, so there is no harm without comparison. We finally understand that everyone needs to be treated well. When I was young, my parents were busy with work. It's simple and rude to me, too. We formed a flattering personality, and we lived uncomfortably ... Nevertheless, when I became an adult, I fled from a family that could stifle my survival. No matter how hard it is outside, I want to be independent. It is precisely because of this that I can be fearless, and nothing can beat me. Now, I have my own small family and try to be a better self. Education is a priority. If you have a conflict with your husband, you will also restrain yourself, communicate peacefully and be grateful to your parents. Although not close, happy and simple enough, I can control myself. Adjusting the mentality is king!