It is very necessary to develop good study habits, which should be reflected in the details of life. Everyone in our family has the habit of reading books. When a child was young, he cultivated and exercised his literacy ability early, which laid a very good foundation for his future study. When the child is older, we will help him form the habit of reading and let him spare some time to read every day. In our family, we can often see pictures of a family of three reading books. Moreover, I will buy all kinds of books for him from the bookstore whenever I have the chance. Gifts for Children's Day and Spring Festival are all kinds of interesting or beneficial books. After a long time, children like reading. I have also developed good reading habits. It also played a great role in promoting learning.
From the time my child goes to school, I pay attention to cultivating his study habits and finish the homework left by the teacher after going home every day. Preview the rest before learning the new lesson. Communicate with his teacher in time to help children develop good study habits.
In family life, always pay attention to the formation of habits, pack up the toys you have played, wash your face and brush your teeth before going to bed at night. Sometimes, if a child wants to be lazy, tell him the truth and tell him that it is impossible. Slowly, he recognized this behavior, and the habit naturally formed.
To educate children, our generation of parents need to learn and inherit the traditional wisdom of the Chinese nation. In the past, I was very insecure, that is, I didn't establish a stable and reliable overall value system to educate my children. During this period, in the process of intermittent contact with traditional enlightenment classics, I reflected on my own behavior ethics and the various manifestations of children's growth. I feel that I have found the clue and direction to educate my children, and I need to grow up with my children under the influence of learning traditional culture.
Don't ask too much of your child, give him some room for free development, observe his advantages and disadvantages, and then give guidance. I think we have all been children and should know what children like. Too much preaching is better than guiding children with our own actions. What children are asked to do, adults must first do it themselves. For example, when my son was watching TV, he unconsciously walked in front of the TV as soon as he saw the wonderful part. I corrected him, and he immediately reprimanded and said, "You always surf the Internet every day, and your eyes will be broken if you play for a long time." In the face of children's doubts, I have to correct myself first and influence my children with my own behavior. I said to my child, "Look, mom has corrected it, and it's only been online for a while, so you should correct it!" " At this time, the child will readily accept your suggestion.
In order to broaden our horizons and cultivate children's various interests. In his spare time, he signed up for a calligraphy class. He has been studying for several years now, and he is very interested and his grades are good.
Children like to make by hand, and I will provide them with materials and help them as much as possible. Sometimes, watching him make a "work" that is not very wonderful and show it to us smugly, his expression is full of pride. I feel gratified from the bottom of my heart to see that children dare to do things and get happiness from the process of hand-making.
In addition, we also like to let our children take part in some physical exercises. If a child loves to run and jump, let him exercise more, which will not only strengthen his body, but also make him happy. Why not?
In short, we hope that the child is not only a child who is immersed in his studies, but also hopes that he can have his own fun while studying hard and is a person who loves life.
Educating children is an important task for the whole family. Educating children really requires parents to move from "self-cultivation" to "family integration" in order to achieve the goal of education. This year, I specially bought MP3 and a set of audio amplifier, downloaded the classic explanations and reading materials on the Internet into MP3, and then played them through the amplifier, so that everyone at home can get in touch with this information and learn at the same time. At the same time, the life behavior of family members is restricted and regulated to a certain extent, and the education of children needs the growth of every family member. At the same time, with the help of MP3 Walkman, my learning process of ancient Chinese will be accelerated. I found that there are many excellent traditional cultural resources on the Internet. Over time, my children and I have greatly improved our literary level.
In the process of studying, I have encountered such difficulties. Sometimes, it is not uncommon to be sarcastic but counterproductive. I've been troubled by this, too Later, I thought about it carefully: parents should not only blame their children, but also reflect on their children to see where the problems are and whether they can make them more acceptable in another way. In fact, as long as you are thoughtful and creative, family education can be very interesting.
After the child has some reading ability, I began to try to write some small notes with different contents for the child, even if there are only a few words. I sometimes put these little notes in the children's pencil box, sometimes quietly put them in the children's toy box, and even put them on the refrigerator door, mirror and pillow. It used to be his goal that children can see and find them wherever they are. When the child accidentally found these small notes, it brought him a surprise, and at the same time, it made him truly feel the attention and love of his parents.
Characters and languages have different characteristics. Language is fleeting, and sometimes it doesn't necessarily leave much impression when spoken several times. It's easy to go in one ear and out the other. Writing overcomes this weakness. As long as it is not destroyed, you can take it out at any time, and every time you look at it, you feel that you are reliving it, which is naturally more impressive. Compared with the stormy reprimand and reprimand, this not only takes into account the child's self-esteem, but also is more acceptable to the child.
Not only can children not have more understanding and respect for their parents, but they may force you to make progress with your children. Because with the growth of children's age, the content of notes will no longer be a single praise, criticism, etc., but will gradually expand to recommend a book, introduce a good article, leave a small question that needs to be answered by brains, and even include discussion of a certain point of view. And the content will begin to be rich and colorful, which is also a help to his thinking ability and writing ability training. These come and go, and family education can also add a lot of fun.
I don't know what is right and what is best in children's education, but some aspects of children's education are common, and some things are different according to children's personality and characteristics. In education, we should not only let nature take its course, but also be persuasive and seek a balance between management and no matter what.
Come on! "Don't lose heart, try again." "You did a great job! I am happy for you! " ..... We often give such encouragement to children, and children will make rapid progress with our encouragement. Children need encouragement. We often encourage children to participate in school group activities. When they come back, we will listen to what happened when they took part in the activities and ask him some further questions: What activities did you do today? With who? Are you interested in continuing to participate in such activities? What are the gains and experiences from participating in this activity? Why? In order to arouse children's interest, find problems in time and solve them. So every encouragement we give is a catalyst for his progress. In many aspects of study and life, we give children a lot of encouragement and appreciation. Therefore, the child is confident, and I think it is very valuable for him to have such a positive idea.
Although praise and encouragement are important, sometimes criticism is indispensable. In children's study, sometimes he will feel unhappy when his exam results are less, but we will not severely criticize him for it, sometimes help him find out the reasons and sometimes remind him what to do. Therefore, he has been afraid to tell his parents because of his low test scores.
Teacher Xu, an education expert, said that if family education is limited to how to train children and ignores the real needs for improvement, then such family education will hardly achieve the expected results. Parents' quality is not high, how to have a good family education atmosphere and how to cultivate the next generation with physical and mental health? Parents often lament that the older their children are, the less they know. Yes, when the child was young, you directed the child's words and deeds as an elder everywhere, and never really understood the child's feelings. When children grow up, you will get farther and farther away from them, and a generation gap will also arise. It is difficult to pass on correct concepts and experiences to children, leading to the failure of education. However, if parents can accompany their children to grow up from the beginning, treat them with children's eyes and always maintain a childlike innocence, then, as children grow up, you will find that while children gradually understand the world, you also gradually understand their books and enter their inner world. At this time, you are getting closer and closer to your successful parents.
This is our little experience in the process of educating children, but there are also many shortcomings. In the days to come, we will also learn and teach, explore in practice and make continuous progress in learning, so that children can grow up healthily and happily and become excellent people.