Especially the parents of children who have experienced early education training are more familiar with the critical period and sensitive period, such as 1 year-old oral period, 2-year-old rebellious period and so on.
However, with the growth of age, many sensitive periods become less unique, and parents gradually forget the normal psychological development of their children.
The concept of critical period should accompany the child's life.
From a psychological point of view, a person's mastery of certain behaviors, skills and knowledge develops fastest and is most susceptible in a certain period.
If the correct education is applied in this period, it will get twice the result with half the effort. Once you miss this period, you will have to make up for it several times, or you will never make up for it.
The "critical period" of education, also known as the critical age, optimal age and sensitive period of education, refers to the best period of life learning.
At this age, the development of all kinds of intelligence, ability and efficiency is the greatest.
For shaping children, the critical period is like a bag of molten iron, which can be cast into various shapes; When the child grows up, it's like the cooled molten iron has turned into a knot in one's heart, and it's hard to change it.
The critical period is very important for children's growth. It is like a booster, providing him with a harmonious state at the right time and place, so that he can easily handle an ability.
In the process of children's growth, there is a critical period for the development of various abilities.
Psychologists have done follow-up research. If a person's intelligence reaches 65,438+000% at the age of 65,438+07, it will reach 50% at the age of 4, 80% at the age of 4-7 and 20% at the age of 8-65,438+07.
Therefore, before the age of 7, especially before the age of 3, it is a critical period for children's intellectual development.
The key to children's early intellectual development is to seize the critical period.
Therefore, we must seize the critical period of children's growth and accompany them through the critical period of growth with scientific parenting methods.
So, what critical periods will children go through after entering school?
For example, the critical period of study.
In the critical period of learning, children can learn well and develop their special abilities, such as math ability, language ability, singing and playing ability in art, etc.
After the critical period of learning, related learning will become very difficult or even impossible.
The specific functions of children in the early learning process have different critical periods, which are related to the growth and pruning of synapses.
Early experience plays a regulatory role in synaptic connections in the brain. Due to abundant environmental stimuli, the number of synapses increases, which creates a prerequisite for the construction of advanced functional modules of the brain. The critical period is a particularly effective period for the brain to acquire and learn a series of skills.
If we miss some critical periods of functional development, although some remedial measures are effective in the later period, the formation of brain function and the development of related energy are affected, which means that education will pay a higher price.
If a teacher in a class can constantly understand and digest relevant concepts and knowledge systems during the critical period, and can communicate and impart them well when communicating with parents, then the parents of this class are undoubtedly lucky.
However, teachers and parents have different economic, political and cultural backgrounds, different educational literacy levels, different educational concepts, attitudes and methods, and different understandings and understandings of children's problems, which leads to psychological differences and contradictions.
Therefore, more often, parents still need to sort out and understand the theoretical knowledge of the critical period through more learning channels, so as to better understand some problems and psychological States of children during this period.
We should remember that the essence of education is to follow the law, so is family education.
For example, the period from 6 years old to 12 years old is called school age.
School-age children are faced with many new tasks, from mainly at home to mainly at school.
The living environment has changed, the contacts have changed, and the content of life has also changed.
The quality of study affects children's overall feelings about life, and also affects teachers' and parents' evaluation of children.
In particular, our children are now under great pressure to study, go to school and enter higher schools. Parents are eager for their children to succeed, so in school age, especially in preschool age, schools and teachers often pay more attention to their mental health.
At present, many excellent primary schools have implemented the policy of younger first-grade class teachers, with the aim of letting children have more gentle, lively and happy young teachers as companions and guides in the unfamiliar and stressful environment of first grade, so that they can adapt to campus life more easily.
So, what should a good parent look like at school age?
Almost all parents want their children to be children who love to study, study hard and get excellent grades.
However, the achievements in mental health neglected by many parents often bring irreparable harm to children as they grow up with age.
With the increasing number of social news such as teenagers' school bullying and self-mutilation suicide, it has gradually attracted great attention from all walks of life.
But in the final analysis, the problem is not caused by the pressure of study. After all, our family background and parent-child relationship are all deformed in our eyes.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to be a dragon. What is wrong is the care for children's hearts and the education method of quick success and instant benefit.
Therefore, as parents, we should not only understand the general law of children's development, but also know and follow the normal trajectory of children's growth, and also have correct educational concepts and upbringing methods.
Good parents should be parents who care for their children wholeheartedly, comprehensively and all the time when they are young, and who shrink back, let go and distance themselves when they grow up day by day.
As the child grows up, don't take the initiative to help him as long as he can.
Therefore, for school-age children, parents only need to keep in touch with their children emotionally, take care of them as little as possible in life, and try not to give them any help in their studies.
The education of school-age children emphasizes that example is more important than words and deeds.
Take the lead in setting an example and establish a parent image for children who love life, are brave in fighting and do not bow to difficulties, so that children can develop these positive qualities.
Every child is a different flower!
We should follow the principle that every child is a different flower and care for their growth with all our heart.
On the premise of meeting the common needs of children's growth and development, we should respect the critical period of children's growth, and at the same time insist on teaching students in accordance with their aptitude and improve personalized guidance.
Every child is an independent individual, and it is destined to follow the overall development trend of children in its development process, but it also has its own unique development characteristics.
Respecting children's unique development characteristics is a symbol of parents' wisdom.
Maybe our eyes of encouragement and affirmation can make their thinking jump infinitely;
A warm word can cheer them up;
A casual gesture, let them remember forever.
Every child is unique, common training and unified curriculum, which is far from real personalization.
The goal of education is to let every child have the freedom to explore his inner preferences and let the children achieve themselves.
The purpose of family education is to hope that our children can find something they are good at and love in the future and live a happy and healthy life.
Facing the sleeping child, we meet to protect his world and make his heart calm and indifferent forever.
Don't let his talent potential be buried, and don't let his shortcomings become the regret of his life path.