1, listen to the reason.
Suppress your inner anger and let your mood calm down first. After all, the child's "stealing money" behavior has already happened, and it won't help if parents get angry again. The focus now should be on patiently listening to the children's voices. Everything happens for a reason. Since children steal money, there must be a reason for stealing.
Step 2 show your attitude
Tell the child sincerely and firmly that his parents don't like him stealing money, and others won't like it. If you come to collective life in the future, children with "criminal record" will be hard to be liked and accepted by everyone, and may eventually become the object of exclusion. Many children don't know their parents' attitude, so they constantly test the bottom line.
3. Protecting children
Even if stealing money is very wrong, parents should protect their children's self-esteem and face, and never "advertise" their children's behavior. Many parents like to expose their shortcomings, especially in front of relatives and friends, and will unconsciously tell their children about stealing money.
Although the child is young, he has a strong self-esteem and will feel embarrassed or even sad in the face of other people's comments. Even if they do something bad, children want to be protected by their parents, at least don't say anything. Only by protecting the child's self-esteem can he feel the care and respect of his parents.
Communication suggestion
1. When educating children, you should be calm and solemn, but you should not be harsh or beat and scold. Let the children feel that this matter should be taken seriously, but don't let them feel a strong sense of oppression, so that they can accept our suggestion.
2. On this issue, children have three mistakes, they should not steal money, they should not lie, and the most important thing is the "unscrupulous" way of thinking. In order to ensure the educational effect, we should highlight the key points. Tell your child that what annoys you most is not lying or taking money, but the idea of "doing whatever it takes to get what you want". This wayward, selfish and reckless idea is something you can't tolerate.
Tell him to satisfy his wishes in a reasonable way. If the reasonable way doesn't work, then the right choice should be to give up his wishes, not to satisfy them by hook or by crook. Give your child a realistic example. It should be emphasized that cultivating children's sense of responsibility and courage to bear the consequences should be carried out step by step after the idea of "unscrupulous" is completely eliminated.
It is suggested that in order to show sincerity to children, his pocket money can be appropriately increased every month.
If the child needs something badly, you should satisfy him as much as possible. If you firmly believe that you should not satisfy your children, then you must explain why to your children and try to get their understanding. This should not be a tough and simple ban.
Don't criticize your child when he voluntarily admits his mistake instead of covering it up. You have to tell him that although you made a mistake, you admit it voluntarily, which makes mom (dad) very happy. Mom appreciates your courage and is proud of you.