To understand the education that conforms to nature, we must first understand what types of children's nature is, and make clear what type their children belong to. After understanding the types of children's nature, you should know how to teach children of all natures. Finally, we must clearly know that nature is not character, and any child with nature can become an excellent person as long as he is educated according to nature; And if it goes against nature, it will lead to bad consequences.
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The first step is to understand the child's nature type. The nature mentioned here is the expression of ability tendency and thinking preference.
A nation dominated by nature is naturally sensitive to numbers and directions; Numbers and sense of direction are C's weaknesses and shortcomings, and C is better at observing delicate emotions and emotions. D people who are dominated by nature are good at induction and abstract thinking; Induction and abstraction are the shortcomings and shortcomings of B, and B is better at detail discovery and program flow. For a more vivid understanding, we can also compare the four natures in The Journey to the West's Buddhist scriptures: the firm and strong Tang priest belongs to the logical type and is the representative of the A-sex man. They have brains, strong learning ability and strong competitiveness. Newton and Buffett are such people, and most scientists and theoretical workers belong to this quadrant, including the guy around you who likes playing cards, arguing and preaching. The obedient Friar Sand belongs to the discipline type and is the representative of B natural person. They are rigorous and pragmatic, pay attention to details and have strong execution. Confucius belongs to this category. I like doing things, playing photography and doing housework at one go. No matter whether the TV series is good or not, most people who have to watch it are B-sex. The playful and interesting Pig Bajie belongs to the phenotype and is the representative of Type C. Princess Diana and most performers belong to this category. Emotional, a little gossip is mostly C, hate mathematics, hate logic, hate competition, mild or deep ignorance. They also have the characteristics of recognizing relatives and ignoring reason, so they are also the most loyal friends, and they can support you unconditionally when things happen. A natural person can't do this. A born guy, if you don't recognize your relatives, you complain to Tang Priest Newton. On the surface, he sympathizes with you, but what he thinks is that there must be something hateful about the poor man. The Monkey King is creative and a typical D-type personality. Ma Yun and Li Bai are both in this category, so is the guy around you who likes to entertain foolish ideas and is full of fresh ideas. B-type people hate them most because they often challenge the rules and procedures of B-type people. People with B nature also love them the most, because they have the vitality and creativity that people with B nature lack most.
After meat defines the nature of children, it can enter the most important step: finding the most suitable education method according to the nature of children. Four natures are suitable for completely different or even opposite educational methods: people like Tang Priest have motivation only when they have goals, achievement only when they have motivation, and happiness only when they have achievements. He can't accept a life without achievements. If we don't give him pressure, goals and motivation, children like Tang Priest will be spoiled. He will become overbearing and unreasonable and always feel wronged. Children like Friar Sand naturally like the beauty of discipline and norms. It's his pleasure. Example and authority are what he needs most. Don't give him a good example authority, don't give him clear rules and regulations, but coax him to boast and let him play freely. He will become disoriented, nervous and easy to go astray. The same goals and requirements, the same pressure, make the children of A and B work hard, but may crush the children of C and D. You must tolerate children like Pig Bajie. Never push him, because he is sentimental. If he doesn't feel love, he will be hurt. If you don't appreciate his tenderness and thoughtfulness, you won't let him feel unconditional love. You just want him to make progress, make him brave, strong and hard-working. You will find that in the end, his enthusiasm, motivation and courage are ruined by you. He will only become more and more timid, more and more wronged and more depressed. You must be tolerant of children like the Monkey King. Because imagination and creation need trial and error and free space. If you don't appreciate his freedom and agility, you just want to get rid of his impatience and carelessness. You don't think he is a child who puts interests first. You just want him to be patient, disciplined and complete the task you gave him. He is bound to become restless and full of problems.
Bread Finally, you should clearly know the difference between nature and character. Nature is innate and will remain unchanged for life. And character is acquired and can be transformed. Conform to the education of nature and cultivate people who are calm, calm and confident. Anti-fate sex education has created a problem figure. A natural person, the biggest highlight of the original is a strong sense of purpose and hard work. However, if an A does not grow up under the guidance of pressure and goals, but is pampered or lacks constraints, A will become a negative A: no goals, no progress, arrogance. B Natural people should be tough, diligent and have a strong sense of rules. However, if a B does not grow up under the influence of role models and norms, but receives a "relaxed and praise-style" education, B will become a negative B: impatient, not tough, and cannot be wronged. The biggest highlight of C-nature is warmth and affinity. However, if a C fails to grow up with warm care and affection, but is given the education of "goal and pressure", C will become a negative C: quarrelsome, unenthusiastic and emotionally threatening (close person). D Natural people should be flexible and creative. But if a D does not grow up under the guidance of free relaxation and interest, but accepts the education of "strictness and strictness, emphasizing rules and responsibilities", D will become a negative D: restless, impatient, nervous, anxious and sharp.
Every child has his own nature. When these children grow up, get married and have children. In this process, nature has not disappeared, and it will be passed on to your children through heredity. Through the analysis and comparison of many cases of drilling crew, Baoda found that the children born to diagonal couples, namely A and C, B and D, must have the same nature as their mothers, while their daughters are the same as their fathers. Children born to couples of the same nature must be diagonally opposite to their parents. Couples of adjacent natures can have four kinds of children. Moreover, if the parents are diagonal, it is a very accurate replication relationship. What is the father, what is the bias, and how much is the bias, so must the daughter. The son copied his mother, and it was exactly the same as what was dominant, what was biased, and how much was biased. So, from a biological point of view, if you want to "copy" yourself, then if you marry a diagonal opposite sex and give birth to a child of a different sex from you, this child will copy your nature.
After the above three steps, I believe that many parents with children have been silently comparing their children with the quartet. But I want to remind you that in addition to the four clear types, there will be intermediate states such as A leaning towards B and C leaning towards D. Such children have two natures and need patience and skills in education.
From birth, every child carries all the wisdom and logic of the whole natural system, and also has the internal motivation, ability and order of self-growth. Just like a seed, it has all the possibilities of its own achievement. The starting point of education must be to conform to the nature of children, not to the preferences of parents. What parents need to do is to create a suitable growth environment for their children as much as possible, awaken their inner consciousness, let them discover their own strength and achieve themselves with their own strength.