But loving children does not mean conniving at them. Living in this society, children will grow up one day and face all kinds of things independently. Therefore, it is necessary to master the methods of raising children and let them grow into people who can face and contribute to society independently.
I believe that many treasure moms and dads will encounter such a situation. Children at home are always disobedient and make mistakes again and again; Not keen on learning, his grades are in a mess, and he remains indifferent after repeated criticism; Always disobedient to do dangerous things or go to dangerous places, criticism is useless, and repeated education does not change. Under these circumstances, how should parents correctly treat and guide their children on the right track? Will children fight or not?
There is an old saying: "If you don't cut the jade, you won't be able to cut it;" People don't learn, they don't know righteousness. "
When children repeatedly make mistakes, stick to their own opinions, keep teaching and don't change, and criticism doesn't work, an appropriate "beating up" may be a good solution.
Li Meijin, a famous parenting professor, once said: "Children should fight." .
So under what circumstances can parents "hit" their children? Parents can appropriately "beat up" their children under the following circumstances:
If children make the same mistakes repeatedly, they are immune to the oral teaching and criticism of their parents, and their hearts are extremely stubborn. Children like to do some dangerous things or go to some dangerous places, such as sneaking into the pond to swim and playing with fire. When a child's behavior violates moral standards, even laws and regulations, or may develop into illegal and criminal behavior in the future. What should parents pay attention to when "beating" their children? 1, "hit" the child must not hit the weak parts of the child's body, such as the face or head. Don't use tools, such as rattan or shoes, or you will beat the child, and only you will regret it. It is best to spank, which is basically harmless to children.
2. While hitting the child, you should tell him why you hit him, and let him know what mistakes he made. You can't just beat and scold him unreasonably.
In this way, children may not fully know where they are wrong, or what kind of serious consequences their actions will cause, let alone how to correct them next time. Therefore, parents must tell the truth when punishing their children.
3. Beating children can assist other methods. For example, if a child doesn't write his homework carefully and doodles, he can be punished to rewrite it until it reaches the standard. In addition, punishment must be timely. Don't punish after a long time, or accumulate one-time punishment, which will not have good results.
4. Pay attention to maintaining the child's self-esteem when hitting the child. Don't scold your child, and don't say anything that hurts your child's self-esteem. If you hurt your child's self-esteem, it may make him feel inferior and alienate his parents. Don't hit the child in front of outsiders, it will have a bad influence on the child.
The purpose of educating children is to make them better and better stand in the complex society in the future. During this period, parents will encounter many doubts and problems, which may lead to improper education. Parents need to learn this compulsory parenting course to better educate their children.
Warm heart message
Educating children must recognize the difference between "beating" and "domestic violence" and must be clear.
Beating people-it is a child's excessive behavior. Parents severely punish him, not more than three times. This is to help children remember for a long time. Domestic violence-it is a problem with parents' behavior and words. The harm of domestic violence to children is not in the body, but in the heart, it will even destroy children's self-confidence, courage, cheerfulness and even distort their mentality. Children who grow up in a domestic violence environment for a long time will be devastated in their hearts, which will be an irreparable pain for their lives.