About Parents Educating Children 1: Educating Children
Children's education faces many problems. Is it stress? Is it a responsibility? Is it indulgence or connivance? We may have overlooked a lot. The children are no longer the clever and ignorant little angels they used to be. Their thoughts make us far behind, and their rebellious psychology makes us even more uncontrollable. Maybe we have to bear the bitter fruit we planted ourselves. A fall, a cry, a desire, a let go, a satisfaction. Many achievements have made different parents and different children.
Extensive knowledge and colorful life make us more competitive, more satisfied and more considerate "parental responsibility". Children cry less, have strong self-esteem, and their curious eyes are satisfied. However, frustration, failure and dependence make them stop living. They only know how to acquire, but never think about cherishing. Because habits weaken their ability to change the environment, they spend money lavishly, but never think about the source of money and education. It is also the only way for us to make our children become talents. Think about it, more methods, more exercise, more discipline and relaxation, so that they can experience the baptism of failure and the double test of success and joy in front of you. This is growth. Let them know more about themselves and care about themselves and others. Come on, let's work together!
The second thing about parents educating their children: actually, educating children is very simple.
In today's society, many parents are complaining how unruly their children are. Close communication with children's teachers on weekends found that children can be roughly divided into four categories: one is children who study well and have good habits; The second is children with average grades but good living habits, and the third is children with poor grades and poor living habits. We have a deep understanding of these three types of children, and found that the parents of the first type of children are highly educated and have good living and learning habits, while the third type of children are either left-behind children without parents or children from single-parent families. And the second kind of children, I don't think parents need to worry. In fact, he is in the majority.
In the process of communicating with the teacher, the teacher mentioned that some children already have a strong sense of comparison. I'm thinking, if parents don't express the idea of keeping up with the joneses intentionally or unintentionally in their daily life, how can children have such an idea? In my opinion, teachers should pay great attention to their words and deeds. After all, most of their contact with children is in the classroom, which should be the responsibility of parents.
First, parents should set an example, and your behavior will profoundly affect your children. I still remember when my children were in the first grade, I was still a TV fan, and I had to wait until prime time every day to watch the drama. This time is the time for my children to do their homework after supper. I called my child to do his homework and said that he was tired after a day's work and wanted to relax. The child said at the time, mom, I have studied all day and want to have a rest. My face turned red at that time. To tell the truth, isn't this child running around all day? So, since then, our family has stopped turning on the TV from Monday to Friday.
The second is to cultivate good study and living habits and grow up with children. Many people have a misconception that their jobs are relatively stable and there is not much room for improvement, so they spend a lot of time educating their children and often buy many books and CDs that they think are meaningful. I don't know, in fact, I am the best role model for children. You might as well read a book quietly as preach a hundred sentences to your children. In this way, not only will you increase your knowledge, but children will also fall in love with reading in your subtle way.
The third is to let children know the hard work of their parents to make money. At present, most families have only one child. As parents, we try our best to create good study and living conditions for our children. Some children have no idea about money at all, and only let their parents meet their requirements. I told our daughter from the beginning that if she didn't study hard, I would have to pay the sponsorship fee when she graduated from primary school. Although she is not very clear about the concept of a large sum of money, she still knows clearly whether I should give it to others or take her on a trip.
In fact, there are only two things to remember in educating children: first, our parents must cultivate good study and living habits and grow up with their children; The second is to have a sense of urgency and let them know that it is difficult for parents to make money, and parents can't accompany them for a lifetime.
Article 3 on Parents' Education for Children: Parents' Education for Children
There is no doubt that parents care about their children, but improper educational methods may have a multiplier effect. Parents' education for their children is a difficult problem to express clearly in words. This is a rich topic. Let's discuss the following:
Many parents always treat other people's children so well, but their own children can't, and that won't do either. In fact, we look at the problem from the wrong angle. We shouldn't compare what other children can do with what our children can't do. Isn't that what everyone often says? So we shouldn't just stare at what other people's children will do, so what should we do? I think first of all, we should listen to the children's voices, communicate with them more, and know what their personality is and what they like. We should give full play to children's own talents. Only what he really likes can he study it specially. We can't ask other people's children to know We just need to tap the potential of our children. If we do this, I think our children belong to others in the eyes of others.
Secondly, we should set an example for children, and the environment can also greatly affect their growth. In life, our every move is stared at by children. We are also children's teachers, and many things of children are on us.
I learned it here, so when children do something wrong, we shouldn't just blame them. We should first think about whether we have given our children the wrong life guidance. If so, then we should reason with him calmly, after all, we adults have done something wrong; If not, then don't blame him, because now we can proudly tell him how we did it, which not only sets up the image, but also reduces the child's resistance and accepts it better; After doing this many times, children will unconsciously be influenced by you and will follow your example in all aspects and develop in the right direction. We are not professional teachers, and professional courses are given to professional teachers, but we can give our children a good learning environment.
Finally, and most importantly, that is our communication with children. We are not only the parents of children, but also their friends. Why do you say that? When the child grows up, the first person to contact is actually us. I don't know if parents have found any problems. Children always look for their parents when they are very young, but in the process of growing up, they will stop looking for us, chatting with us and looking for their new friends. Why is this? That's because we put too much pressure on them. No matter what they say or think, we always feel immature and can't get recognition here. I once heard a saying: "No matter how old we are, in the eyes of our parents, we will always be children." So slowly, we have a generation gap with them, and we don't talk about everything as we did when we were young. In view of this, I think we should give children more praise. When children have any ideas to communicate with us, we should not directly deny them. It is good for children to have ideas. We can praise his idea. We can tell the child what are the shortcomings and feasibility of his idea by asking questions. In this question and answer, it not only deepened our feelings with children, but also improved the comprehensiveness of children's thinking. Only by giving children some compliments often will they be willing to communicate with us, otherwise even if you are their parents, there will be a generation gap with them. The generation gap is not born, but gradually arises in the life after tomorrow. When there is a generation gap or even conflict between your children and you, no matter what you say, your children will not be willing to contact. In this way, in our hearts, we will feel that our children are always inferior to others' children in everything, and we will scold our children more severely, forming a vicious circle.
In a word, family education is a knowledge, a complicated process and a great cause. Children are not always under our noses. We can't see children when they are at school, so we need to learn to communicate with teachers. I don't know if you have noticed that in many things, what teachers teach is the most irresistible. We should unite teachers to teach our children in accordance with their aptitude, so I believe that even if our children can't be great, they can be recognized by others.
Article 4 about parents' education for their children: serious little Tom
Three-year-old Tom likes snacks, carbonated drinks and all kinds of novel toys just like children of the same age. Mother also regards him as a child who has no sense of responsibility and can do nothing but eat and drink. However, an unexpected opportunity made her completely change this idea.
That year, Tom's family moved to a new city and Tom entered a new kindergarten. There will be a parent-teacher conference in kindergarten in two months, and Tom's mother is also invited. On the way to the kindergarten, my mother jokingly said to Tom Liu, "Son, my mother has not fully adapted to this city. In your kindergarten, my mother doesn't know anyone. Then you should help me. " Tom said solemnly, "No problem, Mom. I know all the teachers and children there, including mom and dad who pick up the children every day. " Mother saw his serious appearance and felt very fresh. She just smiled and didn't take it to heart. When he arrived at the kindergarten, Tom began to fulfill his promise. He accompanied his mother to the conference room responsibly, introduced the principal and other teachers to her seriously, and introduced every child in the kindergarten to her seriously. Finally, he told her the children's names and who their father or mother was. Then Tom took his mother to the sofa and brought her a glass of water. "Mom, you sit here first, I go to the bathroom. I'll be right back. " It is because Tom's mother inadvertently showed respect for Tom that Tom's sense of value and responsibility was inspired.
Comments: Parents often complain that their children lack a sense of responsibility. There are also some parents who think that responsibility is an adult's business. In fact, responsibility should be cultivated from an early age. A person, whether an adult or a child, will be proud only if he can get the love and respect of others. In the process of guiding and flying children's dreams, it is essential to believe that children's self-awareness and self-shaping ability are essential.
Article 5 about parents educating their children: I want to be Bill? Gates is second.
In an oral English class, the teacher asked the children to tell their dreams one by one in English. Some said, I want to be a nurse; Some said, I want to be an actor; Some said, I don't want anything now; A child named Bob said loudly, I want to be Bill? Gates is second. Someone whispered below: Can you do it? Whenever Bob talks about his ideal with his father, he is always full of energy and confidence. At this time, the father is also very willing to be a loyal listener and share his vision for the future with his children. Listen, my father will be moved by him in the end. Once Bob got only 69.5 points in an English exam, so that he was afraid to take out the test paper. Father didn't blame him when he knew. However, Bob was no longer interested in English for a long time. So, before going to bed every day, father and children lie in bed together and dream of each other. The father told his son that both father and mother were proud and happy that he had such a dream and believed that he would realize his dream. One day, Bob said, Bill, I must learn English well? Gates' English is not deceptive. Later, his father bought him an English extracurricular reading book, Bookworm, which he often read with, and encouraged him to write a short composition in English every day. After a period of persistence, his English level improved and he got full marks in the final English exam. After this incident, Bob was full of confidence in himself.
Comments: Almost every child has a good design for his future, although they don't know how difficult it is to realize their dreams. But it is undeniable that dreams have a great incentive for children's growth.
In fact, it doesn't matter whether the child's dream comes true or not. What's important is that only with dreams can children have expectations, thus enhancing their self-confidence. Even if the dream is not realized in the end, at least the child will have a good attitude and development space.