During my academic visit to Freiburg University in Germany, I lived in an apartment by the lake. Not far from the apartment, there is a small shaping with some facilities for children to play. Every time I pass by this place, I always see three or four children playing in Shaping. A lady stood beside her, staring at the children. Even if the child was covered with sand and the clothes were covered with sand, she didn't interfere. Another colleague from China couldn't help sighing: "Look at the sunshine on these children's faces, Lao Yang, which is hardly seen on children's faces in China". I feel the same way about it. My daughter goes to school in one of the best primary schools in Beijing. Although she is only 8 years old, her speech and expression on her face are not much different from those of adults.

Miss Kevin·Z: Children with sunny faces get unconditional love. Children with facial expressions similar to those of adults get conditional love, unconditional love and conditional love. To put it mildly, many parents in China don't love their children at all. They love themselves. They work hard to educate their children for their own face. They educate their children to vent the pressure and insecurity from society. They impose the values of quick success and instant benefit on their children, and let them accomplish the goals that their parents failed to accomplish. )

On sunny days, I often sit under the arbor of a cafe and observe the Germans on the lawn. Some people are playing volleyball, tennis and badminton, while others are playing football. Some people spread cloth on the grass and sit together in twos and threes. I don't know whether they are chatting or enjoying the sunshine, while others are having a barbecue. There is an unforgettable scene: there is a family playing football not far from me: husband, wife, big boy, little boy (about four or five years old). These four people are divided into two groups: a husband and a little boy, and a wife and a big boy. Although it was divided into two pairs, it was actually the husband and two boys playing. The wife just kicked one side and didn't have a game, but her eyes never left her husband and two children. The father passed the ball to his youngest son, and the eldest son grabbed it. The father was worried about kicking his eldest son, so the action was very light, and sometimes he deliberately made mistakes to let his eldest son grab the ball. The youngest son is brave, but his skill is not good. When he saw his younger brother running, he passed the ball to his father far away. What impressed me most was that the children were full of energy when playing, and the expression on their faces could be described by sunshine.

Out of curiosity, I went over to chat with the family. The man told me that both children are in kindergarten and take them out to play on weekends. I asked, "Don't you take your children to various classes on weekends?" The man looked at me with a puzzled face: "What class do you have?" I said, "For example, dancing, gymnastics, painting, piano, foreign languages, Olympics and so on. My daughter studied almost all the courses except Olympiad in kindergarten. " The man replied: "We prohibit preschool education here, and children are not allowed to teach professional knowledge during kindergarten. There is no similar training class in society."

Teacher Kevin·Z: To tell the truth, I have a dream that there is a clear law in our country that pre-school education is not allowed to impart professional knowledge and social forces are not allowed to offer any pre-school education content. We can't give our children a happy childhood of 12 years, but we can also give them a happy childhood of 6 years. What bothers me most is that the teaching content and progress of the first and second grades in most primary schools in China are unfair to those children who have not obtained professional knowledge before school. )

Originally thought that only kindergarten children were not allowed to learn professional knowledge, but later found that primary school children could not learn extra courses, even if their IQ exceeded their peers. Sandra from Cologne wrote: "My son is 7 years old this year. I asked the school teacher if I could teach him something extra, because he learned basic reading, writing and simple mathematical calculations at home when he was 5-6 years old. The teacher objected,' You should keep your children in sync with other children'. A week later, I went to see the teacher again and showed the child's high IQ certificate, hoping to get her understanding and support, but the teacher looked at me with a strange look, as if I were an alien. " The teacher further explained that the over-development of children's intelligence is not a good thing, because it is necessary to leave room for imagination for the brain. Too much knowledge will turn a child's brain into a computer hard disk. In this way, the child's brain will gradually become a storage and will not take the initiative to think.

Miss Kevin·Z: Think about the children who went to primary school in China in the 1970s and early 1980s. They have no pre-school education and no extra-curricular tutoring. There is a preschool for the transition, but many children don't go to preschool, because the teachers in grade 1-2 are full of kindness and patience, giving them a lot of time to adapt to the primary school. At that time, the basic education in China was not a big problem. At that time, education was "learning". What happened to our education in just twenty or thirty years! "Bad character is not the problem, but bad study is the big problem". In fact, it's not that we can't do a good job in education, but that the quick success and instant benefit in the whole social transformation period has created the "utilitarian heart" of education in China. Education is a kind of "utilitarian heart", which will be far away from the essence of education "love". How can there be a good education? After so many years of thinking and practice, I found that all kinds of problems in the social transition period are unshakable for us personally. For the sake of children, there is only one way "parents should really understand education", which is unfair to parents in China, but it is the only way in the transition period. So I have always said that China's parents are really not easy! )

Nevertheless, I still don't quite understand the practice of banning preschool education in Germany. In order to find out this problem, I specially consulted German educators, who referred me to the Basic Law. Open the Basic Law (Constitution) of the Federal Republic of Germany. Surprised me. Paragraph 6 of Article 7 clearly stipulates that the establishment of Vorschule is prohibited.

Teacher Kevin·Z: "I still don't quite understand the German practice of banning preschool education." This sentence shows how many parents in China are ignorant of education. )

I still don't understand why the German Constitution stipulates this, so I have to consult relevant education experts again. They told me that children's "only task" before primary school is to grow up happily. Because children's nature is to play, we should do things that are in line with children's nature and should not violate children's growth laws.

I thought only Germany had such strange rules. Later, I checked the situation in relevant European countries and found that they treat their children in the same way. For example, Hungarian legislation stipulates that kindergartens are strictly forbidden to teach children to learn to write, read and calculate. Kindergarten education is free.

Contrary to German and other European countries, children in China have basically completed the knowledge of the first grade of primary school during kindergarten. People have reason to worry that children in Europe lost to children in China at the starting line. In fact, such worries are unnecessary. Europeans generally believe that children have their own growth laws and should do corresponding things at corresponding stages. On the surface, China's preschool education and basic education are solid, but their imagination and thinking ability are destroyed, which leads children to form the habit of passively accepting knowledge and ignoring active thinking. Let's take a look at the incredible China: Chinese studies, Chinese, mathematics, dance, gymnastics, painting, piano, foreign languages, Olympics and so on. Some children in China have reached the level of the second grade before entering primary school. Chinese, simple mathematics, Tang poetry and Song poetry can recite dozens or even hundreds, but such education can not cultivate an outstanding talent, let alone a Nobel Prize.

(Miss Kevin·Z: It's a very simple truth that is well known in academic circles. The decisive factor of a child's success in society is not "knowledge" and "talent", but the level of children's non-intellectual factors. However, letting children acquire talents and knowledge in primary schools and kindergartens is the destruction of children's non-intellectual factors. In fact, what has always puzzled me is that China's parents don't understand this simple truth. Don't so many education experts understand this truth? )

Is this a racial issue? I'm afraid it's not that simple. Let's re-examine German education and see if their practices are worth learning from. At the same time, I hope that domestic educators will not be complacent, because what they have done today has actually destroyed China from generation to generation.

Miss Kevin·Z: I don't think it's alarmist, but I believe China will have a bright future. Then, in the transition period of "quick success and instant benefit", how should we actively deal with the situation that the current situation of the education system cannot be changed? This is a problem that every parent faces, including myself, and I have found the answer.

In fact, children are not afraid of being tired, suffering or not being understood. I know it's unfair to China's parents, but what can we do? I am also a parent, a parent who knows some education, and this is from the heart, because I am going to do this for my children. )

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