What are the disadvantages of intergenerational education? In today's life, many young people can't take care of and educate their children because of work, so they have to leave them to their parents. Let's introduce the disadvantages of intergenerational education!
What are the disadvantages of intergenerational education? 1 1. Spoiling children is easy to produce "greenhouse flowers".
The old man dotes on his grandson, unwilling to scold or fight. Many things are indulged in their free will, and many things are done instead of them. Such meticulous care can easily make children "flowers in the greenhouse".
Because this kind of children's self-care ability is gradually weakening, their adaptability to new things is also very weak, and they are very delicate and can't stand any grievances, which often cultivates children into a very overbearing character.
2. Old ideas are passed down from generation to generation.
The life of the older generation is different from that of the young people now. Many of their ideas can't keep up with the progress of the times, and they are often in a disjointed rhythm. At this time, if the elderly educate their children.
Then they will inevitably instill their ideas into their children's minds, and some of their habits and behaviors will be subtly passed on to them. Some old people are superstitious, which may make children superstitious.
3. Replace science with experience.
Old people are very experienced. They often say "I eat more salt than I walk", and they often tell their own experiences to educate their children.
However, today's society is a scientific society, and the experience of the elderly often collides with science. In this case, the disadvantages of intergenerational education are often highlighted.
What are the disadvantages of intergenerational education? 2. Disadvantages of intergenerational education.
1, spoil your baby too much and hinder your baby's self-growth.
Grandparents may not take good care of their children when they are young, because of the limitations of living and working conditions, it is easy for children to have a kind of psychological compensation.
The love for children and grandchildren is all concentrated on grandchildren, and the baby is pampered, too concerned, and everything is done for them, which leads to problems such as willfulness, strong dependence and low self-care ability.
2, causing family conflicts, leading to parent-child estrangement.
In the first few years of a baby's life, parents have a very important influence on him. After all, for a baby, parents are his most important relatives. If his parents can't stay with him, he will easily feel abandoned and leave a shadow in his heart.
In addition, the baby has lived with grandparents or grandparents since childhood, and is used to accepting their protection and accommodation, and may also develop some behavior habits that parents don't like.
When parents take over the baby within a certain period of time, or completely take over the baby from grandparents, they may be eager to reverse these so-called problem behaviors of the baby, and it is very easy for parents and babies to have antagonistic emotions.
This kind of opposition will make the baby more alienated from his parents and retreat to his grandparents. Therefore, grandparents and fathers can easily cause family conflicts because of the baby's education problems. If grandparents come forward to stop parents from "teaching" their grandchildren, this contradiction will be further aroused.
3. Stick to old ideas and hinder the baby's personality development.
Many grandparents are backward in their educational concepts and lack a correct understanding of the characteristics of their babies' psychological development. They may limit the baby's various exploration activities and put forward some requirements that are not suitable for his age, which invisibly binds him and leads to his lack of pioneering spirit.
In addition, many old people have aging knowledge, relatively rigid thoughts, rigid views on things, easy to get stuck in dust, and adopt an overly traditional way to educate their babies. Then, their backward education mode will affect the speed at which babies accept new knowledge, leading to a lack of creative thinking and divergent thinking consciousness.
Of course, there are also many ancestors who are old-fashioned because of their low level of education. They may unconsciously inherit some feudal dross that can't keep up with the trend of the times, which restricts the baby's thinking and hinders the baby's personality development.
Grandpa Conger has been engaged in middle school education until he retired, and he has been exposed to a lot of examples of adolescent mental health problems caused by improper family education methods. Therefore, after the birth of his granddaughter Kanger, Grandpa Kanger devoted his life-long accumulated experience to Kanger's early education.
Benefits of intergenerational education
1, the old man's mentality is relatively peaceful.
Young parents are often in a competitive environment and have great pressure to survive. It is easy to bring the tension at work to home, resulting in a less harmonious family atmosphere, bringing too much psychological pressure to the baby and hindering the baby's healthy and happy growth.
However, grandparents have been divorced from the fiercely competitive social environment, and their mentality is relatively peaceful. The elderly have the psychology of children.
This makes them especially like babies, and it is easier to integrate into the baby's game, and establish a harmonious relationship with the baby, which provides a very relaxed and harmonious psychological foundation for them to implement correct education.
2. Have more life experience.
Grandparents have rich practical experience in raising and educating babies, and also have a more accurate understanding of the development characteristics of babies at all stages, especially when babies are sick or encounter other problems.
They know better what to do, and they don't panic when they meet such trivial things as inexperienced parents. On the contrary, they are more calm.
This way of doing things by grandparents will give the baby more sense of security, and also give parents a kind of psychological support, which will play a very positive role in solving these problems.
3. Solved worries for young parents.
Grandparents' love for their grandchildren is irreplaceable by any child care institution or nanny. They can provide the best psychological support for the baby and give the baby enough sense of security. Their participation also laid a solid humanistic foundation for young parents to join the work.
It is particularly worth mentioning that the participation of grandparents makes up for the lack of father or mother in the family for those babies in single-parent families, and provides the baby with the object of gender imitation.
It also provides the baby with an opportunity to learn to get along with the opposite sex, invisibly giving the baby a correct and complete gender awareness education, which has far-reaching significance for the healthy development of the baby's sexual psychology.
In addition, grandparents are generally more patient, able to calm down and listen to the baby's voice and communicate with the baby more, so as to better understand and meet the baby's needs.
In addition, they have enough time and energy to contribute to the baby, which makes the baby have substantial protection in life care and personal safety. Not only that, the social experience and life perception accumulated by ancestors in long-term life practice also have a subtle positive impact on the growth of grandchildren.
4. Inherit excellent cultural traditions.
The Chinese nation has many excellent cultural traditions and virtues, which are of great significance to the sustainable development of China. Under the influence of western culture, these excellent cultural traditions and virtues are gradually disappearing or losing their original flavor.
The older generation will retain more of these traditional cultures and virtues. With their participation in educating their grandchildren, babies can not only be influenced by advanced culture, but also have the opportunity to better inherit these excellent traditional cultures and virtues.