Lin He has a gentle personality. She has never lost her temper with others and often helps people in need. So my daughter has always been very concerned about others since she was a child, so that people around her can't help but praise her. However, recent events have made Lin He begin to reflect on whether his "love education" for his daughter is correct.
He Lin found that her daughter was always depressed when she came back from school recently, and the new stationery she bought for her daughter always disappeared. Under He Lin's questioning, her daughter told He Lin that a girl in the class always grabbed her own things, and her daughter's new stationery was taken away by that girl. My daughter felt very wronged when others took what she liked, but she gave up the idea of taking it back when she thought that her mother usually taught herself to be patient, be friendly to others, have love and have good things to share with other children. After listening to her daughter's words, He Lin felt very sad. She doesn't know how much injustice her daughter has suffered where she can't see. She began to doubt whether she had educated her daughter correctly. Is this really good for your daughter?
Many parents should like He Lin to hope that their children can become kind and caring people, but excessive love will make others feel that their children are a "soft persimmon" and will make them suffer a lot of grievances and bullying. Therefore, parents should have a good proper limit when educating their children about love, and remember to tell their children that "kindness should also bring some edge."
Parents should pay attention to the following behaviors, which will make their children form a "soft persimmon" character and make them lose their ability to resist when facing injustice.
1. unprincipled humility
Many parents will educate their children to be more modest. Everything values peace, but no matter right or wrong, unprincipled humility will only hurt your children.
2. Excessive love education
Kindness and friendliness are good qualities of people. It should be one thing for a person to help others voluntarily without hurting himself or wronged himself. Many parents forget to teach their children to protect themselves when guiding their children to express their love.
3. "Strong" education
Many parents have fallen into a misunderstanding. Parents think that the stronger they are, the more obedient their children will be. Therefore, educating children always takes a condescending attitude and is used to using the threat of violence to solve problems. In the long run, children will form Nuo Nuo's passive personality and gradually lose the ability to resist injustice.
In order to better educate children and prevent them from forming a "soft persimmon" character, parents in these minefields must avoid it.