Ways to cultivate children's kindness 1. Let children know how to care about others.
In the process of children's growth, we should pay attention to cultivating their good feelings and let them learn to balance their own needs with those of others. Therefore, parents should always emphasize caring for others in front of their children, keep their promises, and affirm their children's concern and goodwill towards others. For example, when a child wants to give up a team task, let him understand his responsibility to his friends and team, encourage him not to give up easily, and learn to face and solve problems.
2. Create opportunities for children to learn to care and thank others.
Caring and thanking others is one of the ways to establish good interpersonal communication. Parents can let their children learn by their own example. Imitation? How to care about others and learn to express gratitude to those who care about him. Research shows that people who are used to thanking others tend to be more enthusiastic, tolerant, compassionate and tolerant, and happier and healthier. Therefore, don't let children feel that everything their parents do is taken for granted. Only by learning to thank your parents first can you thank others. Parents can also call their elders regularly and teach their children some sympathetic words.
3. Expand the scope of children's concern
Almost all children care about a small range of family and friends. Our challenge is to help children learn not to be self-centered, but to care about people outside this circle. Parents can give it a try and often ask their children about their school situation and their impressions of their classmates to ensure that their children maintain a friendly and grateful attitude towards everyone in their daily lives. When teachers and classmates are sick, let children take the initiative to call to express their condolences and encourage them to care for the disadvantaged.
Parents should be role models for their children.
Children will observe the behavior of adults they respect, thus forming moral values, so parents' words and deeds play a vital role in whether children can form correct values. If parents want to be role models for their children, they must be honest, fair and caring for others. Taking children to visit their relatives often can help them learn to respect their elders. Husband and wife should respect each other and establish good moral values? Models? .
5. Guide children to control destructive emotions
Anger, shame, jealousy or other negative emotions often weaken the ability to care about others, so self-control is an important link in shaping children's good character. Parents should tell their children that any emotion is normal and learn to deal with negative emotions in a constructive way. When children have negative emotions, parents should help them calm down, such as taking a deep breath. Then listen to the source of the child's negative emotions and help him divert his attention. Digestion? Negative emotion
Ways to cultivate children's kindness Part II 1. Infantile period: establishing emotional connection between parents and children
When the baby can't talk, parents can judge his needs from his different cries. This experience allows children to learn to understand and then know how to meet the needs of others. With the continuous improvement of children's intelligence, they are gradually able to judge and interpret other people's emotions more correctly. During this period, children should not only explore themselves and learn to control their emotions, but also learn to take care of the emotions of caregivers (parents) and seek emotional balance in one-on-one interaction.
When the child grew up, the mother found that the child began to recognize strangers and was no longer willing to be hugged by strangers. Even as long as mother is not around, she cries, and no one can coax him. When the mother came back and held him in her arms, the child burst into tears at once. Perhaps many parents don't understand this emotional growth process and are annoyed that their children are too clingy. If your child has separation anxiety, please hug him and let him know that his parents care about his feelings and love him very much. Because parents' acceptance of children's emotions helps children learn to interact actively with others, which is the foundation for laying a good mind for children.
2. From reading parents' emotions to feeling the family interpersonal environment.
The child's sympathy is very shallow, but he will automatically learn and distinguish his emotions from those of his mother and practice controlling his emotions. For example, the child suddenly cried when she observed her mother on the phone. Once the phone at home rings again, the child will think of the last experience and feel uneasy for his mother. He will stick to his mother or start crying.
In early childhood, children are curious about the relationship between their parents. By observing the interaction between parents, children begin to learn to build a model of behavioral interaction. The harmonious and intimate benign interaction between parents will make children feel the harmonious, beautiful and loving interpersonal environment within the family.
To cultivate a child into a kind person, the first thing is love, and love is first manifested in the feelings for relatives. Therefore, parents honor their elders at home, and they are friendly and help each other and treat each other like guests. In a warm and harmonious family, love will sprout in children's hearts.
3. Encourage children to identify emotions
Children's emotions are relatively strong, which are relatively primitive emotions, such as happiness, happiness, sadness and anger. Children need to learn these emotional words and have good vocabulary skills, which will help them understand their own emotional changes and identify others' emotions. Therefore, parents should teach them emotional vocabulary in early childhood, identify their own emotional changes, and enhance their sensitivity to others' emotions.
German children's "good education" comes first and they love animals. When children are just toddlers, many German families specialize in feeding small animals, such as dogs and kittens, so that children can take care of themselves, so as to learn to take care of the weak and weak. Kindergartens also keep all kinds of small animals, which are fed by children in turn. It is also required to observe their growth and development, play with them, and do a good job if possible? Feeding records? .
After entering school formally, children often have vivid descriptions of small animals in their compositions, and excellent chapters will be recommended by teachers as model essays and published in the wall newspaper. Besides, primary school students are keen to use their pocket money? Adoption? Animals in the zoo, or donate money to save endangered animals.
Second, be kind to life. A boy of 13 years old in Berlin treated the wound of a bird and later released it to nature. The little author recorded the process of love with a loving style, and this article won the honor of this school? Be kind to life composition contest? First prize. On the contrary, children who abuse small animals will receive all kinds of education: from criticism or discipline to punishment by adults. If you still don't repent, you may be sent to psychotherapy, because in the eyes of adults, this is more serious than the decline in academic performance? Moral issues? .
More and more Germans believe that children who like to abuse animals as children tend to be more violent when they grow up.
Third, poor and weak. Encouraged by the advocacy of adult society, it has become a common practice for children to help the blind and the elderly cross the road. There are also many people who solve problems for disabled students.
There was an incident in Frankfurt: a child rudely drove away a tramp who came to beg for food. The whole family attached great importance to this matter and held a family meeting seriously. Adults seriously and patiently enlighten children that vagrants enjoy human dignity despite their untidy clothes. This makes children understand the truth that it may be human nature to worship the strong, and sympathy for the weak is the embodiment of kindness. Later, the children offered to invite homeless people to their home, and the adults readily agreed.
Fourth, be tolerant of others. Shirley, a 7-year-old girl from Bonn, felt humiliated at her birthday party because of her friend Maeve's gratuitous confession, so she tried to take revenge to vent her hatred. But later, under the persuasion of her mother, she took the initiative to talk to Maeve, only to learn that Maeve was very depressed because of the sudden death of the rabbit she was feeding? Swearing? . So Shirley generously forgave Maeve, and the friendship between the two friends deepened.
On the baby? Good education? At that time, the Germans still attached great importance? Negative teacher? The role of. For those bullies who often appear in primary and secondary schools? Little bully? The school has a clear objection. It is reported that anyone who has been recorded twice does not repent? Little bully? The school immediately decisively rejected it and sent it? Juvenile delinquency department? Be disciplined.