Aggressive children often have a strong desire to win, and this mentality can be skillfully used to stimulate their learning enthusiasm. However, it is also necessary to pay attention to moderation to avoid the negative impact of children's excessive pursuit of victory and defeat. This paper will provide parents with ways to guide their children from four aspects.

Understand the child's inner world deeply

We need to have a deep understanding of children's inner world and stimulate their enthusiasm for learning. At the same time, we should also teach children an important truth: on the road of competition, friendship is always the first, and competition is only secondary.

Avoid unnecessary comparisons.

We need to avoid comparing children with their peers. This unintentional comparison will make children feel unnecessary pressure and fear that they will not meet their parents' expectations. Therefore, for the sake of children's mental health, we should stop this behavior immediately.

Learn to appreciate the advantages of others.

We should educate our children that everyone has his own bright spot. When communicating with children, you can guide children to reflect on themselves and find their own advantages and disadvantages. At the same time, when getting along with others, children should be encouraged to be good at discovering and learning the strengths of others, thus creating a positive growth environment.

Make good use of frustration education

In the face of strong children, we can use the frustration education method moderately to let them experience more failures. Through personal experience of failure, children can better understand themselves and understand that life is not always smooth sailing. In this process, parents can give their children some space and trust, let them face setbacks independently and cultivate their ability to resist setbacks.