First of all, we don't advocate family education such as filial sons under sticks. This concept is problematic. Parents should treat their children as equal people with independent personality. We should consciously realize that we should respect childhood. With respect for children's present life and respect for children themselves as human beings, many of our educational methods will naturally change.
Family is the cradle of children's life, the first place to receive education after birth, and parents are their first teachers. What parents bring to their children often determines what kind of person their children will become. People's cognitive style, behavioral habits and personality characteristics are all formed in childhood. Family is the preparatory school of the school, so we should advocate life education in family education and attach importance to the cultivation of children's character, personality, morality and habits.
In addition, as parents, it is most important to help children build self-confidence and help them find themselves. Parents should be able to understand their children and find them acceptable. Nowadays, many parents care about other people's children instead of their own. They regard other people's children as benchmarks and like to compare their advantages with their own shortcomings. This is very painful. Parents should learn to know their children accurately, follow their own nature and help them grow up.
Nowadays, many parents often use a standard-the standard of attending famous brands such as Tsinghua Peking University to raise their children. Cultivate children with a standard and an example. Most people are losers in the end. This is the expression of current social anxiety, and it is a problem with our social evaluation system. Many people regard going to a prestigious school as a model of success for their families, parents and children, and I think the best education is to help children become themselves. Let children do what they want to do, learn what they want to learn, and let everyone find themselves and become a better self in order to be happy. Of course, these are not so good to evaluate but a subjective experience. The lives of truly happy people are different. They all have different lives.
In the new education reform, there is an action called "one thing a month", which requires children to do one thing every month and cultivate good habits. For example, learn to eat this month. Eating has many habits to cultivate, not only etiquette but also many things related to habits. For example, if you learn to walk, you will have habits. Of course, there are many normative things behind habits. We say that not running a red light means obeying the rules, and obeying the rules is a habit. Psychological research found that a good habit needs 2 1 day of continuous training, and families should help children develop good living habits.
Finally, family education is a long process. As parents, we must have enough patience to supplement ourselves and educate our children.