For a while, I tried to deal with the child's small temper coldly, but I didn't expect to go too far and become cold violence. It took me more than two months to make up for the harm I caused to my children.

The first influence of cold violence on children: children will discuss with me when they no longer encounter anything. Although they look more independent, the disguise of appearance can't fill their inner desire for maternal love.

During that time, it happened that I gave birth to Bauer. After a hard day, I have no experience to worry about naughty Dabao after school. I let her do whatever she wants, sometimes nagging, and more often I just ignore her. Later, I thought that Dabao's series of actions might just be to attract my attention, and my ignorance became her sad reason, thinking that her mother had a baby and she was redundant.

Later Dabao didn't tell me anything. When I asked her what was interesting in kindergarten, she was more calm than her peers. Having nothing to say, she went to do her homework.

At first, I was complacent about Dabao's rapid growth, but later I was not so optimistic.

The second influence of cold violence on children: children have nightmares in the middle of the night shop, probably because they subconsciously feel that they are not recognized by their mothers and feel panic.

At that time, although Bauer was born, Dabao slept with me, so Dabao began to talk in his sleep at night or cried badly. Get up in the morning and ask her what dream she had, but she doesn't want to say. After a long time and more times, I began to worry and asked the kindergarten teacher for information.

Of course, all this is in vain. Finally, I turned to our host and asked my husband to chat with Dabao. I can't accept my husband's feedback. He said that Dabao said that her mother didn't love herself when she gave birth to Bauer and kept giving her a cold face. When she made a mistake, she didn't even bother to scold.

I was speechless for a moment, and then I came into contact with a parent-child course of online English training. My husband and I discussed it, signed up for the course and accompanied her to learn singing and dancing every day. It was not until the end of the summer vacation that my family Dabao recovered to be as close as before.

Domestic cold violence not only affects adults, but also directly and obviously affects children. Don't leave an indelible childhood shadow on your child because of your temporary fault.