I'm almost the same. Sometimes, in the face of parents' unreasonable troubles, I can ignore it a little. Squeezing toothpaste is really your mother's fault.

If you want to change your mother, maybe through colleagues or others. This is not easy to do, so it is conservative to ignore and compromise, because you obviously can't compete with her at this stage. Besides, you can be independent as soon as possible. The sooner you become independent, the less bound by your parents. You can use actions to prove that you are no longer a child and gain equal status with your mother. Then you can talk to your mother in an equal manner.

Sometimes parents are not necessarily right. Do what you think is right, even if you take a small loss or take a detour, it doesn't matter If you know that your parents are wrong, please stick to your own ideas and even argue with them with a tough attitude.

But one more thing, what children owe their parents can never be repaid, so even if they are independent and hate their mothers, they should at least fulfill their obligations as children.